Many people are as confused as Xiao Wang. There are often two deep-seated reasons behind feeling confused and aimless: one is lack of ability; The other is laziness.
In the first case, the ability is insufficient. If a person's ability is insufficient, then he will get less positive feedback in his work, and his sense of accomplishment will be low, and he will easily feel lost in the short term. In fact, it doesn't matter if you are lack of ability. As long as you are willing to learn and persist, you can generally get ahead.
In another case, lazy. Once people are lazy, they will be in trouble. In this case, "feeling confused" and "having no goal" are just excuses for lazy people, and these people are often the most likely to regret among middle-aged and elderly people. It is sad, deplorable and even hateful to have the ability but not to work hard and struggle.
In fact, the deeper reason why a person feels confused and lacks goals is often a little: lack of motivation. Power is like the engine of a car. If the engine is not started, you can't turn on the GPS. Of course, without a goal, it is impossible to plan a route. The engine power is insufficient, so the car doesn't run fast. Of course, when you see a speeding car, you will feel confused and confused.
Therefore, the key to solving confusion and lack of goals is to find motivation and find the fire that can ignite life. There are two sources of motivation: one is internal; The second is external.
First, internal motivation.
Inner motivation refers to the inner strength that you are really excited about. It has nothing to do with any other external evaluation and expectation, but only with what you really care about.
How can we find internal motivation? You just need to find a quiet environment and ask yourself: What do I really care about? What do I really want? When you find the answers to these two questions, you will find the internal source of motivation.
I know a father who said that his biggest motivation was his daughter. No matter how tired you are, as long as you think of your lovely daughter, you will feel refreshed immediately, and the refreshing effect is stronger than pinching yourself hard. Another friend told me that his biggest motivation was to quit his current unit and do his favorite photography, shooting wild animals in the African prairie and shooting the Grand Canyon in the western United States. ......
Internal motivation can be a thing, a person, a dream, a hobby or an experience. In a word, it is what you want and care about most in the depths of your soul.
Second, external motivation.
External motivation is an external factor that can give you great motivation, which may be positive encouragement or negative stimulation.
If you feel that you lack a goal and feel confused, you can think about the mortgage, you can think about the scene of getting married and having children, you can imagine the efforts and investment in raising children in the future, and you can even look through your monthly bills. These economic pressures will force you to plan your work and life more carefully.
There is also an external motive-an example. If you don't have a role model in mind, it's time to reflect. The power of example is infinite. Maybe your role model is the person you want to be in your heart and the goal you strive for.
At the same time, the enemy is an important external driving force. The enemy may have done something that makes you lose your dignity and make you angry, but it is also an inspiring force. I know a very good person. He was looked down upon and insulted by an excellent senior in college, which inspired his fighting spirit. He vowed to surpass the senior. Now, he has left his seniors far behind, which is the motivation brought by the enemy.
In short, when you feel confused and have no goal, please learn from people with high emotional intelligence, find the source of your own motivation, find the internal motivation, and force yourself with external stimuli. In the end, you can become a better yourself.