There are also taboos and rules in the hierarchy and hierarchy. A new wife cannot eat at the same table as her father-in-law, mother-in-law and husband. When the elders eat, the daughter-in-law will serve. Otherwise it will be regarded as disrespectful and unfilial. Grandpa and uncle are not allowed to joke with nephew and daughter-in-law. My nephew and daughter-in-law are not allowed to show their arms and legs in front of my uncle. In the past, Manchu women's cheongsam was long enough to cover the instep and the sleeves were long enough to the back of their hands, which was very different from the short-sleeved cheongsam now.
Manchu people have the fashion of respecting the elderly. When young people meet their elders, they should stand with their hands down and answer their questions kindly. If someone complains about their parents, their children must stand up and answer. The old man asked Xiao An for three days and Da An for five days. Please show your respect. Men have "greetings", "beating a thousand children" and "kowtowing". "Greeting" means to retire and say hello. "Sword" means to please Daan, also called "kneeling on one leg", and Manchu means "Ella talami", that is, first quickly brush off the sleeve head, bend the left leg forward, squat down the right leg, hold the knee with the left hand, droop the right hand, and lean forward slightly with the head and body. "kowtow ceremony", that is, kowtow, kneel three times or six times, New Year "must be four times, kneel three times, hold your head high and hold your chest high, if you obey. If you respect your elders, I wish them good words, but you must get up and knock them, otherwise you can't afford it "("Liu Lulve "Volume 4).
Kneel three times and knock nine times to the gods, ancestors and emperors. Women's etiquette is different from men's, and there is a kind of "squat ceremony", commonly known as "semi-squat", that is, standing with feet parallel, hands on knees, bow-shaped, knees slightly bent, like semi-squat. When women meet each other on weekdays, they caress their forehead with their right hand and nod in worship, commonly known as "caressing their temples", that is, caressing their eyebrows, forehead and temples three times, and then nodding their heads visually.
When women meet, the ceremony of holding hands is commonly known as "Lala ceremony", which is different from the visiting ceremony of Han women. Reunion after a long separation, and then holding hands to greet, is a gift from the closest person. When the younger generation met the elder, they held his waist with both hands, and the elder caressed his back with his hands. The old couple had a "head-to-head ceremony" when they met. When we meet again after a long separation, the wife comes forward and holds the old man's chest with her head. The old man stroked his wife's head or neck several times.
Manchu people, when they meet strangers on the road, should bow and ask "Saiyin" (Manchu, good meaning); If you ride a horse, get off the horse and flash on the side of the road to let the elders go first. The elders also politely said, "Thank you, brother, please get on the horse first" and let the young people get on the horse and go ahead.
Daughter-in-law has more respect for in-laws. She should be dignified and respectful, pack cigarettes for her in-laws three times a day, stand and wait on her three meals a day, and send face washing water and foot washing water in the morning and evening. The new wife can't eat on the kang in the first year. Don't wear short clothes in front of your in-laws, and don't scold your children loudly. When the daughter-in-law goes out, she will pack cigarettes for her in-laws and say, "Please ask grandma and my mom to look after the house." When the guests come, the daughter-in-law should wear an apron and listen to her mother-in-law on the kang. Every time she shouted "daughter-in-law wants to promise", she went to work. Even if the daughter-in-law is very old, she should be respectful in front of the younger generation.
Manchu people have the custom of attaching importance to their sister-in-law. Unmarried Manchu girls have a high status, with in-laws sitting on the table, sister-in-law sitting on one side, and daughter-in-law standing by and serving carefully.
Manchu people are generous, hospitable and trustworthy. In Manchu-inhabited areas, some people try to find the owner when they find something on the road, and if they can't find it, they lose it. There is a habit of being ashamed of stealing money from others. As the saying goes, "neighbors will help when they are in trouble", and it is common for rural neighbors to get together for rice and firewood. Lending to each other, no need to sign a contract, only by verbal agreement, abide by faith.
In the past, there were few hotels in the country, and passers-by had to find a house to live in. The host family warmly entertained him, and he naturally stayed after eating and drinking. Because Manchu people have one room and three kangs, they often have one room and one household, and men and women don't shy away from each other. However, it is polite for guests to lie down with their hostess and clothes on their backs when they are asleep.
The next day, the guests went on their way, leaving no reward, just giving the host a "shoulder gift" to express their gratitude. If passers-by enter the room and the host is not at home, you can cook and eat by yourself, clean up after dinner, put things back, and bring grass in front of the door when you leave. The grass will be slightly in the direction you want to go. The host will feel honored to come back.
In Manchu families, there are sacrifices or festivals. If you want to kill animals and eat meat, you should invite your relatives and friends to visit and let them sit on Nankang. Family members should give meat to their elders. The meat is boiled in white, and salt is not allowed. Especially tender and delicious. Guests eat with a blade, with salt, sauerkraut and sauce. Guests kowtow to the host when they enter the door, turn around and sit down to eat meat, and are not allowed to thank and wipe their mouths after eating, otherwise it is disrespectful to the host.
Manchu traditional houses are generally divided into three rooms: west, middle and east, with the gate facing south. The west room is called the upper room in the west, the middle room is called the hall, and the east room is called the lower room in the east. There are three health in the west, namely, south, west and north. Xikanggui, Beikangda, Nankang Small. Visitors live in Xikang, elders live in Beikang, and younger generations live in Nankang.