Because every time she talks about what her husband can't stand, there is always a "but ..." I know that women are soft-hearted and can't make up their minds without enough disheartening.
But then for a while, Xiaomei stopped talking to me. I thought their marriage was developing in a good direction, but Xiaomei suddenly told me that they were divorced.
Xiaomei's husband is a complete hypocrite. As long as the family has money, he won't go out to work. On the day when he got a small hairdressing salary, he always asked for something.
Punch or kick. If you give it, you will eat and drink at home for a month until you have no money. Her husband likes to eat and cook in different ways. Xiaomei also comforted herself that if she had no money, she could earn more. There is a husband whose family is still intact.
Her husband is a part-time job and occasionally goes to places where he has a job, but his money has never been used for gambling. Xiaomei has had a miserable life in recent years.
Last time, she got paid, thinking about buying a new dress for her daughter during the Spring Festival. I didn't expect that the family was full of people who came to ask for accounts, all of which were owed by her husband's gambling.
One of them had long coveted her beauty and sat in front of her and touched her, but her husband was indifferent. Finally, the man muttered in front of her husband for a long time and left contentedly.
Xiaomei didn't guess that her husband's garbage had reached this point, because that night her husband knelt down and said to himself, let her stay with that person for one night, and his debt will be offset. Xiaomei asked, "How much do you owe him?" Her husband said, "Five thousand".
Xiaomei blew up, 5 thousand, just 5 thousand. Are you still unable to go or am I still unable to go? It seems imprudent of you to let me stay with her for one night. Her husband said something that made her desperate: "I don't care, why do you care so much?"
Xiaomei called her parents-in-law. For the first time, she felt cold about the man in front of her. She used to be a little dependent. Now, she knows that she is just a person who is not worthy of pity in the eyes of men.
She thought that her in-laws would uphold justice for her, even if she scolded her son to comfort herself, although it might not change anything, at least she felt comfortable.
However, her parents-in-law sighed for a while and finally comforted Xiaomei: "If you marry a dog, you will marry a chicken." If this is the penultimate straw to crush the marriage, then the next thing will make Xiaomei never go back.
Xiaomei drafted the divorce agreement, but she still has a little pity in her heart. She still has feelings for her children and this family for so many years, but she doesn't know where she will go in the future. All she knows is that she can't be embarrassed this time.
The most unexpected thing happened. The husband tore up the divorce agreement angrily and roared hysterically: "I'm in trouble, but you want to run." It's not that easy. " Then he picked up the bench and smashed Xiaomei.
Xiaomei's family came and signed the divorce procedure in the hospital corridor. Xiaomei took her daughter out of the house cleanly. This time, even if the rest of her life is bitter, she should not look back.
Xiaomei said that she had been living in depression for so many years and always thought that her life was ok and would not destroy her family, but then she understood:
There is no future following a rotten person. She regrets the psychological comfort of being brainwashed by herself in those painful and desperate days.
If I find people's bad habits, I will stop in time. Unfortunately, women like to deceive themselves and pretend that they are happy.
Xiaomei's marriage tragedy reveals to us the last three straws that overwhelm a decadent marriage.
The first is the husband's disrespect.
A man who is in debt outside can go home and sell his wife to pay off his debts, and he doesn't care, no matter how difficult and pitiful he is outside, such a person is not worth forgiving.
Such people write all their disrespect on their faces. If the previous patchwork is mainly because of kindness, then this trampling on the bright side will make a woman disappointed to despair.
The second is that in-laws always treat themselves as outsiders.
Marriage is not a matter for two people, but an alliance between two families. Many women marry a person, largely because they think that the parents of that person are reliable and worthy of serious communication.
Xiaomei's parents obviously made a mistake in the face of right and wrong. Even if their attitude can't change anything, San Guanzheng's in-laws can still give the family a little warmth and give the children a little expectation.
In some families, parents just break up their children's marriages unintentionally. They either stretched out their hands too long, were unreasonable or were too indifferent. When there is no warmth in this home, there is nothing to regret.
The third is domestic violence.
This is the bottom line for many women, and it is also the direct reason for many women's divorce. The remnants of feudal thought have made many women suffer greatly, but the inspiration of modern thought has made more women understand that even stopping loss is the courage to start again.
There is no concern and respect, only the days of punching and kicking. If you put up with this for a year or ten years, a rotten person is not worth counting on.
Instead of slowly grinding away a woman's happiness in pain and hopelessness, let go early and give yourself a bright future worth looking forward to.
Since I didn't open my eyes before marriage, if I encounter these three straws after marriage, I might as well lie down and let myself live.