I have been married for half a year, and I found that I didn't feel anything when I had sex with my husband. Every day is the same long foreplay, and then I gently enter. It's really a little too old-fashioned But, of course, I can't complain, let alone tell him. I don't want him to think I'm a slut. I think it's a blessing to marry a good man like my husband. After all, sex is not the only thing in marriage.
However, not long ago, my husband came back from a class reunion and got as drunk as a fiddler. That night, he pushed me directly to bed like a different person. He asked me many times a night, which was very exciting. However, after waking up the next day, he returned to his old gentle style and kept apologizing for what happened the night before.
Now, we have resumed the gentle "routine" before. I am ambivalent. I want to talk to him, but I'm worried.
Analysis: Men in China are generally conservative and introverted, adhering to Confucian forbearance. However, medical experts say that for urban white-collar workers with high work intensity and pressure, proper emotional release is a good way to relieve stress. Xiaojie MM wants to have her own sexual happiness. Since it is not convenient to say it directly, she should adopt some circuitous tactics to release the two "savage little monsters" in the hearts of both husband and wife in a gentler way!
1: Let him relax as much as possible.
Many women will make some family rules that are very important to men. For example, you can't fall in love without bathing, you can't sleep without washing your feet, you can't kiss without brushing your teeth, and you can't eat irritating food such as onion and garlic for dinner. These are the "invisible killers" who make your husband's heart go further and further.
Smart women should understand that marriage is not a prison, and no man does not love a gentle wife who is reasonable and respects his own preferences. So, try to let your man wander for a while, and you will find that even if you don't take a bath for 1 or 2 days, it's no big deal. Eating onions and ginger won't kill you. A man is tired enough to support his family. When he comes home, let him relax as much as possible.
2. Take the initiative to hint and encourage him to say what he wants.
In fact, it is particularly easy for women to talk to men about something, and it is not necessary to talk seriously, especially in bed. It's really too easy for a smart woman! A man who loves his wife deeply will change himself because of the other person's preference, so when watching movies together, you will find that your man suddenly starts to exercise;
If it is not convenient to talk at ordinary times, find a suitable occasion and excuse to express it, such as giving yourself to him in sexy underwear on his birthday; For example, pretending to be drunk and releasing their inner sexy wildcats under the cover of alcohol; This will not seem too abrupt to scare him, but also give your man a temptation hint that "the daughter-in-law is also a very aggressive person."
3. Reward him for his new tricks
If your man is enlightened and starts to do some new tricks in bed, you must remember to reward his performance in time. Because men are generally insensitive, sensitivity is not human nature, especially in sex, which is the weakness that men care most about.
Therefore, jokes such as "good pervert" and "you are sick" must not be said at the initial stage. Don't let your steady husband take off his disguise, and then beat him back into the protective shell with a word that hurts his self-esteem. There are many ways to reward, and there are many ways to reward a man. Giving him his own way and releasing his voice when he is in love is the most powerful encouragement for men.