A few days ago, "Still Husband and Wife" finally ended, and the characters in the play also had a happy ending according to the audience's preferences. This drama is typical, because it covers almost all the problems that will arise after marriage, so I also think while watching it.
It is really not easy for two people to meet in the world and then know each other and fall in love. If they are destined to get married, it is worth cherishing. But some people are like this, enjoying the sweetness of love, but scratching their heads because of the trivial matters of marriage, which leads to the two people going left and right after the outbreak. I want to analyze the contradiction between four pairs of families, and how to keep this hard-won love when entering the marriage, and how to make the marriage stand the test of time and trivial things.
First, Lin Xiao &; Tang Jian
Lin Xiao and Tang Jian were divorced once. At the remarriage ceremony, they announced another happy event: they had a child! Then a series of things happened, but finally the couple came to Africa for the second time:
1, when the child was born after marriage, it was found that both mother-in-law and mother were unable to take good care of the child. After hiring many unreliable nannies, they decided to go home and take care of the children alone. The question of who goes home ultimately depends on Tang Jian's salary, not Lin's salary. Men go home to take care of their children, while women work outside to support their families.
Marriage is different from love. Marriage is a family matter, especially if you have children in a few years after marriage, there will be a series of housework. You should learn to share and balance the life and work of two people. Most men are competitive, even if the salary is not as good as that of women, they can't lose their jobs. A man who goes home as a father will be upset because he has lost his original work circle and work aura, and there will be a fault when he returns to society in a few years. If both husband and wife don't want to go home, it is better to find parents or professional nannies to take care of the children. In fact, children are easy to grow up. By the age of three or four, they can basically be sent to kindergarten, and the tasks of parents can be brought to a stage, and the tasks that need to be done to take care of children will be greatly reduced. )
2. When encountering various problems in marriage, Lin Xiao's attitude is very strong, and he doesn't know how to show weakness, which leads Tang Jian to stay away from her step by step.
Spoiled women are the best. Learn to show weakness and coquetry. After all, home is a place of love, not a place of reason. Outside, a woman can be a professional, and when she comes home, she is his wife. She can sit down and talk about any problem, not command and blame, not overwhelming. )
3. Tang Jian was kind and soft-hearted, and unconditionally helped Qin, a neighbor with marital problems, to deal with various problems, which led to the deepening of misunderstanding between husband and wife.
If a third person appears in the process of getting along with two people, no matter who this person is, no matter how pure the motive is, you should tell each other. Solve problems together instead of being a hero. After marriage, what a man should do most is to be the hero of this woman in front of him, instead of flying around like Spider-Man to save other A's, B's, C's and D's. Communicate at any time if you have any questions, don't hide them, but also learn to listen and give each other a chance to explain. )
4. Tang Jian chose to accompany Lin Xiao in the process of giving birth. As a result, he fainted because of blood disease. After that, every couple's life was always unsuccessful because of their thrilling connection with the operating room. Because of emotional reasons, he never talked to his wife. After she learned the truth, she didn't cooperate with the treatment, which led to disharmony between husband and wife and personal irritability because of various things.
(Most people in China are shy and introverted, and they mostly avoid talking about such secret things as husband and wife life. But there is no need to hide anything between husband and wife. I don't approve of telling dirty jokes on the wine table where friends get together, but I agree that couples can talk about everything behind closed doors. There are no secrets between us. We can talk about feelings, secrets and even sexual fantasies. Your relationship is higher than anyone else. He is another self. Talking to yourself is not an exaggeration. Personally, I don't think it's necessary to hide the sex. Very beautiful. If you like it, it can be as beautiful as art, so why refuse it? So when your art doesn't look so beautiful, you should stand up, communicate with each other and work together to make this artistic experience better. )
After experiencing various contradictions, Tang Jian chose to look for a new job, but he has been unable to find a suitable job because he has been home for too long. Finally, he chose to abandon his wife and children and fly to Africa to be the chief financial officer.
