1. There are many people in life who love to care about and compare others. They like to stare at the people around them, and it seems that they can't see the wider Xinghai. Appropriate comparison is conducive to your own progress, and excessive comparison will only make you exhausted. There are several proprietresses in the town who do business. They like to go to beauty salons, shopping malls and gyms together. They seem to be at peace with each other, but in fact they are competing with each other in secret. No one agrees who looks good. Everyone thinks he has an advantage over the other. Their children are cuter and smarter, and their clothes make them look better. Everyone will feel younger than each other. In fact, everyone has an illusion that they are both 40-year-old people. After meeting for several years, they always feel that the other person is older than themselves. Just like every pair of parents, they just think their children are the most beautiful and lovely. No one will think that their children are worse than anyone else. Even if their brain IQ is not high, she thinks their children's cerebellum is the most developed and more promising.

I like to unconsciously enlarge my own advantages and the shortcomings of the other side. Some women like to compare their husbands with their children to see if their husbands' income is more painful than theirs. When they find that everything is better than themselves, their hearts will be unbalanced, and they will start to complain about life, their husbands and their fate. They never think that everyone expresses love in different ways. Since we are together, there is always love. Besides, what others describe is not necessarily her true feelings. Every family has a difficult experience, and life is full of mixed tastes, such as fish drinking water, knowing oneself in cold and warm. Many sisters-in-law like to compete in secret. You bought silver earrings, and I have to buy silver bracelets. You bought a new coat and I bought a New Pants.

Who says there are only two feelings between women: sympathy and jealousy? Mi Yue and Mishu in the TV series The Legend of Mi Yue were good sisters at first. Mishu took good care of Mi Yue, and they poured out their hearts to each other. However, under Mi Yue's step-by-step love, the good sisters finally turned against each other, which was embarrassing. Love to compare, love to be jealous, let Mi Gu go to the abyss step by step.

2. Some people who write lyrics also like to compare with others, compare fans with popularity, and so on. The so-called literati despise each other. What is the comparison? Everyone's writing style is different, and so is his writing motivation. Some people just write my own words. The future of this long writing road is uncertain, and no one can see the endless scenery. Just write your own words optimistically and frankly. If you don't write a famous story now, you may not be able to do it in the future. If you are thriving on a certain platform now, you may not be able to continue to prosper. If you are unknown on platform A, you may prosper on platform B, and there is unlimited room for imagination in writing.

Comparing who is healthier is the last word. Whether it is the love of comparison or jealousy, it is everywhere in life. It can give people pressure and motivation, but how to grasp that degree is what we have to practice. Life is short, pay less attention to others, pay more attention to your own soul, pay more attention to your own growth, learn more from others and compare with yourself. Exercise more, go to bed early and get up early, keep a good attitude, work happily and live happily, that's all.

Woz Kishore said: No matter who you are, at least you have three points of ambition. There is nothing to hide. Ambition itself is a will to pursue a better life. But being too competitive is also a pathological condition. Is to build all happiness on winning or losing. A strong life does not strive for strength. Both struggle and compromise are indispensable. Life is like this, you have to fight half, and you have to retire half. It is difficult to be happy without any half.

China people like to judge others, point fingers, grasp the shortcomings of others to satisfy themselves, and cover up their inner emptiness and self-confidence by comparing themselves. ? But we should distinguish between comparison and healthy competition. Healthy competition promotes development with different starting points and different needs. Too much comparison can easily lead to jealousy, which is the root of all evil and ultimately harms others. Benign competition is to learn the bright spots of others with an appreciative attitude and eventually become a better self. All sentient beings, the vast sea of people, when did they go? Less competition, more enterprising. Improve the pattern, broaden your horizons, pay more attention to your self-cultivation and concentrate on yourself.

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