▲ Chen Ruoyi was scolded by her mother-in-law on the show because jeans were designed with holes. (Figure/taken from Youtube screenshot)
Not only that, but also face the high standard requirements of mother Lin. Even the hole in jeans will be looked down upon by her mother-in-law, who will embarrass her directly in front of the national audience. "It's impolite of you to dress like this. Don't wear it in the future." Chen Ruoyi can only nod, dare not comment more.
As soon as the program was broadcast, many netizens immediately became judges. "How can such a marriage continue?" "Why must marriage be so wronged?" , sound, as if they live under the same roof with Chen Ruoyi and Jimmy Lin.
Are Chen Ruoyi and Jimmy Lin happily married? Do you have a good relationship with Lin's mother-in-law? No matter what the truth of these questions is, the author thinks that six years of dating and seven years of marriage add up to 13 years. After living together for so long, the Jimmy Lin family must have their own way to keep balance, and outsiders can't say anything about it.
▲ Chen Ruoyi and Jimmy Lin were married for 7 years and fell in love for *** 13 years. (Photo/excerpt from Chen Ruoyi IG)
Behind every marriage is self-knowledge. Therefore, when you see your friends sunbathing and flashing wildly on social networking sites, you really don't need to be jealous. After all, everyone is working hard and has their own troubles to solve, but everyone's troubles are different.
Jimmy Lin became popular when he was young. He is a famous racing driver and the boss of a biotechnology company. He has a positive image all the way. He was praised as "good at educating children" in the earlier program "Where is Dad Going", which fully conforms to the "secular definition" of the Life Victory Group: rich and powerful, loving home.
Her husband has a good personality and great achievements. Chen Ruoyi, his wife, was automatically classified as a "lucky lady". I have also read the subscripts in the media, saying that Chen Ruoyi must have saved the universe in his last life, so he can be with Jimmy Lin in this life and always have a son. Even Chen Ruoyi herself mentioned that some netizens called her a "fertility machine".
Looking at the public's evaluation of Chen Ruoyi, I always have the illusion of returning to the late Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China, and I can better understand the feeling that Chen Ruoyi often gives me in the program and in the community: she really wants to live beyond the definition of the world and try to get rid of the label, but this "effort" has brought her pressure, and the pressure is not small.
▲ Chen Ruoyi admits that there is a lot of pressure to marry Jimmy Lin. (Figure/taken from Youtube screenshot)
Why does the author assume this? Mainly, I found that in Mother-in-law and Mother, Chen Ruoyi mentioned the word "stress" many times.
In the face of cyber bullying by acid people, she said that she was under great pressure; Talking about getting married and bringing up children, she said there was a lot of pressure; In another scene, Jimmy Lin wants to accompany Chen Ruoyi to choose her mother-in-law's clothes, but she refuses. "It doesn't matter, I go by myself. Are you beside me? I am under a lot of pressure. 」
As we all know, after marriage, Chen Ruoyi took care of her family wholeheartedly. Most of the time, she takes care of her three sons by herself. Jimmy Lin is all in his eyes. "She (Chen Ruoyi) is in charge of everything at home. I am very grateful to my wife for her contribution. 」
As a matter of fact, long before having sex, Chen Ruoyi took the initiative to take charge of a man's restaurant in Taipei in order to prove that she was not interested in Jimmy Lin's money, earning her NT$/kloc-0.5 million a season, which made Jimmy Lin's father sit up and take notice.
▲ Chen Ruoyi strives to cultivate interest. (Photo/excerpt from Chen Ruoyi IG)
In addition to housework and taking care of her son, Chen Ruoyi also actively develops her social skills and often uploads photos of learning to dance and cook. In addition, she is also very active in fitness. "I have always regarded housework as a way to lose weight, exercise my arms and waistline, and spend 40 minutes at home in the evening." 」
From media reports, programs and social networking sites, Chen Ruoyi showed a word: spelling.
Why is the pressure so great? Why do you need to work so hard? Chen Ruoyi said frankly that her mother-in-law and husband are excellent. "In contrast, I feel inferior and feel that my ability is not as good as theirs. 」
Chen Ruoyi's pressure and efforts stem from a "pursuit of perfection".
I really want to tell Chen Ruoyi: You did a good job. Great, not only for the outside world to see, but also for my husband and mother-in-law. If they can't see, it doesn't matter. I just want you to face up to one thing. You did your best.
I believe that many women (men) will inevitably be in the same situation as Chen Ruoyi. They have a desire to "prove themselves" in their careers, feelings and families, and they also hold the idea that "everyone wants to take care of themselves".
▲ Chen Ruoyi and Jimmy Lin were married for 7 years and fell in love for *** 13 years. (Photo/excerpt from Chen Ruoyi IG)
In fact, there are many friends of professional women around me, who often lament that they can't cover everything, are harsh on themselves and can't relieve the pressure. Even Princess Kate has such troubles. Finally, she chose to let go. "I just can't be a perfect mother and wife. It doesn't matter. I just want to work hard within my acceptable range. 」
The pressure is given by yourself, and it only takes a moment to change your mind.
On the world's most powerful decompression master, it must be Zhuangzi. In the chapter "Human Life", he said: "People who care about their hearts are not easy to give up their joys and sorrows, and it will be very virtuous to know that they are helpless." People who can take good care of their nature will not be influenced by emotions. Knowing that they have nothing to do but remain relaxed, they can give full play to their "virtue".
Although Zhuangzi talked about "the highest state of Xiu De", I think this sentence is also suitable for people who are busy pursuing progress.
Many things, it just can't do anything. Good is not necessarily rewarded with good, and evil is not necessarily rewarded with evil. Your efforts may not get the same feedback. However, even though the facts are cruel, it is certain that if you don't work hard, you will lose more chances of success.
Ray said, "The harder you work, the luckier you are." I want to change it. "Hard work can only increase the possibility of luck. 」
It is precisely because happiness and success are not "causal theory" that you should try your best in everything, and the rest will go with the flow without putting too much pressure on yourself. In the end, you will be in a bad mood and affect your health.