2, adjust the mentality, whether a person is really happy, stressful, tired or not depends on his own mentality, adjust his own mentality, and then control his emotions, so as to concentrate on completing his goals, a sense of inner peace and tranquility is the ultimate portrayal of inner strength. Throw away all the pain that doesn't matter, and there will be more room for happiness.
3, forget the past, only know how to let go, adjust your mood, learn to accept the reality, make yourself strong, say to your past let nature take its course, face bad luck calmly and look at life positively, you can live happier.
4. Become self-confident, make your heart strong, believe in yourself and find your position. Self-confidence is the first secret of success. Self-confidence is a pillar that can hold up the vast sky of spirit. Self-confidence is a piece of sunshine, which can dispel the shadow in front of being lost. As long as you have confidence and put down your inferiority complex, you can also have a valuable life.
5. Work hard and always remind yourself that progress, hard work, diligence and diligence are a virtue, so that diligence can overcome laziness and diligence can make up for congenital deficiencies. If you work hard and get something, you will have a brilliant life.
6, don't complain, complaining and frustration are stumbling blocks to your success, so don't complain, accept failure frankly, complaining can't change the status quo, only hard work can bring hope, real money, as long as you don't bury yourself, as long as you concentrate on shining, you will shine one day, don't always worry about life and treat life negatively, in fact, you have as much as others. ,
7, immediate action, let go of hesitation, immediate action is infinite, don't be indecisive about what you are looking for, choose a direction, just go on the road. Immediate action is the common feature of all successful people. If you have an opportunity, you should seize it at once. If you have a good idea, you should act as soon as possible. Don't let the opportunity slip away from you.
8. Learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a virtue. To be tolerant of others is actually to make way for your own mind. Your heart is wide, the world is wide, your heart is not narrow, and you are respected.
9, don't doubt others, with doubt, things will be difficult to do, and don't use your own doubts to identify other people's ideas, leading to mutual distrust, affecting each other's friendship, undermining unity and affecting friendship.
Question 2: How to make yourself better (a girl) and become a high-quality woman must have eight conditions (I hope I can give some advice to beautiful women who are eager to be excellent women, and also give some reference to men who want to find excellent women as wives)
1 Elegant but not melodramatic
What woman scares men? A melodramatic woman. What woman particularly scares men? Treat affectation as an elegant and tireless woman. However, these are two concepts that are easily confused.
In short, elegant women not only like to float around cocktail parties with goblets in their hands, but also linger in seafood stalls with canned beer. And those ladies who don't order candlelight dinners may still have "leftovers". Although smart women are "leftover women", they don't forget self-marketing. Knowing the faint fragrance and the femininity of sleeves is the advantage.
2 confident but not confident
This is a subtle comfort. For example, when the car is about to enter the highway toll station, and his hand is holding the steering wheel and busy lowering the window, he will feel this comfort if the woman around him thoughtfully hands out the right amount of change so that he won't be too flustered.
No one wants you to obey, just to provide a little convenience when it is inconvenient for him. Men get married in order to get a tacit life partner. If you think it is natural to stand by and do nothing, then there is no problem, and arrogant loneliness is also a realm.
3 attractive and not entangled.
Have you ever seen a circus? No matter the clever elephant or the naive black bear, they will get a favorite candy or snack after the performance. The animal trainer is very pragmatic. He knows that candy is more effective than whip to make these behemoths obey. If you drive endlessly, it will be tiring, and the bear's temper may come up.
For men, too, attraction is always more effective than urging. Show more charm and less commitment. Pestering him every day will only overload him. If you think you're still struggling with insurance, that's okay. The difference here is only the word confidence.
4 persistent and not paranoid
Waiting for a man who respects you in personality, takes responsibility, is not shabby in material and vulgar in cultivation, then this is the persistent "marry a good man" Waiting for a man, Gao Fushuai, who is romantic, single-minded, wise and young ... then this is paranoid "non-elites don't marry". Do such perfect men exist? Maybe it exists? But why does he have to marry you?
5 learn to be strong
The premise of attracting others is to adjust yourself. You can endure loneliness and hardship so that you are not in a hurry to seek companionship. Even if you have generous shoulders, you should distinguish them before relying on them. A woman who seeks dependence and sustenance when she is slightly depressed is a good prey for * *.
6 learn to bargain
Don't fantasize about the rest. The men that "leftover women" face are all "smooth hands" over 30 years old. For them, marriage is not a sour and sweet heartbeat, but perhaps more like a business. Don't forget to talk about terms when flirting!
7 learn to wait
Which is more expensive, marrying wrong or not? Seeing birthdays passing by one by one, maybe someone wants to close the stall and have a big sale. Just married to "content with perfection", I may have met "the only thrill", and my temporary loneliness has turned into a lifelong yearning. Is regret worth it?
Learn to entertain yourself.
