? Boys with a monthly income of 3,000 have already worked hard in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. After paying the rent, the basic living expenses are met, and it is estimated that it is only enough to invite my girlfriend to eat mala Tang and eat Lanzhou food in Shaxian. As for going abroad for vacation, watching movies and singing KTV, don't even think about it.
When shopping, everyone wants good quality and low price. In intimate relationships, are girls willing to entrust themselves to "good quality and low price" love?
Actually, it is possible.
one
When I met Huanhuan, she worked as a shopping guide in a supermarket, and her boyfriend Kang sold mobile phones at the counter next to her, which cost less than 3,000 yuan a month.
Huanhuan is a handsome and lovely girl. At that time, a small boss of a physical store pursued her. Huanhuan hated his fooling around and ignored him from the beginning.
A Kang worked hard, but he didn't help the customer understand the problem, so he got it done the next day. It's a star employee in the store. She is also considerate of Huanhuan, saving money to buy her snacks. Of course I know, for Kang at that time, that was all he could give.
Huanhuan is also very motivated. She said she didn't want to be a shopping guide all her life. Two people meet to go to night school together and study the same major, because it is not convenient to take time off together. Since then, I can hardly see Huanhuan and Kang at the same time when I go to the supermarket. They always take turns in class and take turns in the wrong class, but their feelings are getting warmer and warmer.
Later, Huanhuan and A Kang graduated from night school, left the supermarket, went to work in different enterprises, became office white-collar workers, and continued to work hard for a better life. Later, they got married and had children. Friends often saw pictures of them tasting delicious food and beautiful pictures of a family of three at go on road trip, enjoying themselves and enviing others. Everyone said that Kang gave Huanhuan all the girls the life they wanted.
Huanhuan's love is from scratch, but it has been on the road of continuous progress and rise. A promising intimate relationship, let them achieve each other. Although it started from poverty, it finally became rich.
No one will refuse promising love, as if sailing in the deep sea with a lighthouse ahead, so "good quality and low price" love is certainly worth having.
two
Liang Jing is my best friend, with family business, overseas study experience, beautiful and high emotional intelligence. It seems that all the good fortune in the world has been taken by her.
I thought Nicole's family background was to unite and marry into a richer family.
So I was surprised when I met Nicole's boyfriend Jason. Jason and Nicole met while working out. They have many similar hobbies, such as sports, music and small animals. The most unexpected thing is that Jason's job is the department head of a foreign company, which is two grades smaller than Nicole's title of marketing director and has much less income.
But after a meal, I soon understood why Nicole chose Jason. He is a gentleman, considerate to his girlfriend and polite to his girlfriend's best friend. He is talkative but knows how to respect others, and will not make the scene very embarrassing, but he will consciously stop when the girls speak and leave the right to speak to the girls; Most importantly, he is humorous and optimistic. He always makes Nicole happy and has a positive attitude towards the future.
That's enough. Although Jason is economically equivalent to Nicole's low salary of 3,000 yuan a month, they are equal in spirit. A "poor boy" who can keep up with the white spirit must have good self-restraint and potential, and I believe that the status quo of women being strong and men being weak will not last long.
Many times, women look for men not only for money, but for communication, conversation, care, emotional support, understanding, tolerance and uncertainty. If all these are satisfied, it explains the possibility of another kind of "good quality and low price" love.
? three
Jie Jie is my primary school classmate. Maybe it's a good relationship. After graduation, she stayed in school as a teacher. She chose to obey her parents' arrangement and married the husband of bank clerk Nan.
After getting married, J.J. learned that the bank staff in An 'an are third-party agreements, that is, temporary workers outside the establishment, or hired through relationships.
Jie Jie told me that she gradually changed from expectation to disappointment. Jie Jie will still prepare for the next day's class after work, or teach herself English and computer. Now is an era that needs to keep pace with the times, not to mention that she is a teacher herself.
As for Nan, I am tired of crying when I come back every day. After dinner, she either plays games in front of the computer, or chases TV plays more than women, or goes out to drink with friends. Every time J.J. shows him professional books on business, he always shirks his tiredness and says that he has worked in a bank for several years and will become a full member when the time comes. Why bother? Just making a living.
Outside the establishment, A Nan's salary is not high, but in a few years, Jie Jie surpassed her. She was rated as an excellent teacher, participated in the teaching level competition on behalf of the school, took students to participate in national and municipal competitions, and became the backbone teacher in the school, while Anan was still lying on the credit book with confidence.
I met J.J. some time ago. She told me that Anan failed the probation period and was laid off by the bank. Without a skill, he fell into a middle-aged crisis and failed to find a job repeatedly. Jie Jie intends to divorce Nan.
Nothing happens for no reason. Herzberg, an American psychologist, has interpreted the motivation theory of things from four aspects: challenge, recognition, responsibility and personal growth.
Jie Jie and Nan have reached the point of divorce. The big reason is that in this intimate relationship, the pace of their growth is not consistent with each other. Girls' expectations of themselves and their expectations of each other are like direct proportional functions all the way up, while boys are like inverse proportional functions all the way down. The two sides experienced an intersection. At that intersection, the girls tried to make the boys accept the challenge, gain the recognition of the boys, stimulate the boys' sense of responsibility, and let them move in the same direction, but failed.
? After all, two straight lines that run in opposite directions can't get fully grown "love", and naturally it can't be "good and cheap".
four
Everyone said to cherish the girl who laughs behind the bike with you. Spending the best years of my life with boys is the most frustrating time for girls. A boyfriend earning 3000 yuan a month, is it worth a girl to gamble her cardamom years?
The difference is, is it 3000 for a while or 3000 for a lifetime? If it is a lifetime, I am afraid that no one wants to be so noble in "helping the poor"? Hopeless intimacy is like a stagnant pool, which makes people flinch.
If it is only a period of hard work, boys have a passionate fighting heart, are willing to use their own efforts to change a brilliant tomorrow, and are willing to fully absorb and sublimate in the spiritual world, and grow up together with their beloved girls, then I believe that most girls will feel a little wronged at first. What is it?
"Good quality and low price" love exists, but we should face it with a positive attitude. We take the train of love to make our life journey more and more beautiful!