Many women are eager to enter the marriage hall, looking at their sisters, who are good wives and mothers, thinking that they are going to be brides soon. Finally, after waiting hard, I ushered in my married life, but many people will be "picky" about their married life and begin to miss the life when they are single. So, what kind of mentality should women maintain after marriage to make themselves happy? 1, it is better to think than to improve yourself. The son accidentally found a diary of her husband's past and learned about her husband's previous relationship with his lover. From then on, she interrogated her husband every day and tortured each other, and both sides were very painful. Many women often doubt the loyalty of their husbands or boyfriends and spend a lot of energy on thinking. The time of life is limited. How much time do we have to really think about our life, work and entertainment? Is it worth spending so much time thinking about people and things that are irrelevant or unchangeable? It is better to pay more attention to improving one's own quality, torment oneself with mental exhaustion and haggard appearance, and improve oneself. 2. Qin Fei became a full-time housewife after she got married. Her husband is busy at work and has no time to accompany her. She felt more and more depressed. After marriage, many women focus on their husbands and children. They don't strive for progress and gradually alienate themselves from the outside world. When her husband's career develops and her children grow up, she will become a "redundant" person. Dedication is a woman's virtue, but if you don't consider your future, career and hobbies at all, you will soon lose your professionalism. 3. Learn to create happiness by yourself. Kohane's husband used to take care of her, but after several years of marriage, her husband forgot their wedding anniversary and her birthday, which made her particularly sad. In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is not static, but developing and changing. From romance to reality, from flowers to fruits. Your husband used to send you cards, but now you should consider earning a house and a car for your family. Women should consider creating their own happiness instead of waiting for others to give them happiness. Women can go shopping, fitness, travel, socialize and study by themselves, making themselves happier and affecting their husbands' happiness. 4. Don't isolate your husband with love. Ling Lin used to be loved by her husband. Later, my mother-in-law moved in and shared her husband's love with another person. She felt psychologically unbalanced and had to struggle for breath everywhere. In fact, some smart and wise wives are particularly kind to their husbands' ex-wives' children, and as a result, they win the love of both husbands and children. You know, competing with my husband's closest family will probably upset his love balance in the end. 5, don't let yourself become a woman with a broken mouth. Xiaomei's husband casually puts things around and doesn't pay much attention to the details. Xiaomei can't tolerate it and must transform him. So the husband doesn't like going home more and more, and the wife complains more and more, which becomes a vicious circle. In fact, the wife did a lot of housework, but the credit was offset by nagging. The husband was not only ungrateful but disgusted. The wise choice is: 1, and your word is broken; 2, two people do it together; Leave him alone and let him do it himself. In a word, we should not demand perfection in everything, but turn a blind eye. 6. Be alert to the mother whose maternal love becomes autocratic, and take more responsibility for educating children. However, many personality characteristics of women have affected children's psychological development. For example, carefully limiting children's sensory function and organizational ability; Because of hard work, we have to arrange it, which leads to poor hands-on ability and self-care ability of children; Sensitive and nervous about the child's body and study, it is easy to make the child nervous; Babbling makes children lose self-confidence and their own values ... This overprotective and overprotective maternal love has actually become autocratic, which will seriously affect the healthy development of children's psychology. It is not enough to treat children with love, but also with scientific knowledge and methods. Married life is a collection of trifles. Getting married means being prepared to "sacrifice" ourselves, because we can't get something for nothing, and a happy marriage depends on our hardworking hands. After marriage, women will be less nagged by their husbands and more considerate of each other, and happiness will not be far from them.