1. Smile
"Many studies show that smiling (even pretending) can regulate your mood and make you feel safe and relaxed." Nancy Etkov, a clinical lecturer at the School of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, said. Don't believe it? Bite the pencil sideways with your teeth to imitate the smiling muscle expression, and then see if it works.
Accept a compliment
If someone praises you, please smile and thank you. Don't be modest and don't explain too much. "It feels good to be praised in person, and there is no need to modify it." Judith S. Baker, director of the Baker Cognitive Therapy and Research Association, said. Although modesty is a virtue of China people, accepting praise can make people happier.
Lose the traditional impression
If a woman realizes that doing something is a man's specialty, the result will often be very bad. There is an interesting test. At first, women could handle math problems well, but when they were told that men were good at math, these women didn't do very well. What this story wants to tell you is to get rid of the traditional ideas in your mind before you start a new project.
4. Stop nagging
Marshall Goldsmith, the author of Curse, said that when people lack self-confidence, they tend to complicate simple things. "Should I do this? Should I do that? " Stop nagging about making a decision. The big decisions you make will make you feel stronger and more fulfilled.
5. Improve skin texture
Makeup artist MallyRoncal reminds us that there are four areas on a person's face that will reveal your age secret, namely, the inner corner of the eye, the outer corner of the eye, the nose wing and the corner of the mouth. A little concealer can make you look more beautiful.
6. Keep learning.
Keep learning, such as a new foreign language and new cooking skills. The better you become, the more confident you will be, and not only when you do this, but always full of confidence.
self-examination/introspection
Research from the University of South Carolina shows that people who meditate five days a week are more likely to accept themselves. Steps: After sitting down, concentrate on adjusting your breathing, then think about yourself or something else and stick to it for 5 minutes every day.
Stop apologizing
How many times a day do you have to say "I'm sorry"? Try not to say meaningless "sorry" for 24 hours, although sometimes it is purely polite. Baker said that when people feel unsafe, they often say sorry. Force yourself to stop this behavior, and you will be more sure of yourself.
9. Smells fresh
This method is strange but effective. "The smell of green apples and cucumbers can effectively reduce anxiety," Allen, founder of SmellTaste Treatment and Research Foundation, told us. Spraying some perfume of this flavor on your wrist and smelling it when you feel stressed can effectively relieve the pain.
10. Let the skin catch a breath.
Sleep is very important to reduce skin problems, and those skin problems such as dullness, dark circles and roughness are not unrelated to sleep quality. Amy wexler is the author of The Connection between Heart and Beauty. She reminds readers that sleep can reduce the damage caused by years of traces and stress.
1. Leave the mirror.
If women spend too much time on appearance, they will be unhappy. Of course, we don't mean that you don't have to care about your appearance, but that caring too much will distract you from other things in life.
12, tall and straight
This is a compulsory course for Victoria's secret supermodels. No matter how hot their bodies are, they always stay alert. "When I work with them, the first thing I tell them is to tuck in, hold out my chest and lift my hips." CyDuke said (she is the author of KacyDukeFitness and ShowItLoveWorkout). It's not easy. It's tiring to keep a straight posture all the time, but it takes effort to become beautiful.
13. Always encourage yourself.
Set yourself some small daily goals, not distant big goals. You can do this by listing what you have done instead of what you haven't done yet, which will make you feel more fulfilled, and then stick to it and accomplish more goals.
14. Give yourself some color.
Many people (especially men) think that tanning looks healthier, although excessive sun exposure may be harmful to health. Roncal suggested adding some tanning products to the emulsion to make yourself look full of vitality and not worry about the damage caused by the sun.
15. Give up junk food
Choose vegetables and fish. These healthy foods can make you feel good, because they can make you feel better about yourself.
16. Recover from failure
Failure is inevitable, so be prepared to face it at any time. You need to tell yourself that you may make some wrong choices and you can't do everything perfectly. The fastest way out of failure? That is to focus on the next goal.
17. Instant refreshments
The quickest way to make you look fresh is to remove aged horniness and dead skin. You can ask a doctor for some 20% salicylic acid, or DIY a yogurt honey mask at home. Full-fat yogurt is rich in lactic acid, while honey can moisturize the skin, resist bacteria and diminish inflammation. This mask can make the skin more tender.
18. Sweating heavily
Even if you can only go to the gym once a week, stick to it. This will make your body feel more energetic.
9. change your hair color
A study by Nottingham Trent University shows that women who dye their hair are more confident at work. "After dyeing my hair, I hope to be promoted and dare to challenge my colleagues and bosses." But don't worry, it won't overload you.
