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After watching Wife's Romantic Travel 2, every couple is busy spreading dog food, but Bao Beier and Bao Wenjing's "dog food" is very special.
Bao Beier took his wife Bao Wenjing back to the small house rented fourteen years ago, which provoked Bao Wenjing to cry bitterly.
This five-square-meter house is small and crowded, but it is full of countless beautiful memories of these two young couples who just graduated fourteen years ago.
At the beginning, in this small house: there was no elevator, no heating, no bath, and you had to beat cockroaches with your bare hands.
Although poor, Bao Wenjing has to work three jobs every day to support her husband's dream of being an actor. She works as a coach in the gym during the day, works in a beauty salon at night, and distributes leaflets at the subway station after work, which almost bears all the living expenses of the two.
At first, no matter how difficult it was, Bao Wenjing came with Bao Beier. Fortunately, the girl finally survived the difficulties and obstacles, and now she laughs like a flower.
For this matter, some people are particularly moved and feel that their efforts will eventually pay off. The persistence of the girl when she was young finally won her a better life for the rest of her life.
However, some people think that Bao Wenjing is too stupid, and his prime of life is on a man. If he is not careful, he will lose the game. Because, many girls who accompany men to suffer hardships may not be with him when he succeeds.
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A reader told me that she said her husband had a hard time when he was young, but in middle age, his life fell apart.
It is said that men become bad when they get rich, but she didn't believe it at first. I survived all the hardships before, but I didn't know that she was not the one who shared the joys and sorrows with him.
She and her husband used to be college classmates and attended prestigious schools, but their families were very ordinary. After graduation, I rented a small house of more than ten square meters in the village in the city, and the two met to make a name for themselves in the big city.
Although ambitious, life is particularly hard.
In the most difficult time, two people will quarrel over five yuan for electricity and a few cents for food. But after reconciliation, they will hug each other and imagine a bright future.
Later, her husband started a business. With his cleverness and ability, the company operated smoothly. Two people live well, bought three cars, and the house is quite luxurious.
She has long since stopped working and stayed at home as a housewife, but the relationship between husband and wife is getting colder and colder.
After her husband became the boss, I don't know how many little girls she secretly contacted. As for what happened, she didn't care. She always felt that after all, she had two children, and her husband dared not mess around openly.
Who knows, she still underestimated all this.
In 1997, Xiaosan was young and beautiful, wearing a famous brand, which was what she dreamed of in those years. Xiaosan's confidence and charm are the youth she can never go back to.
She spent the most precious ten years with a man.
Finally, the reader said that her husband was going to divorce him, and she was unable to fight mistress. I don't think about anything now. I just hope to get custody of one of the children after the divorce.
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There is a good saying: you don't bully the poor, I don't bear the burden.
It is said that when a man is young, women should not abandon his poverty, and accompany him to suffer hardships and struggle together. And when a woman is old and becomes a dross wife, a man should never give up.
The reason is simple, but in real life, when a woman really becomes a "wife of dross", the result is often not as good as expected.
Many people in Zhihu ask: Do you want to suffer with boys?
Gao Zan's answer is "no".
They say that there are many people who can bear hardships, but few people are willing to live quietly with you after success.
When you are young, you can accompany a man to suffer. I just don't know if the person who will share happiness with him after suffering with him will be himself.
Taking youth as a bet, of course, many women are afraid of losing and all their efforts are in vain.
As the line in the movie "Later Us" said: "Later us, we had everything, but we didn't", which is a particularly realistic problem.
The youngest and most beautiful years for many women are also the poorest years for a boy.
Some men are really "potential stocks", but once they get rich, they want to change their wives and find a mistress. There are many such men in the entertainment circle, and there are too many such cases in life.
Once this kind of man is rich and promoted, he will look down on his original wife and feel that he is very successful and attractive. His wife is old and yellow, and she is often surrounded by bees and butterflies. It is inevitable that she will be confused.
Buy a famous brand for Xiao San, buy a luxury car, take Xiao San around the world, and don't give her a good look when she returns home.
He has long forgotten that the original match was once young and beautiful, and she didn't say that he left you so poor when he was young.
To put it bluntly, it is four words: ingratitude.
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The cousin who is also a "wife" has a different result.
When I was young, my uncle was a wage earner who had just graduated from junior high school, while my cousin, a little girl who had just arrived at a gas station, was beautiful and pursued, but she just followed my uncle, a poor boy.
When my cousin came home with my uncle, she was shocked by the "junk" of his house.
The house is a miscellaneous courtyard, and several families live together, so the henhouse and the human room are not clear. The family is really poor, only uncle and his grandmother live at home.
Grandma is embarrassed to meet such a "guest" as her cousin, probably just to make her laugh.
However, my cousin doesn't dislike my uncle who has nothing. Usually, my uncle works at the construction site, and my cousin delivers meals. Later, my uncle said that he wanted to do clothing business, and my cousin also supported one hundred.
At that time, there was no logistics, and the goods used for business needed to be transported by manpower, but it still cost money to hire people to help. After knowing my uncle's difficulties, my cousin volunteered to act as a labor force and went to other provinces to purchase goods with my uncle.
In this way, two people sweating out of the factory, carrying dozens of pounds of goods on the train. Afraid of losing any goods, my aunt and uncle slept on loaded sacks and took a 20-hour train back to their destination.
This run is eight years.
In their early forties, my cousin and uncle finally opened a factory, also had their own online shop, saved a rich family business and had a pair of children. Cousin is bitter and sweet, and the husband and wife are more loving and cherish the hard-won happiness than before.
My uncle told everyone that the most correct thing he did when he was young was to marry my cousin, a very good girl, very capable and optimistic. The point is that he feels that his family is not poor.
My aunt's life is not as good as my uncle's affection and righteousness.
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Murphy said: "The two people I admire most are a woman who disliked her husband's poverty when she was young, and a man who never left his wife when he was old."
Not abandoning his wife is the embodiment of a man's most basic morality and conscience.
After Bo Huang became famous, he said in the program that his wife was his patron. Bo Huang, once poor and dependent on his wife, has now become a multi-billion-dollar winner.
But he didn't forget his wife who accompanied him through hardships. He said: "Xiao Ou accompanied me through the most difficult days. Now that I have a good life, I can't give it to her. "
At the beginning, you accompanied me to suffer hardships, and now I want to share all the sweetness with you. This should be a man's responsibility and responsibility.
In fact, most girls who suffered with men when they were young did not calculate that men were all "potential stocks" and did not really seek great wealth, but came from a primitive driving force, that is, a simple love.
It seems normal, but you don't know that she secretly lost her youth, resisted all kinds of temptations and gave up a bright future ... so that she can spend the most difficult time with you wholeheartedly without regrets.
What she wants most is that she is old and ugly, and you are still with her.
Stick to our original wishes and remember our mission. If a girl is willing to fight with you when you are poorest, how can you bear to let her down and let her lose?