Sisters advise you to lose weight, so it's not scary?
Surprisingly, she is a fashion blogger by profession.
Her red lips in the photos are very distinctive, but because of her figure of more than 200 kilograms, no matter how beautiful her makeup is, no matter how creative she wears, it is ignored, and some people even maliciously interpret the meaning of her sending these photos.
This is also the first time I opened her little red book. As an ordinary plus-size girl, I feel sad.
Plus-size fat girls may be born as a group abandoned by this society. In East Asia, girls are stared at by men as a whole. As the carrier of desire, the primary criteria for judging women are: white, thin and young.
This not only means good control, but also means that men originally regard women as unequal status, so girls without this aesthetic will be greatly suppressed, laughed at and bullied.
The blogger I pay attention to is such a typical example of being bullied since childhood.
In fact, in adolescence, because of physical problems, she had severe depression, and this kind of depression will always exist from time to time.
But man is a complex polyhedron.
She has made many brilliant achievements. She is a young woman in literature and art. As an atypical fashion idol, she has also written many great manuscripts. She knows music, media operation, excellent academic performance and bright atmosphere.
It's a pity that all this is ignored by her weight that makes ordinary people feel "terrible".
She also tried a weight-loss training camp or a gym, but perhaps it was the huge work pressure that prevented her from losing weight well.
And she is a rebellious girl herself, and she doesn't want to bind herself with her weight. In this way, she became the kind of person she most wanted to be, fighting against the mainstream aesthetics and going her own way.
She was interviewed by the media and told her life experience as an ordinary plus-size girl. Start making your own clothes, learn to make up, and communicate with others boldly.
I admire her boldness, but I also understand how difficult she is on this road.
Women and weight, women and appearance, women and society, this is a very heavy proposition. Personally speaking, in fact, writing plus-size girls is also the most emotional, but I clearly realize that in the reality that small cities are not so tolerant, if obesity affects health or has hidden dangers, not losing weight cannot be a reason to escape.
This girl is in a big city, everyone is very busy, and no one cares about her figure. She has good fashion taste, good education, broad vision and a major to support her dream.
And more girls at the bottom, neglected plus body shape, or unattractive girls at the bottom broaden their horizons, their way out is more realistic.
So on the whole, I admire her courage, but it may also be my own experience. I think if I can reach a weight that I can control properly, I may be more confident.
Ordinary people can't be artists or idols in the draft, but it's ok to be satisfied with their refreshing image.
This is not to promote appearance anxiety, but to stand in a very realistic position as my personal thought.
But I admire her courage even more. After all, not all fat girls can express themselves in front of the camera.
I feel a little relieved after writing her story. It will take many years for society to criticize women and gradually establish aesthetic pluralism. As ordinary people, the only thing we can do is to try to be ourselves. Only in this way can we find our place in a highly competitive society.