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I once saw a grandmother who was over 70 years old taking selfies every day on the Internet. In the video, she gets up at a fixed time every day, eats breakfast, meets friends and exercises. She will put on delicate makeup, and although her hair is gray, she still does it in fashion. The red numbers of various trends are not abrupt, but full of aura.

Grandma's clothes don't fit, they always fit, even tight skirts, which makes people sigh how amazing the results of perennial exercise are.

It is conceivable that grandma's living condition and way are envied by many netizens. Many netizens said that I would live such a high-profile life in the future and let myself live so exquisitely.

It is undeniable that grandma's "high-matching life" needs a certain economic foundation to support it. In fact, in the eyes of many people, the so-called "high life" can not be separated from the support of money after all.

A high level of material life seems to have long been the established standard of success. If you have to live a cheap life when you are old, it will inevitably make people feel that this person's achievements in this life are not successful, because they are not enough to support the high-level life you should have in your later years.

However, few people really think about the true meaning of the words "high match" and "low match". Everyone wants to have a good time, but they have a good time, but they are invisibly in greater trouble.

Therefore, when people are old, what they should learn is not to compare with others, not to envy others' lifestyles, but to learn to "be a low-key person", otherwise it will easily cause unnecessary trouble for themselves.

0 1 Unnecessary personnel relations should be reduced.

If a person wants to survive in this society, he can't do without worldly contacts. Dealing with people is not only the need of life and work, but also brings him rare opportunities in some cases.

In the process of interacting with people, it is neither obvious nor intimate to test this person's emotional intelligence, and he loses his sense of boundaries.

Especially after getting old, many old people can't adapt to the life after retirement. Busy days suddenly become idle, and the psychological gap will be great.

The psychological satisfaction that was once needed, respected and valued at work will also disappear, replaced by the loss that no one needs after retirement.

At this time, the elderly will habitually want to continue to meet their psychological needs through contacts with former colleagues or friends.

However, when you are old, you should actually learn to be frugal with your friends, because if you continue to spend time, energy and even money to maintain some unnecessary worldly affairs, you are actually looking for trouble for yourself to some extent.

Uncle Wang, the neighbor, used to be a warm-hearted person in the unit. No matter who has something to do, he is willing to go drinking and eating with him. After retirement, those old colleagues who had contact with him lost contact one after another, which made Uncle Wang particularly uncomfortable. It seems that all people are away from themselves at once.

In order to get back the once lively feeling, Uncle Wang began to organize gatherings of old acquaintances. In order to show his generosity, Uncle Wang paid for each gathering alone.

At the beginning, Uncle Wang really felt that his excitement and intimacy were back, which made him very happy, but more often. Others feel that they don't have to take money for every party anyway, but they are happy to attend, but they have suffered from Uncle Wang, who has a small pension.

Even his wife said he was confused. What's wrong with a good pension? It's used to serve those who don't know how to reciprocate.

Finally, uncle Wang stopped organizing parties, which caused dissatisfaction among those people. Some even ridiculed him in person for being stingy and reluctant to give money to those parties.

In fact, when a person is old and less energetic than when he was young, on his deathbed, what he needs to do more is to cherish the people around him and spend his limited time and energy on people and things that are more worthy, instead of wasting it on unnecessary worldly wisdom, otherwise he will have face, but what is really bitter is himself.

Reduce material desires

Each of us has material desires, and it is human nature to pursue and yearn for material life, even in old age. Some old people like photography, so they are willing to invest in cameras. Some old people like to travel, so most of their money is spent on it.

Especially after retirement, the old people have more free time because they don't need to work, and their hobbies are particularly important, because they will accompany them through the confused period after retirement.

But when people are old, they should learn to reduce their material desires and understand what they really need in material life, otherwise they will only add unnecessary economic pressure to themselves and even their children.

Aunt Zhang, a friend's mother, was a famous beauty when she was young. Even when I am old, I can still see her handsome appearance.

My friend has always been proud of her mother's beauty, but now her mother is old, but she is not happy.

It turns out that a friend's own life is a chicken feather. There are two children at home, and the mother-in-law is in poor health, so she can't help the baby, and she can't help much financially.

At first, my friend wanted his mother to come and help with the children for a while, but her mother refused on the grounds that taking care of the children would accelerate aging.

My friend has taken care of her children for several years. In the most difficult time, she had to take care of the baby and work part-time to relieve her husband's pressure. My mother travels everywhere and never asks her if she needs help.

Some people may say that it is understandable for parents to go out and relax when they are old. Since children choose to have children, they should be responsible for themselves. But if parents choose to stand by when their children are in the most difficult time, will the relationship and atmosphere of the whole family really be good?

Especially my friend's mother, the pension is not much, but it is very disappointing. Seeing where everyone else has gone to play, she wants to go, too. She forced her friends to give her money when she didn't have enough money. After a long time, even her friend's marriage was affected.

Reducing material desires seems to lead a "low life", but it is not necessarily a more transparent way of life, because only by reducing material desires can we truly liberate ourselves from the material desires of comparison and understand what we really need.

We should not only consider ourselves, but also what we want. More often, we should think about our families and the people we love. The real "high-quality life" is to enrich your mind and make yourself live more spiritually.

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