When the outside world talks about Iran, it turns pale, especially women. They even think that women living in Iran are so unfortunate that they have to face not only the shackles of faith, but also the colored glasses of the international community. In fact, through some hot words, we can interpret this phenomenon from another side.
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In the actual investigation, although most Iranian men are spoiled by their mothers, they are willful and narrow-minded, but this does not prevent them from becoming model husbands. They are considerate and full of sweet words, and a few even give financial power to their wives. Every day when they go to work, they don't forget to call their wives to be caring and attentive, and report their whereabouts. They also love their children in every way and give them whatever they want.
Iranian women, on the other hand, know how to cheat men, probably from the true story of their mother. Islamic rules allow men to take four wives. Although there are not many wives in today's society, it is necessary to give wives great psychological and physical satisfaction in order to keep their husbands' hearts together. So Iranian women accumulate over time, implicative, eloquent, exquisite and humiliating.
If the family doesn't control the financial power, they have to try their best to ask for money and jewelry from their husbands (jewelry is legally the wife's property and can be turned into money at any time), so as not to let their husbands have too much money. In short, Iranian women's status in the family is not low.
But I think the reason why Iranian husbands are exemplary is that their wives can coax (good husbands are coaxed out) and they love their wives and don't want to make her sad, not out of appreciation and respect for her personality. Most Iranian men are possessive and narrow-minded. A man should never praise his wife's beauty in front of Iranian men. He won't understand your feelings, but will be wary of you.
In recent years, Iranian women's rights and interests have been greatly improved. Many of them are highly educated and engaged in many industries, including sales, banking, medicine, education and so on. In recent years, women have also appeared in some occupations that are only engaged by men.
For example, there are female employees in taxi drivers, mechanical engineering and construction engineering; In politics, the role of women is becoming more and more important. There are 12 female parliamentarians in Iran's nearly 300 parliamentarians. In this Iranian general election, every candidate is trying to win the hearts of women voters, because women voters in Iran account for more than 60%.
At the same time, public places also provide relatively private space for women: there are special female carriages on the subway, which are forbidden for men, but women can get on the male carriages; There are special ladies' bars, gyms and so on.
However, according to the survey of foreign women living in Iran, we can still clearly feel the social and legal discrimination against women. Iranian men generally still think that women are inferior, women can't leave the country without their husbands' permission, women have limited divorce rights, and divorced women have no custody of their children (boys are two years old and girls can be raised by their mothers before they are seven years old).
Polygamy and temporary marriage (sigheh, a unique Islamic law, allows men to have sex with non-virgins other than their wives, and both parties only need to simply register with the relevant departments, indicating the time limit and the price paid by the man to the woman, which I think is very similar to the legalization of prostitution). All these make Iranian women who receive modern education suffer greatly.
Shirin Abadi, the only Iranian woman who won the Nobel Peace Prize, once made a sharp remark: "After the Islamic Revolution, the criminal law was passed, and women were deprived of self-awareness and became incompetent and insane inferior creatures."
Everything has two sides, just from which angle. Perhaps Iran is not suitable for many women with a strong sense of freedom, but this environment has brought security and happiness to women living there. Although there are some unsatisfactory places in the process, the society is progressing, and we will always find a way suitable for the local national conditions and find a relatively balanced situation between the two.
In the case of "modernization" and "westernization", the ancient civilization can't escape the blending and confrontation between tradition and modernity. But no matter how the world changes, life will always return to common sense. Longing for a normal life never requires any complicated reasons. For example, a girl posted a photo of her headscarf and left a message: "I just want to feel the wind."
Let's wish these Iranian girls a life they want as soon as possible.