20. Making mistakes is not terrible.
"Other people are more forgetful than we thought," said Mark Leary, a professor of psychology and neurology at Duke University. Don't worry if you accidentally wrestle in public, or say the wrong thing on impulse, or accidentally put your skirt in your underwear. Others won't remember these mistakes for more than 3 minutes.
2 1. Imagine someone like you.
If you think so often, you will feel less nervous when you walk into a room full of strangers.
2. Try your best to exercise.
The ache of the body after exercise will make people feel stronger. Fitness coach Duke said: "When my students are exhausted, they will feel better!" When others are exaggerating how hard they work, you can proudly say that you work harder than her (and you survived)!
23. Build positive beliefs.
Do not allow yourself to have the idea of "feeling that you are not good at a certain sport". The subconscious will make you really can't do it. Instead, you should learn to hypnotize yourself and tell yourself that you really want to learn a new language and start practicing again, so that you will enjoy it more.
24. Treat sweaty hands.
If the hand sweat is serious, you can seek the help of a doctor for treatment. So you don't have to be afraid to shake hands with others, and it's much easier to deal with strangers.
25. Put away your wallet.
Organize your wallet once a week. This is the suggestion of Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project. Organize receipts, business cards and waste paper. Such a small thing can make you feel that you are in control of your life.
6. Don't be jealous.
Stop being jealous, it will make you feel more insecure. Ask yourself what kind of success you want to achieve. Do people really need to be the most attractive, interesting or rich people? Leary said. In fact, we seldom need to be (and can't be) a perfect person.
27. Please take down the small size.
Using hot perfume with flowers will make you feel thinner than you really are. Usually, men think that women who wear perfume are lighter than they really are. Hirsch explained that if you think your weight affects your self-confidence, remember to use some perfume of this flavor to help you reduce your worries.
28. Make eye contact
It is a habit for a truly confident person to look directly into the eyes of others when talking to them. Others can't see the sense of security from your words and deeds, and they will naturally find your uneasiness.
29. Remember the good things
Think back to the wonderful compliments that others have given you in the past few weeks and record them, and then review them when you doubt yourself in the future.
30. Talk more
Baker said, talk to strangers more. Impressing others in cafes, planes and queues will make you more confident in yourself.
3 1. Stop procrastinating.
Delaying the establishment of self-confidence can do great harm. Baker said that if you want to escape from a nightmare task, you can start with small things. Once you have done it, you will feel that the big task is not so terrible.
32. Apply lipstick.
A survey by Kanebo Cosmetics Company in Japan shows that makeup can make women feel that they have changed a lot. When women see their more confident image, they will adjust their words and deeds to match their confident appearance.
Become a volunteer
Many studies have proved that people who volunteer usually feel better about themselves.
34. Don't be listless.
Not only your manners, but also your thoughts. According to a recent study by Ohio State University, slouching at your desk will prevent you from having positive thoughts about believing in yourself.
35. Tell yourself you are still young.
Telling yourself that you are younger than your actual age makes you look younger. A university study shows that those who keep feeling young have more confidence in their cognitive ability in the next 10 year.
36. Donate clothes you don't wear.
This not only helps others, tidies up the wardrobe, but also gives you a sense of accomplishment.
37. Don't be bothered by slogans.
Research from the University of New Brunswick in Canada confirms that if you are an inferiority complex person, repeating the slogan "I am a lovely person" will make you feel worse, because you will subconsciously say "No! I am not! " So, throw away those slogans and spells, they are really useless.
38. Be grateful.
Write a thank-you letter to your parents, or call a friend who invited you to lunch. People who know how to express gratitude are more tolerant of themselves.
39. Blow your hair
MarkTownsend, a hair stylist at new york Salon, said, "I always blow guests' hair from the front. Once a person sees that his hair is blown well, his next behavior will change-his shoulders will relax and his posture will be light. These are all signs that they feel great.
40. Walk more.
Girls who walk 3500 more steps (about half an hour's exercise) at least three days a week will be more satisfied with their personal appearance. The researchers found that the more women walk every day, the more satisfied they are with their bodies.
4 1. Don't be too ambitious.
It is said that the happiest people in the world are Danes, because they have correct goals and lofty but unattainable ideals. So, being ambitious is a good thing, but being too ambitious may make you feel depressed.
42. Try new sports.
Try a new sports meeting to make you feel better. No matter what sport it is, self-confidence comes from constant trying, not just the result of success.
43. Imagine that you never existed.
It sounds morbid, but if you imagine how other people's lives would change if you didn't exist, you will find your own value.
Imagine that you have succeeded.
Suppose you are challenging an impossible task, and imagine in your mind that your performance is perfect. Experts say it is more likely to win in real life.