It's terrible to say, whether we are single, in love, about to get married, or have become an old couple, it is necessary for us to learn more about how to maintain long-term passion!
Qing Qu Jun first introduced how the passion in love came from.
When people are in love, the body will secrete a hormone-dopamine, which will bring people a sweet and happy feeling.
It plays an important role in our physical and mental health, and it is also related to pleasure and satisfaction. When we experience something new, exciting or challenging, dopamine is secreted in our brain. It can be said that dopamine is a "reward" substance secreted by the brain, which conveys the signal of excitement and happiness.
Interestingly, drugs can also make the brain secrete dopamine, so there is a saying that love is like poison. Love is as crazy as drugs, with dopamine behind it.
The "passion" brought by the increase of dopamine will give people an illusion that love can be fanatical forever. But will dopamine remain high all the time?
The answer is no.
When your body is full of dopamine and lacks serotonin (a neurotransmitter produced by the human body, which is a channel for transmitting information between nerves and will affect people's appetite, internal drive and mood), it is also the time when you are madly in love. When we enter the marriage hall, it means the stability of a relationship. At this time, the concentration of dopamine in charge of passion in the body will drop, and phenolphthalein, which gives people a warm and comfortable feeling, will immediately be full of passion, making people feel attached, warm and calm to a stable relationship.
The secretion of dopamine is usually the most vigorous in the first three months, and the validity period is usually two years. So dopamine is called "love substance" and endorphins are called "marriage substance", so when the relationship becomes more stable, the secretion of dopamine will decrease.
If dopamine secretion decreases and passion fades, how can we keep love fresh?
Exercise can enhance the secretion of dopamine and endorphins.
Exercise can increase calcium in the blood and stimulate the secretion and absorption of dopamine in the brain. Walking for 30 to 60 minutes and swimming can accelerate the secretion of dopamine. Exercise can also promote the synthesis of endorphins. Long-term exercise consumes glycogen in muscles, leaving only oxygen, and endorphins will be secreted, which also helps to eliminate negative emotions.
According to a paper published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine in 2005, aerobic exercise for three to five weeks can reduce the symptoms of patients with moderate depression by half.
Therefore, exercise can change all the negative emotions of a person, make people full of energy, change their self-awareness, become positive, and even change their appearance, affecting the people around them and the environment. Through fitness, weight loss and image reconstruction, we can arouse our inner desires and our partners' enthusiasm for ourselves.
Unfortunately, many couples don't pay much attention to figure and exercise when their feelings are stable, especially after marriage, which leads to figure deformation, weight gain and less passion.
Change the immutable nature, and only when you are interested can you feel fresh.
The secret of maintaining love is that you must first understand that people are essentially animals who love the new and hate the old, so don't let sex stay the same.
Don't let your sex life become a series of monotonous mechanized movements, but you need to spend your mind and means to make it fresh!
You can do more tricks, such as making sex games, changing sex scenes, enriching your sexual knowledge, trying sex products and doing some sex training. These can be effective soon.
You can have a hot dance, put on some beautiful and sexy pajamas, or hug and say something intimate, which can stimulate women's dopamine secretion and relieve their anxiety and anxiety.
For men, if you work harder and sweat during sex, there will be unexpected gains. Studies have shown that men's sweat can also awaken lovers' lust.
Less arguing, more sex!
For the old couple, stumbling embarrassment and quarrels in daily life are inevitable. So how to ease the tension between husband and wife? In fact, the answer is simple-sex.
Many people will think, why do you have a bad relationship? In fact, sex is the best way to repair a relationship. Oxytocin secreted after sex can increase mutual trust and make people feel happy. Therefore, if you want to ease the relationship rather than give up, you'd better seriously consider this method suggested by Qing Qu Jun.
Because quarreling will lead to an increase in dopamine and adrenaline levels in the body, which will lead to you and your partner being excited in other ways. So after the quarrel, sex will be particularly passionate. Every couple will occasionally have conflicts, and sex after conflicts will often make the relationship more harmonious.
When one of the spouses is at a low ebb and needs comfort, they can have sex. Simple, familiar and satisfying sex is the best way for couples to express their love and support. At this time, it is best to choose the most comfortable and labor-saving position for the other party.
Of course, if a husband and wife have something worth rewarding, they can also "commit suicide", which is the most passionate way to reward each other.
Faced with the lack of passion, many people often accuse each other of "liking the new and hating the old", and there are more and more asexual marriages. Most people have no choice but to maintain a long-term passion. Seeing this, Qing Qu Jun thought you might get some inspiration.
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