Marriage is when two people form a family with sincerity and love. If there are any problems after marriage, they all have to bear the burden of wind and rain. Therefore, if there is a problem, it must be solved by two people communicating together, instead of one person making a decision and informing the other party afterwards. Even because of long-term non-communication, contradictions accumulate, and eventually the jar is broken, which is a bit vindictive, so I am sorry for the other party and the family. After marriage, both husband and wife are responsible for this family, and they can have disputes, but they can't have any small thoughts that are unfavorable to both sides. If there is a problem, everyone can sit down and solve it. After all, people who want to walk hand in hand for a lifetime can leave at will if they encounter some problems. )
Two: Yu Ying &; Xu Zhile
After marriage, Yu Ying insisted on Dink in order to keep fit, and then compromised and gave birth to a daughter. However, due to weight loss during pregnancy, yoga and other reasons, her daughter Xiaoman suffered from autism. Xu Zhile took care of the mother and daughter without regrets, and finally worked together, and her daughter finally spoke.
1, in order to keep fit, Yu Ying insisted on working and fitness during pregnancy, and was extremely concerned about her weight.
I don't think there is anything wrong with not having children if the husband and wife agree on Dink. After all, society has developed and all mechanisms have been improved. But if you decide to have children, you must learn to be responsible for them. Childbearing is a woman's natural specialty. We should learn to accept this fact slowly. When you are ready to be a mother, it means that you have to give up your temporary good figure and a lot of free time, but at the same time you will get the warmth and love of your little one. You will grow up with ta, learn to be a parent, and learn to feel the kindness and malice from this world. )
The child was suspected of autism and refused to go to the hospital for treatment because he could not accept the fact. To make up for her children, Yu Ying insisted on going to the aquarium to learn diving and dolphin dancing.
In the process of raising children, parents always think that they are not doing well enough and paying enough. For normal children, what parents need to do more is not to spoil, not to make all decisions that parents think are suitable for them, but to guide them to learn to think for themselves and make their own decisions. In the process of raising, when problems come, we should learn to treat them rationally. Life is too realistic, you don't know what will happen in the future. When life gives you a sap and you are caught off guard, you should learn to talk to each other and seek solutions together, instead of being brave alone. No one will laugh at your weakness in marriage. In marriage, one plus one is always greater than two. )
3. In order to make Yu Ying willing to have children, Xu Zhile agreed, and really fulfilled his promise: you are only responsible for giving birth, and I am responsible for raising it. So before the child found out the illness, he was taking care of the child and doing all the housework, while his wife Yu Ying only cared about her career and buy buy, buy buy.
All household chores after marriage belong to two people. Learn to share, no matter how much the other person loves you and pampers you, learn to share, learn to be considerate of each other instead of going it alone. Learn to be grateful, learn to say "hard work" sincerely after the other party has done housework for a day, and learn to express, "It's good to have you. If it were me, I don't know what to do."
Three: Li Xiaoman &; Gu Feng
After Li Xiaoman graduated, she married Gu Feng, a businessman. From then on, she had no worries about food and clothing. When the child was a little older, Gu Feng suddenly disappeared with his son, and Li Xiaoman began to learn how to survive in society.
1, got married after graduation, didn't have his own job, and lived entirely by men.
Some people say that it is better to marry well than to do well, but no one says that it is better to spend men's money than their own. The economic base determines the superstructure. If you want to gain a foothold in this society and your family, you must have your own job at this stage, no matter how beautiful you are and how much the other person loves you. Maybe the money you earn is only enough for your own use, that's no problem. Work will make you know this society clearly, keep up with the trend, learn to think independently and have your own circle. Idling at home will only make you more and more backward and even out of touch with this society. The bigger the other person's aura, the more you have to learn to match your own light. Work can also bring you a steady income, so you can buy a skirt when shopping in the mall, and you don't have to call him to say that this skirt is expensive and there is no discount. Can I buy it? When you gain a foothold in the workplace, believe me, the other person will love you more, because they appreciate you and find another different you. )
2. In order to get her son back, Li Xiaoman joined her best friend's company, but once she cried on her husband's shoulder because she was sad, and was reported by the staff.
