When I was about to graduate from college, I went to Zhongshan Daily as an intern, because I really wanted to be a reporter. My sister is the only one who supports me, and my mother is the biggest opponent. Because I take a four-hour bus ride back and forth every day for free, in my mother's eyes, this is basically voluntary labor without any return, and money and time should not be spent on it.
I persisted for more than two months, and my mother talked about me for more than two months. What's so good about a reporter? They work hard and are thankless. In her eyes, journalists don't please, mainly because she knows that my cousin has experienced speaking ill of others behind her back on her way as a journalist, saying that those young journalists are everywhere reporting on them and telling them to close down and go bankrupt. That reporter is someone's son, cursing that he can't get a wife in his life.
At that time, I chose the road of journalists. I have seen those difficulties and I know the bitterness of this industry. But when I try my best to go down this road and try my best to create a world by my own interests, it's really not a taste to be poured cold water on by different people!
Sometimes when I get home and stay up late to write a manuscript, my mother will say: What's the use of not making money? When I come back from college, I don't want you to let your parents support you out of interest. When you graduate, you have to earn money to support yourself, and your parents' support and obligations to you should also end. Interest cannot be eaten as a meal. Finding a gainful job is much more useful than working hard with interest every day.
A person's hobbies are not supported and valued, and that kind of frustration feels that he is completely defeated and has no motivation to persist!
Gange's interest is life-threatening travel. He went to Tibet. He chose to ride a horse. He almost had an accident in Medog. At that time, relatives and friends around him scolded him, saying that he didn't cherish life, that he was sorry for his parents, and that he was willful and naive to work so hard. In short, three aunts and six wives just can't understand his behavior. Since then, he has rarely traveled.
Dadagan later talked about it. He said that when he went to see the world, when he challenged his limits in Tibet, only he could feel the sense of accomplishment and joy, but the people around him could not share it. He is also misunderstood by all kinds, and no amount of happiness makes him feel boring, frustrated and depressed.