Take a deep breath. When you feel angry, deep breathing is a good exercise. It makes you slow down and regain control of your thoughts and emotions and the situation itself. Take a few deep breaths until you feel calm. Keep a diary. Like hitting people, throwing things or yelling. Aggressive behavior does not always lead to mental catharsis. Why? Because you haven't really solved the things that make you angry. Keeping a diary is one of the best ways. Speak out your frustration. Transferring anger inward can lead to serious health problems, and venting anger by yelling at the person you love can destroy your interpersonal relationship. Another better choice is to scream loudly. Get in the car and shout. Or, shout at the pillow and let everything come out. Throw things or break things. Whether you feel hot (slapping and shouting) or cold (depressing and shrinking), a good way to release anger is to destroy something in an appropriate way. If there is an "angry room" in your area, go there. Exercise. If you don't want to play boxing, you can use other forms of exercise to vent your anger. Run, swim, ride a bike, hike, lift weights or take fitness classes. Exercise helps burn excess cortisol and makes you feel angry. Try treatment. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has been proved to help people with chronic anger. Your CBT therapist will work with you one-on-one to develop better strategies to deal with anger, such as changing your thinking mode and learning to be more confident. Try to breathe deeply into your diaphragm. Inhale and pay attention to bloating. Exhale and watch it deflate. Every time you inhale, imagine that you are full of calm energy. Every time you exhale, imagine that anger is dispelled from your body. Relieve tension by gradually relaxing muscles. Anger can lead to extreme stress in the body, which can actually lead to injury. Progressive muscle relaxation is a useful exercise to relieve this tension. How to treat anger correctly 2 1 Tell yourself that being angry is bad for your health, bad for gastrointestinal digestion, accelerating aging and getting acne. Being angry won't have any effect on her, but it is irresponsible for her health. 2. Accept sunk costs. Think about it. What you are angry about has happened and cannot be changed. You can't go back to the state where you didn't see their rude information. You can choose to scold him now, but the result is likely to be that you will be more angry because he will say more unpleasant things. Although he is likely to be angry, do you really care if he is happy? 3, a change in mentality: from blaming others for their problems to facing their own needs, when people refuse to face themselves, they will continue to face others. I will feel that there are problems with others here and there, and I will want to constantly transform others, control others, and let others be used by me. Life will face the question of "who am I" again and again, and there will be life and death in every tiny thing, so our self will certainly face many tests in the interaction with the outside world. At this time, an open mind is particularly valuable. The so-called open mind is to keep an open self. In the words of psychology, growing up is actually lowering yourself, humbling yourself, not taking the existing self as the universal truth, and keeping a growing heart at any time. 5. When swearing, people who see that their thoughts are unclear and have no worries and habits will also have it, but they just can't keep up with the "awareness" kung fu. Trouble habits are also reflected through the mind. A clear-headed and clear-headed person is thinking. At the same time, there is a photo that will not let the idea continue to spread and can be extinguished on the spot. 6. "Keeping the truth" means putting your mind on your mind, not letting your mind stop, but seeing your mind. The sage's consciousness can only be more, not less. And how can we ordinary people have a "feeling" between our thoughts? May have a "sleep" idea in a few minutes, not a "sleep" idea! 7. Turn your strength around and care about your intentions. If you care about your intentions very much, you will bring this power out and use it in your career and dealing with people in the world. Your career in the world will also be realized soon. The problem is that our strength can't be concentrated in one place, and we don't care much about it internally or externally. Every day is scattered, "let nature take its course"! How to Deal with Anger Correctly 3 (1) Ask yourself: What do I want him or her to do? What do I want to achieve through anger? Don't be blinded by anger, see what your desire is behind anger. You are angry because you need someone else to do something. If you want to make friends with others, and he (she) lets you down and you slap him (her), then you will never get close to him (her). On the contrary, you can