Entertainment, but not being entertained! The male companion around you may make potential good men misunderstand that you are occupied, and it is more likely to deceive you. An invisible "game partner" who knows how to advance and retreat, knows how to be restrained and polite, and can give up his position in time is harder to find than his husband. If you can't stand loneliness and want to have fun, you should not only be strong, but also find the right person.
Question 3: How to make yourself better 1 Mental maturity is the psychological basis for making yourself better.
Personally, there are four main criteria for mental maturity: the ability to control one's emotions, the ability to recognize self-worth in line with one's actual situation, the ability to analyze and reflect on oneself, and the ability to empathize.
(1) Self-emotional control ability.
This point has been mentioned in many psychological self-help books. Personal feelings: it is really effective to control your emotions well.
The usual practice is to establish a "monitoring system" in your mind, often feel the changes of your emotions, and establish the consciousness and habits of Vipassana.
Personally, I will take a note with me or write the reminder in my mobile phone notebook and read it often. I've also seen people even set tips on mobile phone screensavers.
You can recall, summarize and record your emotional state all day before going to bed every day, and evaluate your progress in emotional control every month, quarter and year.
The next conclusion is somewhat arbitrary: without the improvement of self-emotional control ability, it is difficult for people to maintain stability and durability on the road to becoming excellent.
(2) A sense of self-worth in line with personal reality.
This refers to a clear understanding of their position in the social environment, their knowledge and skills, their influence and social value in life circles and industries, and their material conditions.
Don't brag or even pretend to protect your self-esteem. Don't sell yourself short when facing the strong, don't trample on the weak, and keep your independent judgment when facing external pressure.
(3) the ability of self-analysis and reflection.
Mastering the basic knowledge of psychology, understanding people's psychological characteristics, and cultivating self-observation's ability, we can objectively look at our own shortcomings in observing and comparing others, and analyze the reasons and methods for each other's sense of superiority.
(4) Empathy ability
This is not so much an ability as a habit of thinking.
Practitioners in many industries will regard this as their basic ability, such as sales and marketing.
Knowing the difficulty of everyone's growth, the difference of personal interests and the understanding of different people's growth experiences will reduce a lot of troubles and obstacles for you on the road to Excellence in the future.
He has a thorough understanding of human heart, human nature, worldly wisdom and indifference, and can properly handle all kinds of complicated relationships in interpersonal communication.
The way to improve is to read more books, read more history books, read more books, recall and analyze the people and things you have experienced, and think more about your interests.
In China society, most people lack this knowledge, especially when they are young. If their knowledge in this field is shallow and blank, they will often be confused and even lose many opportunities that they could have seized.
Cao Xueqin said in A Dream of Red Mansions that "everything is learned when things are clear, and people are clear when they are clear", which deserves your deep thought.
Supplement: You may feel tired at first, but after a long time, you will feel much more peaceful in interpersonal communication.
To put it bluntly, it is actually a matter of interest. Many times, even if you don't quite understand the specific reasons at that time, most of them are caused by some interest factors that you don't understand or consider.
The so-called superior people around you only know more knowledge and learn more profound lessons than others.
3. Cultivate good study habits and independent thinking ability.
Knowledge and information can improve a person's knowledge and thinking, attach importance to learning and absorbing the valuable experience left by predecessors, and it is a shortcut to personal growth.
But it should be noted that human life and energy are limited. Don't be distracted by the breadth of knowledge. Finding one's own direction as soon as possible and choosing one's own field of concentration will greatly improve one's growth speed.
Improve your skills and strive to improve your irreplaceability in your major or professional field.
In the early stage of learning and development in your own professional field or professional field, you should pay attention to cultivating your macro-thinking and bird's-eye awareness. This requires giving full play to one's initiative, and knowing more about the situation in the same industry while completing one's own work.
Improvement methods: You can read more articles on industry analysis step by step, subscribe to high-quality WeChat official accounts, communicate with industry veterans, know the future development direction in advance and make preparations, and make some new challenges and attempts within the tolerable range.
5. Be aware of and have the ability to correct your mistakes and shortcomings.
We should be clear about our strengths and weaknesses, and determine our scope and expertise ... >>
Question 4: How to make yourself better and better during college? First of all, we should have a goal in mind.
"The right goal is half the battle." abraham lincoln.
"The right goal is half the battle." Lincoln
A man without a goal is like a car without an engine, and he can't go anywhere. Condra, founder of Hilton Hotels Group? Hilton said: "Success always seems to be associated with action, and successful people always take action. Although they make mistakes, they never give up. "
1. The first great benefit I got was that the target became my good partner. From time to time, he will hint at what I should do to get closer to him. Under the influence of this hint, I became active and my life became very efficient.
2. Goals help me to restrain myself. Whenever I am tempted, I will think about whether it is conducive to the realization of my goal. I just need a simple answer "yes or no" so that I can get rid of the temptation and do something really important.
I am no longer passive in my daily study because I am willing to work hard to achieve my goal. I will get up at 6: 30 to read English, and try my best for an hour every day, because I know that with every effort, I will get closer to my goal.
