How to save a relationship first understand these three points before you start. The triviality of life exhausted all patience. A lover's heart is a rootless duckweed, and a partner who has cheated many times doesn't have to stay. The following is a reference on how to save a relationship. Understand these three points before you start.

How to save a relationship? Understand these three points before you start 1. How to save a relationship?

Many people only focus on what they want to save love. Have you ever paid attention to what he likes, such as why he liked you in the first place? It's certainly not inexplicable that he likes you. There must be a reason. You may never have thought about why.

There must be something about you that attracts him. Maybe he didn't share it with you. Before you save it, you must analyze what he liked about you. This is very important, because if you can attract him the first time, you can attract him the second time, or even the third time.

It can be analyzed from the outside to the inside, such as long hair, long legs and beautiful breasts. And you have to make a comprehensive analysis. When you find the answer, your attraction can prescribe the right medicine. If you don't know your own advantages, how can you attract him?

How to save the character of a relationship

A man often doesn't reveal his true character, so you need to explore it, because he usually hides it, unless you have been in love with him for a long time, in which case you can definitely analyze it, because after a long time, you can understand his family background.

For example, whether his parents love each other, whether it affects him, the concept of marriage, the conditions for finding a wife and so on. Your recovery will be much easier if you know everything. Of course, you should avoid all the points that men are most afraid of, such as annoyance, wordiness, paranoia and so on.

If at this time, you still can't analyze his personality preferences and the hidden reasons for breaking up, then your recovery will be difficult to succeed, and the core things can't be lost. No matter how good the recovery routine is, it also needs good strategies, knowing ourselves and knowing ourselves, and winning every battle. How can you occupy the city if you don't know your opponent?

How to save a relationship? What's the matter?

In the process of getting along with two people, are you missing something, such as good communication, lack of tacit understanding, or hurting your feelings because of quarreling? Whatever it is, you must remember that you must fill these vacancies before he will consider getting back together with you.

For example, you are in a long-distance relationship and break up because of distrust. The problem of different places has always existed. Even if we get back together, we can't change it, so we must find the key points, such as giving him enough trust, tacit communication between two people, meeting regularly and so on.

When you save him, he will definitely ask you how to solve these problems, because men are also quite rational emotionally, so if he wants to have a good impression on you, you must find ways to solve your old problems, so that it will be convincing to him, and it will be easier to attract him when he sees the hope of the future.

How to save a relationship first understand these three points before starting 2. First, the situation of students.

My name is Wang Liang, and I'm 28 years old. I am the project manager of an Internet company. The first time I met Tong Tong was at a friend's party, and I met him through his introduction. Because our industry is related, we communicated happily and added WeChat to each other. As the relationship became more and more familiar, I began to launch an offensive. After two months of unremitting efforts, I successfully sublimated our relationship into a boyfriend and girlfriend and lived together.

After bidding farewell to single life, I am full of enthusiasm for the new husband and wife life. I am determined to take good care of Tong Tong, so I take the initiative to bear all our living expenses, and I give her everything she wants. She is also very kind to me. Sometimes working overtime will make me a nutritious meal and send it to the company. However, after a year of dating, Tong Tong complained from time to time that I couldn't understand her. I didn't care about her in the past. Often because of a little thing, it rises to indifference, and quarrels and contradictions gradually increase.

I want to communicate with her and resolve conflicts, but every time I am worried by her, it eventually becomes her unilateral crusade, and with the backlog of contradictions, her attitude and feelings towards me have also plummeted. Once I worked overtime, my colleague joked, "Liangzi, why didn't I see my daughter-in-law send you a nutritious meal?" I'm speechless. I was so wronged that I asked some buddies to accompany me to drink after work. As a result, other buddies drank too much, and my daughter-in-law came to pick them up, just me, and didn't even care about a phone call.

When I got home, I didn't care, but a flood of accusations. For a long time, my emotions broke out instantly. I quarreled with her and scolded her. She ran back to the bedroom crying and locked the door. The next day, I woke up and apologized to her. She didn't say anything. I thought she was just playing with her temper as usual. A few days after the end of the cold war, she hurried to work. However, when I came home from work, I found that she had moved away. Only then did I realize the seriousness of the problem. I started to contact her in various ways, but she insisted on breaking up, and finally my WeChat was hacked.

So I went to her company to apologize, but she warned me not to pester her again. I hated it when I saw it. I feel heartbroken. I don't know what I did wrong to let this woman I love do this to me, but I can't let go because I really love her. Just when I was almost desperate, I contacted the mentor of Moonless Team through the recommendation of my friend. After nearly an hour of voice communication with me, my tutor helped me analyze my existing problems, which made me suddenly realize, so I decided to listen to the guidance of my tutor without a month to save my beloved woman.

Second, the analysis of students' problems

According to students' feedback, the existing problems mainly include the following aspects:

1, don't understand women's thinking, and rely too much on material sustenance.

Emotion, with "feeling", is "feeling". In the final analysis, it is a kind of psychological feeling and spiritual transmission. Many brothers also have the same problem in their feelings, that is, they ignore the understanding of women's thinking and think that they can exchange long-term love through material satisfaction such as "buy buy Buy", or as a killer weapon to deal with conflicts between the two sides. In fact, in the beginning, material can be used as a tried-and-tested method to deal with emotional problems, and it is also because it can meet each other's spiritual needs to a certain extent. However, if you and your lover can't establish emotional relationship for a long time, lack spiritual communication, and rely too much on material to maintain their feelings, the result will inevitably be that they can't meet the psychological needs of girls for a long time, leading to unstable sexual relations.

