All of us are standing under the same blue sky, on the same land, watching the same sun, the same starry sky and breathing the same air. We grew up in the same natural environment, but due to the influence of different social environments, different life experiences eventually grew into completely independent people with completely independent personalities, which eventually led to differences in personal development.

Just like when we were students, the teacher always said to us, "You sit in the same classroom and receive the same teacher education, but your academic performance is much worse."

We often sum up a person's growth regularly. Although ten years seems to be a long time, the most common thing is to sum up ten years.

But time flies, ten years actually flies, especially as people grow older, once time passes, their sensitivity to time will increase, and then when you find your feelings again, you will find that you have wasted a lot of time.

Of course, you don't have these feelings when you are young. Only when you grow up can you understand them gradually. Everyone says that before the age of 30, it is the best time of your life. Because I am young and energetic, I can spend my youth freely and pursue everything I want.

However, few people can hug themselves at the age of 40. Psychological research shows that life is not only worth living in the first 30 years.

Everyone has to go through different stages of life, and each stage of life has different tasks and meanings. People can't accept their reasons until they are 40, just because they are too incompetent.

At the age of 40, I can't meet my inner needs and can only miss the past.

The difference in IQ will not lead to a person's incompetence, because people with very high IQ and people with very low IQ only account for a small part of the normal population. Therefore, the real reason for personal incompetence is themselves. If you know how to cherish time and plan it well, then your life will have a bright future.

After the age of 40, only the incompetent will spend more time on these things.

1 Live in the past forever and don't want to face the reality.

There is a word in psychology that is repeatedly emphasized: "This moment". Many times, people always feel that they can't get happiness. In fact, all your feelings in life are closely related to your three views. Many people avoid their own problems and blame their unhappy reasons on the public or unfair fate.

Psychologist Adler, I think everyone is familiar with him. Although he had an unfortunate childhood experience, he was often bullied by his peers because of his physical defects. At the same time, he occasionally gets sick and even dies in an accident.

However, Adler, who grew up in such a harsh environment, did not succumb to fate. He kept digging the root of inferiority complex, and based on this, he carried out psychological research on "inferiority complex", which provided a way for future generations to get happiness.

Man's ability is controlled by nature. The natural laws of birth, illness and death can be passed. Good and bad are all part of life. Keeping unpleasant memories will only make your life unhappy and you dare not embrace a beautiful new life.

So this kind of person's perception of happiness is very weak, and sadness hurts the body. This negative emotion will even affect people around you. No matter what age you are, you should live an active life, and you will never become an incompetent person.

2. Lack of independent thinking ability, easy to be indoctrinated by others.

Now the information age on the Internet is developing rapidly, which increases our access to information. Now we often use the Internet to acquire knowledge.

On the surface, this is the embodiment of the development and progress of human society, but this network age has also brought us some false news. When we see false news on the internet, we need it, and we have the ability to think independently, judge and distinguish its authenticity.

Usually after forty, people's activity will be lower than before, and the pursuit of life seems to have stagnated. They don't want to accept new knowledge, don't like to discover new things, and just want to stay comfortable. Once people in the circle become like this, they will become passive.

They can't judge the authenticity of information, and they can't be the owners of information. They can only accept all the news from the outside world.

I waste my time on receiving news every day, and I can't enrich myself in my spare time, so I can only understand new things with the help of others. This is also a middle-aged person, and the elderly are easily deceived.

To sum up, if you don't want to be an incompetent person, then you must live in the present, face the reality and have the ability to think and judge the truth independently.