The distance between people is very close, so we should measure it well. Your best friend's husband is not ordinary people. Yes, but it can be used in different ways. A good relationship doesn't mean you can cross the line. No matter how out of control your emotions are, you should stay awake and rational, so as not to ruin the original good girlfriend relationship. You can find a girlfriend if you have any questions. If your girlfriend can't solve it, you can help you find her husband instead of directly looking for her husband. )
Li Xiaoman finally learned that Gu Feng divorced him because Gu Feng had a rare heart disease and could die at any time. Because of selfish desires, he took his son to hide in Macao. Finally, because Li Xiaoman was kind-hearted, he remembered the old love between husband and wife, saved Gu Feng, and opened his heart to tell each other the truth.
Then we would like to fly in heaven, kill two birds with one stone, and I would like to be a tie. It's not just talk. When you encounter any big or small problems, you should tell each other, and you don't need to hide your illness, let alone guess each other with your own care. Always remember your vows when you get married, and don't do anything stupid. Husband and wife can share joys and sorrows, or they can share joys and sorrows. )
Four: Cai Youyan &; Kelly and Zheng Xiaorong.
Kelly indulged himself because he once liked to pursue Tang Jian. When he was pregnant abroad, he didn't know who his father was and made a fuss about Tang Jian's wedding. Afterwards, he felt inferior and jumped off the building. After being saved, he can open an account for his children and marry Dacai. Finally, after experiencing the love with Xiao Rong, Da Cai found that he still liked Kelly better, and everything would be fine.
1, dried cauliflower is the receiver. Da Cai once pursued Kelly, but Kelly disagreed. After Kelly became pregnant, she decided to fake her marriage and help Kelly to have an account.
There are many people in need in this world. You can't help everything just because you are soft-hearted. It's not easy to pick up girls. If a woman is willing to fall to this point, if it is not true love, please refuse to help. Because everyone has his own life, your every move may have a series of influences on your later life. For example, Dacai and Xiaorong quarreled countless times because of this dispute. Although Dacai finally married Kelly, life is not a TV series after all. I advise you to think twice before you encounter problems such as your ex asking for help. Because some things, some feelings, have passed, forever. )
2. After pursuing Xiao Rong together, Da Cai found that two people have different views and interests. Finally, Cai chose Kelly to get married.
Before we were together, we always thought each other was very nice and fantasized about how wonderful it would be to form a family with him. After serious communication, with the passage of time, two people have exposed more and more shortcomings. Maybe you find that the other person is not the person you want. At this time, if you think about it, you will be separated. Don't stay together just because you have been in contact for a long time, because marriage takes a lifetime, and you must find someone to live with. Learning to leave the wrong love is also a virtue. )
3. Kelly failed to pursue love and degenerated into pregnancy.
Both boys and girls should learn to love themselves. Only by loving yourself can you learn to love others. If you all feel low, then no one in this world will cherish you. You don't deserve to be cherished Life is so long, people you like don't like yourself. No big deal. There are always a few people who can't see their own good. Be yourself, and you will meet someone who knows you and loves you in the future. On the premise that you want to lead an honest and clean life and learn to protect yourself, you will be worthy of the person who is looking for you in Wan Li. )
The TV series is over and life goes on. When you are in love, everything is beautiful, but marriage sometimes makes people look less beautiful because of some trivial things. So some love will deteriorate into an unhappy marriage because two people have no ideas. Marriage is complicated, and we will encounter many more problems than when we are in love. Therefore, after learning to love and be loved, we must learn to keep the freshness of love and learn to manage marriage, so as to obtain high-quality love and a marriage that can stand the test of time.