The uncle in our village, who is an ordinary farmer, spent most of his life thinking about farming for a living. He and his wife have a son and a daughter. At the age of 51, his wife died of terminal cancer. At that time, his two children were adults and had already taken part in the work.
Although the children had their own income, he did not stop working, but still insisted on planting crops, and then exchanged the harvested fruits for gold to make a living in the county. Later, when he was 60, his two children got married in the same year. My daughter went to Shenzhen, Guangdong, and my son went to Zunyi City, Guizhou Province as a door-to-door son-in-law.
At that time, his body was still very strong, so both children chose to leave him to find their own happiness. He thinks there is no problem, so he has no objection to the marriage of the two children. He has stopped farming since the children left. Instead, I go to crowded places in the village every day to chat with my peers in the village, sing songs or play the erhu.
During the day, accompanied by the companions in the village, I solved the problem of one person, but when I got home at night, I ate and slept alone. He thinks he should consider the rest of his life and find a wife to accompany him. He waited left and right and concluded that it was the best choice to go to the square dance and use the opportunity of the square dance to find the other half.
So he began to dance in the square at 8 o'clock every night in the city. During the square dance, he met many peers, all single, but people disliked that he was too old, had no economic foundation and didn't want to spend the rest of his life with him. Therefore, his days of square dancing in the city only lasted for two months.
Later, at the age of 66, because of a stroke, my foot was swollen, painful and inconvenient to move. So he not only lost the ability to entertain with the old people in the village, but also lost the ability to take care of himself. Even so, he did not tell his children about the difficulties, but chose to use his savings to ask a nanny to take care of his life.
After hiring a nanny at home, the nanny will chat with him, help him with housework, and sometimes put him in a wheelchair, and then push him into the village to play with the old people. It's really convenient to have a nanny, but the nanny's monthly salary is 3 thousand, plus living expenses and her own medical expenses, it costs at least 5 thousand every month.
He thought that he would sit still and spend all his savings, so he thought of a way to kill two birds with one stone, which could make money and entertain himself. He sent a nanny to invite workers to his house, helped him decorate the first floor of his house into a small shop, and bought daily necessities and cigarettes and alcohol in the city to sell.
At the same time, there is a large color TV and some entertainment equipment for the elderly, such as erhu, chess and mahjong. His move is really effective, because it attracts the old people in the village to gather at his house for entertainment every day, so he is no longer lonely and bored, and relies on the income of the shop to supplement his family.
Although the profit of opening a shop in the village is not very high, it is not even enough to pay the nanny, but at least it is an income, which can reduce the burden. I think his way of providing for the aged is perfect, so when I get old, my wife is gone and my children are not around, I will learn from this uncle in the village.
Ask the nanny to take care of herself first, and then open a canteen in the village. You and the nanny take turns to look after the store. Because the nanny takes care of me alone, he shouldn't be very busy, so I can let him look after the shop. I chat, sing or have fun with the old people in the village. Personally, I don't want to go to a nursing home anyway.
Because living in a nursing home feels uncomfortable, it is inconvenient for a large group of people to live together like at school. At the same time, the living environment and living conditions in nursing homes are far less than their own, and the meals eaten in nursing homes are unified and not free. Too many places where the elderly live will stink, which will seriously affect their health, so I choose not to go to a nursing home.
What I said above is the best way to provide for the aged, but let's make a final decision because of our own situation. Finally, based on my personal thinking, I recommend the following three ways of providing for the aged for your reference.
The first way: the first choice is to live with our children. Wherever they go, we will follow them. After all, they have an obligation to support us. However, the premise is to educate children well and let them know how to repay kindness and filial piety. Otherwise, even if we live with them for us, they will always give us a look, and we are not practical.
The second way: if the children's families, such as parents-in-law, don't welcome us to live with them, we don't need to embarrass the children. You can choose to sell the house in your hometown, then rent a house near where the children live and ask a nanny to take care of yourself. This will allow you to see your children often and help them take care of themselves.
The third way: if the child won't let us live with them, and at the same time won't let us move near where he lives, ignore us. We can choose to sell the house and then use the money from selling the house to support the elderly. The money from selling the house is enough for our old age.
Since they don't know how to be grateful and filial to their parents, why should we give them all our hard work? What should be sold should be spent. After all, we are old and can't take away the so-called wealth when we die.
I am most qualified to answer this question. I am 56 years old. Divorced ten years ago and still single. One year after the divorce, my daughter went to another city after being admitted to the university, and then went to the United States to study, work, get married and get married. The possibility of returning to China to settle down in the future should not be too great. r
In fact, I have lived alone for many years. Oh, no, I still have a little friend-Dog Iron Egg. Walk the dog twice a day. I get up at five o'clock in the morning to walk the dog. When I have class, but when I have no class, I can't sleep late. After seven o'clock, Iron Egg will definitely wake me up. Although he can't speak, that action is exactly the same as when I woke my daughter up in Xiaoxi. Very gentle but purposeful. In the evening, I will take an iron egg for a walk by the lake next to my home, see flowers and trees, and listen to all kinds of insects and birds singing. Spring has come, and I am surprised to see flocks of wild ducks. Poems like "Prophet of Duck Warming on the Spring River" will naturally flood into my mind. I am a teacher. Besides taking classes, studying and walking the dog, I often go swimming in the gym. I have been in this business for many years, and my figure is much better than that of ten years ago. Because I have to get up early at night and dare not go to bed too late, I have been living a strict life. r
Many people say, how can a person cook? How to eat alone? Relatives at home always say: you should eat well. Actually, it's not a problem for me at all. In recent years, the number of eating out has become less and less, and most of them cook at home. Regardless of other people's tastes and preferences, do what you like and feel healthy, and eat whatever you want. Think about cooking according to other people's preferences every day, eagerly waiting for others to go home for dinner, disappointed again and again, sad again and again. I'm really happy now. r
Although my daughter is far from the other side of the ocean, she chats or videos with me every day. I basically know what's going on in her mind, what she ate, what she did, what she bought, where she got a pimple and where she broke a small hole ... Similarly, she knows my situation like the back of her hand. I have winter and summer vacations, and I visit her in the United States once a year for 30 to 40 days, traveling and shopping. She comes back from work less often, but it will never be more than two years. Now it's a global village, and distance is really not a big problem. r
I really enjoy this independent and quiet life at present. I also hope that my daughter can work hard while she is young and enjoy her love and family life. So at present, my vision for my future life is to live at home alone when I can take care of myself and go to a nursing home when I can't. However, I hope I can go to a better nursing home, so I may need some financial assistance from my daughter. r
I used to be very scared. A person suddenly fell ill at home, and no one knew what to do. What should I do if I go to a nursing home and get abused? Now I'm not worried about that. Seeing my old father off the year before last and thinking of my father's old colleagues and friends, I clearly realized that no matter how prominent your position is, no matter how many filial children and grandchildren you have, the last stage of life is painful and helpless. It is a great thing to leave quietly without bringing pain and trouble to the children. As for being abused in a nursing home, you will suffer. If you can't take care of yourself, what are you doing living for so long? Besides, these are the worst endings I can think of, and there are countless better endings. So don't worry about the future at all, living a good life in front of you is king.