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The first thing to note is two points.
First, before learning methods, we must first change our mentality.
Most men define themselves before speaking when they meet strange girls. I can't. She won't talk to me. I am very nervous, because you only see the difficulties, which are actually your own psychology.
Let's think differently. I am very popular, I can, we are polite and she is willing to contact me, or you can communicate with that girl as your best friend, and you can tell her anything you say to your best friend.
That will reduce your nervousness and anxiety, and also reduce your embarrassment in getting along.
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Keep your body free of peculiar smell, your face clean and your clothes clean. Image is the most basic courtesy and respect between people.
Especially for strangers, the first impression is very important! It determines whether the other person wants to get along with you, because it is polite.
If you don't dress neatly and have greasy hair, what do you have? Masculine? Then don't blame the girl for ignoring you. After all, if a beggar woman comes to talk to you, you will stay away from her.
Give a real case of a student for your reference.
Xiao Jia is a member of the gym. At first, he just arrived at the gym and didn't have any fitness clothes, but he didn't know what to buy. I had to ask the coach (girl) to help me choose. In order to maintain my membership, the coach agreed and made an appointment to go shopping together on Saturday.
On the same day, the two talked a lot about fitness and talked about why they fell in love with fitness. The two sides talked very speculatively.
In order to thank the coach for accompanying him to buy clothes, Xiao Jia invited her to dinner, so the two met.
In the days to come, two people will exercise together and have more and more contact. Sometimes they will travel together and eat delicious food together.
Later, he gave us good news that he was divorced and his girlfriend was a female coach.
It's as simple as that. Two people naturally know each other and develop naturally. This kind of understanding is taken for granted by both sides.
Let's see how to use the right method!
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What should we talk about when we meet for the first time?
You need a reason, a reasonable reason! If we want to communicate with strangers, we must first know what we can say to make others like to communicate with us and what we can't communicate with. First of all, let's look at taboo topics that can't be said.
1. Taboo: You can't talk about each other's privacy directly, because it is impolite! (You can use chat skills to get each other's private information)
What is a taboo topic?
For example: What's your name? How old are you? Are you single? ; Are you alone? Are you married? What do you do? What is your family like? If a stranger asked you this question, what would you think?
Will it be puzzling? Do you feel that the other party has a purpose and the self-protection mechanism is open? Do you want to keep talking to him? I don't think so!
Grandparents don't pay much attention to privacy, and everyone lives together. There is nothing to keep secret. If I ask you a personal question, you will tell me that the relationship between two people is naturally closer because of mutual trust.
But now the times are not good! Everyone has his own space, and he doesn't want others to interfere unless he trusts you. There are many modern people who like to ask private questions, especially men!
For example, when boys and girls chat on WeChat, they will say: How old are you, where are you, what's your name and so on. But the result is either that the girls ignore it or that there is nothing to follow after the answer, which is very impolite.
How to get each other's private information through chat skills? Beat about the bush! For example, we want to know whether this girl is single. You can say.
Nice to meet you. Take your boyfriend one day and let's go to karaoke!
If a girl is not single, she will say:? Ok, let's make an appointment another time. .
If a girl is single, she will say:? I am still single. .
It's that simple. If you are always chatting with girls, you should take a good look at the following!
2. Talk more about open topics or topics of mutual interest.
What are the open topics?
For example, gossip about stars and knowledge about constellations, including girls' jewelry, hair, bags, clothes or asking for help, can all be used to make a fuss.
Take the above example as an example:
Student Xiao Jia said to the female coach, I don't have suitable fitness clothes. Do you know what kind of fitness clothes are good?
Then, the female coach will recommend him a batch of clothes suitable for him to choose from.
Student Xiao Jia said that he knew nothing about the fitness clothes recommended by the coach, so he took the liberty to ask the coach to choose a suitable dress for himself.
In order to maintain the membership, the female teacher agreed, and the two naturally met.
Open topic is a polite topic that does not involve personal privacy and can communicate with the public. The above example is based on the open topic of fitness clothes, so let's talk about what the other person is interested in.
Real cases of private students
Boys and girls meet at Starbucks. At first, they didn't know each other. If you want to meet a strange girl, you need a reasonable reason. Let's see how our students do it.
Girls are interested in the topic, and taking photos on mobile phones is definitely not acceptable! Nine out of ten girls take photos with their mobile phones and one with a camera.
When the student was drinking coffee, his eyes suddenly lit up, and a girl appeared, which attracted him very much and he wanted to meet him very much.
So he took the camera and asked the girl how to take a good photo. ?
The girl saw that the boy's image in front of her was not bad, so she told him how to compose the picture and what angle to take pictures from.
We students don't know much about it, so we asked the girls if they could practice it and learn from it.
Then the two began to interact, take selfies, make coffee and magazines, and had a good time.
Finally, our classmates and girls exchanged WeChat, saying that we can go to the auction together if we have the opportunity!
Later, the student chatted with the girl by the chat method we taught him and reached an invitation. In this way, the two became more and more familiar.
We will also teach him how to get along with girls in dating, so that the relationship between the two people will warm up, and finally the two people will naturally fall in love, as simple as that.
Note: If friends encounter various emotions? Difficult diseases? . Open the official WeChat account to talk about your feelings, chat and make friends, get rid of being single, save your girlfriend and plan your life. There are experienced teachers on the internet to answer questions and help you get out of emotional confusion and run towards happiness.
You can also join the QQ exchange group: 72 1673 123. There are professional teachers here to help you solve the problem.
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Most men watch the so-called chat-up, dating, one-night stand and PUA on the Internet, which has a very bad influence! Say the same thing to every girl and eventually become a talking beast.
We can't learn those wrong methods and thinking! This girl is a living person. She can jump, cry, laugh and think.
She also plays mobile phones and computers. Boys can see this online, but girls can't? What do you want to do with a girl? You think a girl doesn't know your routine?
What we need to learn is to enjoy the feeling of communicating with girls, and it is also the first step to actively communicate with ourselves. It is a wonderful thing to be eager to communicate with girls and get to know each other.
As long as you are sincere, polite and communicate with girls normally, girls will be happy to meet you.
So don't feel embarrassed, let's communicate and know each other boldly. Maybe the one I gave you will pass by your eyes tomorrow. Don't hesitate, touch bravely and grasp your own happiness.
If you get along with girls, the above situation occurs. Then you should think about your relationship.