tell your true feelings: "I value our friendship, but something threatens our friendship, which makes me disappointed." Let's talk about it. How about solving this contradiction together? "(2) Ask yourself: Am I really angry with this person? Are the reasons why I am angry really what I said? Is it possible that I am angry with him because it is safer to be angry with him? It's useless to find a scapegoat, but it will turn your mood into a lost lamb. (3) How much of your anger comes from your unsatisfied basic needs and desires? Are you dissatisfied with the whole world? Is there a person or a situation that makes you feel deeply hurt or helpless? Are you blaming this person or this situation? Do you feel that no one cares about you and no one loves you? In this world, the world is full of strangers, will you feel lonely? Do you need more happiness and care in your life? Under the above circumstances, you need to find ways to get love and happiness, so that the anger will disappear. Venting your anger will only hurt you more. (4) Is your so-called anger an arrogant way to cover up your injuries? Is your existence as a human being threatened, or is your ego hurt? Is it necessary to fight for your image? How much do you need? Fighting for face often makes you feel lost, and loss will make you angry. (5) If you become the target and victim of others' anger, ask yourself, "Do I have to accept this person's position for me? Do I have to feel hurt for such a thing? " . Others, like you, will look for scapegoats. You can be a volunteer, but don't be a volunteer sheep. Even if others choose you, you can avoid it. Don't take the bait, don't fight a war that has nothing to do with you, you won't win anything. (6) Many times anger comes from our lack of confidence and insecurity. Expressing anger effectively will improve our sense of self-esteem and enable us to fight bravely when our survival is threatened. (7) Anger does not exclude positive emotions such as love and gratitude. You can love someone deeply and feel angry for him or her, but still love him or her. In fact, being angry is often because you love too much. Sometimes, being angry is a way to express love. Whatever the reason, you are responsible for your anger. Don't give false, big and empty reasons for anger. What you need is to solve the problem, not an empty victory. (9) Pay attention to being angry. Learn to distinguish short-term anger from long-term resentment. Find a notebook to record your anger at different people in different situations and distinguish how many kinds of anger you have. This will help you decide when and under what circumstances to express your anger, what kind of anger to express and how to express it. (10) Don't be afraid of anger. Think back to the last time you lost your temper. Is the world destroyed? Anger itself is harmless-your anger won't kill you, and the anger of others won't kill you. Only when we stubbornly insist on expressing anger in those harmful ways can anger cause tragedy. (1 1) Express your anger sincerely and responsibly, and don't use violence. Violence will only bring more anger, hurt and revenge. Neither verbal attacks nor physical attacks can eliminate anger. Tell others what makes you angry or hurt and what you really want them to do. (12) Those old methods are also useful: for example, when you are angry, count from 1 to 10. (13) Don't pretend not to be angry. Don't anesthetize yourself with negative anger. Suppressing yourself will not let you get what you want, but will only make you feel confused, guilty and depressed. (14) Catch the event that makes you angry, not the person, and say, "This incident really makes me angry." It's about the incident, saying, "You bastard, how could you do such a thing?" This is a private matter. (15) beautify the situation that bothers you. If you go to the queue, take a book with you, use this time to study, and take the opportunity to relax and daydream in traffic jams. (16) When you are angry, write a letter to the person you are angry with, or to newspapers, magazines or leaders. The more detailed this letter is, the better. Put this letter aside for a day and read it again, and then consider whether it is really worth being angry. (17) Don't blame yourself for the bad results caused by temporary anger. Take courage to vent your anger and apologize! ! (18) Everyone has some unspeakable anger. We should find an outlet for these emotions. Physical exercise is a good way to release: jogging, playing ball, shouting in places where no one is around and so on. (19) After getting angry, try to understand what really makes you angry and tell another person what you think. A neutral listener can help you clear your emotions and have a clear understanding of your goals. (20) Anger is an opportunity to learn. By understanding the source of our anger, we can turn the energy of anger into the driving force of construction.