This phenomenon is very different from the traditional concept of marriage and love.

At the beginning of their love, every brother and sister were full of happiness, and now there is no one who doesn't feel tired.

Responsibility and stability that no one thought about before determining the relationship are all problems after falling in love.

Ambitious, careless, narrow-minded, impulsive and irritable, these words can hardly be too wrong for men at this stage, for the simple reason:

Because life is in infancy, there is a world of difference between imagination and reality.

Newborn calves are not afraid of tigers, and yellow-toothed children are just talking nonsense.

This is especially true when it comes to emotions.

Don't expect a man of this age to keep his word, and less than one thousandth of his promise can be fulfilled.

The emotions of boys of this age are almost all based on sexual impulses. The so-called love is mostly due to hormones, probably animal instinct.

The occurrence of brotherly love: utilitarianism and Oedipus complex

Young boys often look at each other's maturity, stability, understanding and economic independence, and want to find a gentle and kind wife;

Some of them are biased in their own economic conditions and want to live a stable life;

Here's what to say:

Whether it is a man or a woman, it is not a good sign to spend the other half (even intentionally) with peace of mind, because its subtext is that for the parties, economic needs are more important than emotional communication, or behind emotional communication, economic needs are a great driving force, and love will fade at this time.

Others have Oedipus complex.

When their psychological development is not mature enough, they will feel that women who are several years older than themselves are more mature, have more social experience, are not impetuous, have more wisdom in dealing with problems and have less vulgar tastes. At the age when they need guidance, this feeling of worship will turn into love.

Women's insecurity in their sister-in-law's love comes from their worries about their age.

They will feel that they are in their thirties and still look young.

When they are in their 40 s and look old, men are only in their 30 s, and they will panic: will he still love me then? "

In addition to age panic, women's insecurity also comes from the imbalance of their career development.

In the love of brothers and sisters, career development is unbalanced, especially when women's career development is better than men's. This situation is contrary to the public and the mainstream, and women's hearts will be full of insecurity, even more uneasy than women without jobs.

When both men and women have no real concept of equality between men and women, the love between brothers and sisters is prone to premature death and failure.

In other words, if men and women can't be equal and independent, there is no brotherly love.

Then why do you still have a sister-in-law relationship?

There is a situation in brother-sister love that self-repair or perfect the bumpy emotional experience.

Most women with better economic conditions have tortuous emotional experiences, and neither career success nor wealth acquisition can make up for the lack or injury of youth and emotion.

Women are subconsciously obsessed with youth, and associating with their little boyfriends can make them feel that they are also full of youth.

Small fresh meat, which has almost nothing but youthful passion, naturally becomes the best choice to realize her wishes and dreams of marriage and love. This psychological drive of compensation or gestalt makes her more feminist and confident, thus completing a woman's most perfect and desired love ending. (unfortunately)

Men care more about physical sensory stimulation, while women pay more attention to spiritual love. These phenomena are only caused by gender and age, and have nothing to do with right or wrong and morality.

If women don't understand these differences, it is easy to cause mental pain.

Emotional real pain is not getting what you want. What you pursue all your life is always so far away in the end, which is a kind of pain in itself.