People are always depressed-perhaps because of one person, perhaps because of one thing, people can't let go for a long time. Depression will not only affect life, but also affect daily work and study. When you feel that you are troubled by some problems, try the following methods, which may help you.

1, divert attention

When people's mood is at a low point, they are not interested in anything. Always thinking about those sad things. So in order to get rid of this emotion, we must first stop thinking about these problems and divert our attention. Sometimes, some things can't be changed. Now that it has become a fact, don't always think about how to turn it into nothingness, try to accept it and face the reality. One person can't change the world, and things will not change because of you. What we can do is to adapt to the world. The so-called natural selection, survival of the fittest, want to make yourself happy, first of all, let yourself not be so extreme, don't delve into dead ends.

Don't always be dissatisfied with the reality of life, and don't always compare with others. Your life should be wonderful. Sometimes, a happy life is not a pile of tickets.

Step 2 learn to be tolerant

Tolerance is a virtue, a redemption for people who make mistakes, and a sublimation of their own hearts. Don't always think about how the other party offended you and caused you much harm or loss. Think about whether the other person deserves your anger. Did he do it intentionally or unintentionally? How do I treat you on weekdays? Giving each other a chance is giving yourself a chance. For some people, forgiveness is far more effective than punishment. Maybe it was just a temporary mistake, maybe it was just a wishful flash. People always make mistakes, so don't be too hard on people.

Don't always think that a leopard cannot change his spots. Sometimes, as long as you have confidence, people can change. Maybe it's for friendship, maybe it's for love, maybe it's for family. Look at others with a developmental eye. Especially for people who love each other. Maybe you can't tolerate some mistakes of the other party. If you love each other, give him a chance to change. However, while strictly demanding the other party, we should also be strict with ourselves and correct some shortcomings that the other party cannot tolerate. Never be strict with others, but be tolerant of yourself. Doing so will make the other party sad and disappointed.

3. contented people are happy

The pain you are suffering now is not meaningless. It is inevitable that people will encounter a lot of pain in their lives. Pain can make people decadent, but also stimulate people's fighting spirit. Pain tempered people's will, so that people will not be easily defeated by difficulties.

Pursuing a perfect life is everyone's dream. But does this perfection really exist? We spent our whole lives pursuing that perfect moment. Is it worth it? Everyone has shortcomings, and everything will have shortcomings. Look at people and things and see the bright side first. If you think this person is worth paying, I think you can tolerate each other's shortcomings. Don't always stare at the ugly side, so you will never find happiness and never have a good mood.

4. Learn to control yourself

Everyone has evil thoughts, maybe just a momentary thought, so there is no need to panic because of such evil thoughts. People's thoughts are complex, not just good ones. Sometimes some evil thoughts can also help people vent their dissatisfaction. For example, being bullied, you can imagine beating him up, and so on. This is all possible. The key is to be able to control your evil thoughts and not let them affect your behavior. Therefore, evil thoughts are not terrible. If used properly, they can help people relieve stress.

5. Face your choice correctly.

Sometimes, one thing will be different because of the change of time. It was a very painful thing for you at that time. After a while, you may have another epiphany. Try to look at the problem from different angles, and you may find that the pain is not as real as you think.

A mature person should be brave enough to take responsibility for what he has done. Don't regret what you have done, because it is your choice. This choice was approved by you at that time, so you have no reason to regret it. Don't always think that maybe I won't have such consequences if I do that. You know, don't compare different options with the same result. Maybe the result of the other option is worse than now. Now that you have chosen, don't regret it. As long as you try your best, let him develop naturally. Some things will come naturally as long as you work hard. Don't always think about what results you will get, but appreciate the process of your efforts with your heart. This is what you should remember most.

6. Face the reality correctly

Don't always fantasize about what new things will happen to you. This is not a fairy tale world. The world is realistic, cruel and beautiful. Often the more ordinary things, the more shocking.

Never base your happiness on the pain of others. That kind of happiness will not last long, and will soon be replaced by endless pain. True happiness comes from the heart.

7. Learn to comfort yourself

People always feel depressed, whether it is because of love, friendship or other factors, it will make you miserable and make you unable to find the joy of life. First of all, don't give up the desire and pursuit of good things, there is hope to have motivation. Secondly, if you really want to get rid of the current predicament, first of all, you should dare to face the difficulties and blindly escape, which will only make your painful road longer. When something goes wrong, you should learn to take a few deep breaths and try your best to calm yourself down before you can talk to your best friend. If it is not convenient for others to know, you can turn up the TV volume, shout loudly or curse that person; You can also go to the wild for fun, temporarily forget those unpleasantness, and then make a decision when you clear your mind; Or let yourself do more work, listen to music, divert your attention, and so on;

In short, no one can avoid disappointment in life, but as long as you are a brave person, a person with noble sentiments, a person who can be kind to yourself and others, a person who is full of confidence in life, an open-minded person who can rise up in adversity … then, your eyes are a bright sky! Will have a good mood.