I will actively look for opportunities to achieve my goals. Because I have a clear goal, I will pay more attention to such opportunities in life, and before that, I may easily ignore these precious opportunities.
By setting a clear goal, we can mobilize all our potential to achieve it.
"Only man has the ability to turn his thoughts into material reality; Only humans can dream and realize their dreams. " -Napoleon Hill
Second, do what you like.
We only have one life. What's the point of living if you do things you don't like all day?
I like doing what I like, because it can make us more efficient and satisfied. As Cardinal auerbach said, "Just do what you are best at."
So how do you find what you really like? This week, I read an article "How to Find Your Passion", written by a dumb villain. Among them, the author asked two questions:
1. Where will you be in a year?
2. What is your real passion?
I think everyone should seriously consider these two issues. Only by understanding these two problems can our life move from chaos to light and our thoughts be improved. This week, every night when I go to bed, I will think about these two questions and think about them seriously until I fall asleep. ...
In the article, the author introduces three skills to help you find what you really like:
1. Ask your friends what they think your specialty is.
2. Take a little time to keep a diary every day. Record your imaginary perfect day, perfect week and perfect year with your notes.
3. Write down the number from 1 to 10 with a pen, and review what really excited you a few weeks ago, a few months ago and a few years ago, and write it down. Find out what makes you happy, free and belong. That's what you really love.
Third, surpass yourself, not others.
If you keep competing with others, you will make progress, but not too much.
In life, we always compare ourselves with others: "My goal is to surpass XXX, and I want to be as rich as XXX ..."
However, when we really reach XXX as we wish, we are at a loss and don't know where the next XXX is.
When we set our goal to surpass others, we no longer live for ourselves, but we become the accessories of others. Just like a boat, it aims at a distant island and tries its best to get there. I didn't know this island was actually a big ship. As a result, it is conceivable that the course of the boat is no longer controlled by itself, but follows the big ship blankly until it is exhausted.
I used to be like that boat, always like to compare with others, anytime, anywhere ... >>
Question 5: How to make yourself better? . Get rid of your shortcomings. Study more. No matter what you do, big or small, you should do it well. . Let everyone have a look. Take your time. . Your own Excellence, not your own. . Got everyone's evaluation. . .
Question 6: How to make yourself better 1. Overcome procrastination. I used to be a serious procrastinator, but later I failed to apply for a project because of procrastination, so I thought a lot. Severe procrastination can even be harmful to your health (I often put off the finals and projects until the last minute, which sometimes leads to staying up late, which is very harmful to your health). I did something to basically overcome procrastination. Here are some schemes that I think are useful: classify things: urgent, important and unimportant things are completed one by one; Eliminate distractions around you when doing things, such as mobile phones; Looking for friends to supervise (varies from person to person); Divide big things into small pieces; Above all, don't give yourself too much time. Now, I feel that my life is not as busy as before. I used to think that I couldn't do many things, but now I have a lot of free time to do what I want to do. When faced with many things, I feel more prepared, more confident and more calm when encountering things.
2. Exercise your expressive ability. I think the ability of expression is a talent that anyone needs, whether you are a politician or a programmer. Especially in front of many people, the ability of expression is also particularly important. If you have a seven-point work, good eloquence can increase the work to 10; And even if your work has a score of 9, your poor expression ability will reduce the interest of others. It is very important to be eloquent, to have substance in words, to store the energy of thinking at ordinary times, to understand other people's languages and ideas, and to express their own ideas systematically. I have never been a monitor or chairman since I was a child, but I can also force myself to exercise this ability. I took a lecture this semester and found it particularly helpful. You can also learn a lot from celebrities' speeches. High-quality people should not avoid what they are not good at, but should try their best to be perfect.
3. Learn to be grateful and not complain. I met a man who complained to me, "If my parents could work harder, I wouldn't have to work so hard." I was just hehe. Fight for the life you want, feel lucky and cherish what you have. Always be grateful, and more and more people will help you in your life.
4. Pay attention to the outside while perfecting your own inside. Everyone has a love of beauty. Paying attention to appearance is also a manifestation of loving yourself. Be kind to your body, and it will repay you. As a woman, although I am young, I am also afraid of aging. The first thing to do when you get home is to remove makeup, apply a mask every day, soak your feet, do hair mask regularly, go to the gym, and live a decent life within your power. Pay attention to fashion occasionally and learn to take care of your clothes and shoes, otherwise the fashion will be expensive and the quality will be good. I used to stay up late, but now I seldom sleep more than 12 after correcting procrastination. I used to have pimples, rough hair and calluses on my feet, so I dressed casually because I wore shoes that rubbed my feet. Now because of my "attention" and "pressure", my skin has become smooth, my hair is still good even if it is dyed, and my feet have become delicate. Whether men or women, paying attention to their appearance is the premise of high quality.