2. The emotional framework is low, and the emotional input of both sides is unbalanced.

Students lack the ability to guide the target to make emotional investment, and the imbalance of emotional investment leads to the gradual failure of students' unilateral investment, which becomes a matter of course. When students can't further meet each other's psychological needs, they will have the illusion that they are less emotional (than before), and then they will have inappropriate ideas. Because the object has been passively accepting for a long time, actively asking one party, completely ignoring the value and feelings of classmates, resulting in low cost of breaking up, so that when problems and contradictions arise, it is easy to complete emotional withdrawal.

3. Lack of communication skills to avoid problems and poor emotional self-control.

When there is a contradiction between the two sides, the students fail to solve it through effective communication in time, and they further expand the contradiction because they can't control the situation, and their escape psychology is serious. They vent their negative emotions by drinking, which leads to the outbreak of conflicts.

4. Error recovery leads to the continuous expansion of negative impression.

Students lost control of their emotions because their targets moved away. They resorted to information bombing, telephone harassment, door-to-door containment and other ways to recover their mistakes, and were labeled as entangled, unreasonable and selfish by the targets. The negative impression of the target on the classmates is constantly expanding, and the target's breakup attitude is further strengthened, leading to the blackening of contact information.

Third, the exclusive recovery plan.

1, cold treatment stage: disconnection treatment reduces the resistance of the other party.

Because Wang Liang had taken a lot of tangled words and deeds before, Tong Tong's inner resistance was very strong at this time, and WeChat was already hacked. Therefore, in order to reduce each other's emotional resistance, Wang Liang was cut off for 5 days. And during the period of breaking off diplomatic relations, complete the exclusive promotion plan formulated by the mentor group for the students, including appearance transformation, emotional control, chat skills, female thinking interpretation, investment guidance and so on. , so that students can be promoted from the inside out, build self-confidence, understand women's psychology, and gain the ability to master emotional initiative.

2. Class reunion stage: contact Lahei, and the tutor will guide the chat to establish a class reunion.

After the disconnection period, the tutor edited a part of the speech for Wang Liang and sent it to Tong Tong according to their actual situation, which further reduced the defense of the other party, hid the demand, and eased the emotional resistance of the other party in the next recovery process. When Tong Tong replied, Wang Liang wanted to be eager for success and take action. After revealing the idea to the tutor, the tutor stopped it in time. Later, the tutor began to help students conduct guided chats. One is to prevent Wang Liang from making mistakes and restore the state of both sides. The second is to combine our "three-dimensional chat" skills course and let Wang Liang master the correct communication skills through practical study.

During the period, it always showed a state of being at arm's length, breaking the image of students catering to their goals in the past, re-establishing the comfort of interaction, and subtly conveying their changes to each other. The other party's reply has also improved in speed and content from the initial slow and short reply, which shows that the target's attitude towards students has begun to change from easing to uplifting.

3. Pull-up stage: transfer and change the pull-up relationship and establish secondary attraction.

Image promotion is definitely essential, and the promotion of external image can easily make the other party feel that the students have really changed. After doing a good job of external promotion, on the basis of good chat interaction, we can design a targeted circle of friends according to the actual situation of both parties and convey our changes through cold interaction. Therefore, combined with the goal psychology, the tutor made a circle of friends construction plan for the students: connotation promotion category: scene: elegant environment content: learn to read; Career promotion category: scene: working environment content: inspirational struggle; Enrich life: Scene: gym, scenery, cooking and other contents: fitness, travel, food; Emotional stability category: scene: solitude environment content: calm state and emotion; Love and public welfare: scene: pet shelter, orphan nursing home content: call and action.

At the same time of self-construction, the tutor arranges students to make selective comments and praises in the circle of friends of the target, with the aim of guiding the target to pay attention to the circle of friends of the students simultaneously. When the other person likes or comments in the circle of friends, it shows that she is very interested in this aspect, which opens a targeted window for the next topic interaction and even the subsequent invitation, thus establishing a secondary attraction more quickly. What needs to be noted here is that in the process of promoting the relationship, we must pay attention to the grasp of the degree and stop all forms of interaction. We should make full use of the push-pull rule, guide the target to make emotional investment and take the initiative. Every detail during this period will be strictly controlled and audited by the mentor group.

4. Compounding stage: establish invitation and complete compounding.

With the gradual improvement of comfort, attraction and trust of both parties, the window of redemption is gradually opened, and the tutor arranges students to interact with the target online and conduct intimacy tests. Through the good feedback from the target, the mentor group began to make a series of invitation plans for the students, and made strict rehearsal preparations before each meeting. With the increasing number of invitations, the relationship between the two sides gradually returned to the initial emotional enthusiasm, and the window of redemption was completely opened to make the final compound plan.

Taking Tong Tong's birthday as an opportunity, the tutor carefully designed the process for the students, and prepared the tickets for Tong Tong's recent favorite star concert and the compound honeymoon travel plan of the city in advance. Tong Tong readily agreed that the two of them had got back together, which would take 27 days to recover.

Fourth, conclusion.

If you don't do everything well, you will get twice the result with half the effort, or even get nothing. But as long as you have a clear direction and find the right method, it will naturally follow. If you love her, don't hurt her blindly. If you love her, take a bold step and try again. Don't let your hesitation miss the best reality, and don't miss the opportunity to live with her because of your mistakes.