1
I am a good student.
But not a good intern.
Just yesterday, I left my job.
I am a gentle sunshine otaku/boy at school, with beautiful grades and well-proportioned figure. Chatting with me is always surprising and full of energy like spring breeze.
I am meticulous and thoughtful.
I will patiently and attentively complete the requirements of teachers and friends, and I will admit my mistakes and correct them and laugh them off; At the same time, for the sake of friends and classmates' face, I will turn my "suggestions" and "corrections" into friendly and euphemistic reminders in public (including but not limited to classes and WeChat classes), or I will swallow my words and chat privately. ...
I believe that in a free and relaxed environment, getting along with people will be more harmonious and efficient. So I get along well with my friends and my roommates. One detail is that housekeepers and students on duty generally take turns to be on duty. At the same time, in some courses, such as indoor landscape painting and outdoor survey, the teacher asked us to come and leave when we wanted to finish our homework.
Everyone is comfortable and everyone likes me.
I made a lot of efforts and got the internship opportunity of the best school-enterprise cooperation company in June and July at that time to continue my school-based behavior. But after nearly four months of collapse, I finally left. My friend comforted me and said:
"You are a good student, but you are not a good intern."
Because I have the illusion that I can eat all kinds of new tricks at school and use them at work, and the result is often self-doubt, loss of confidence and emotional breakdown. Finally, I had to leave my job.
The direction is wrong, and the efforts are in vain; Wrong method, get twice the result with half the effort.
2
I'm here to finish the task.
Not to make friends.
My first leader was sharp and funny.
He is quick-witted and clear-headed, pragmatic and efficient, never talks nonsense, and is always resolute.
It's never easy to have sex with him. He won't tell jokes to coax you to work, nor will he calm your mood with a smile.
Every work report is a spiritual test, and everyone is treading on thin ice.
If it goes well, he will throw a stalk to make everyone smile, and then put away his face and continue to challenge you;
If it doesn't go well, he will interrupt you mercilessly and pat you on the wall, but for good reason. From now on, you should never expect anything.
He won't hide his unhappiness. He can't tolerate stupidity. He said he would change his face if he changed his face. If you are regarded as "not striving for progress" by him, you will become a waste in his eyes and will never lose your beauty.
He has a pet phrase-"What is this?" If he asks three times in a row, your sweat will come down.
Sometimes, you just think he is a mean and cold capitalist, a vampire without humanity.
The other side of the story is:
Subordinates need exercise, and when the project is in a hurry to draw pictures, he will work overtime with them to guide the general direction and ensure good quality; At home, he scolded you to pieces, and when you went out, he stood up for you; He will seize the opportunity to give advice to the big boss, seek benefits for the team and reduce unnecessary workload; When his subordinates are ill or his wife gives birth to a child, he will approve extra holidays.
Then, the number of overtime work per month is reduced, the weekend is basically closed, the team runs at a high speed, and the performance increases;
It's a bit cruel, but the fact is: the job satisfaction of a person and a team never depends on arbitrary collective self-satisfaction; But by output results and emotional management.
Comfortable environment and unrestrained state are helpful to study and get temporary pleasure, but they can't achieve the ultimate goal, so as to change themselves and improve their quality of life.
A good person in the workplace is to manage emotions, make good grades and be responsible to the boss; A good family member is self-regulating, improving harmony and being responsible for parents and children.
This is professionalism, and this is the logic of business. It is also the family's responsibility to open the correct posture of "every family has a difficult experience."
As he always said, "I'm here to do things, not to make friends."
And a necessary and sufficient condition for doing things well and making life better is to manage your emotions.
three
A strict teacher on the field and a friend off the field.
Workaholic, life poet
Li Jian, a singer known as a music poet.
Li Jian is the most humorous mentor of China's voice in 20 18. And this charm lies in his self-management of emotions.
On the court, he will give extremely harsh and professional comments, and he is extremely kind, interesting, brave and sincere when interacting with students and other tutors.
When he hears his favorite voice, he will not hesitate to press the button and turn around for the students. When interacting with the tutor, he said, "Is there any reason not to turn around?" Teacher Jay Chou smiled and translated it into words that we could understand. "Is there any reason not to look back?"
When the Li Jian team is competing for the qualification of the Bird's Nest concert, and only one student, Tenzin Nima, is left, he will also worry that he will take "playing instead of the students" as a joke to relieve the pressure. At the same time, he will adjust his mentality in a few minutes, recover as before, and send the most powerful refueling to Tenzin. In the end, they got their wish and won the championship on the night of the Bird's Nest sprint.
On the other hand, when training students to leave the class, he gives you advice and accompanies you to exercise, just as a teacher is more like a friend. Before the final, he revisited his hometown and gave Tenzin a Yu Pei, wishing him that one day he could really blend the voice of his hometown with the music of the times and sing it to more people.
So when we like Li Jian, what do we like?
I don't know what you like about Li Jian, but I like the way he has always been. He is free and clean, and never deliberately.
It is said that his songs are simple, clean and moving. In fact, his songs are his life.
Li Jian is a person who really understands people's lives.
He said, "Being a happy person is cooler than success."
No wonder, on 20 15, Lifestyle Research Institute made a "20 15 Lifestyle Creative List" and awarded the award of "Lifestyle Creative Person of the Year" to Li Jian.
Therefore, when everyone knows that Li Jian is a music poet, I want to say that he is a life poet, which can be known from his and his wife's daily life.
Li Jian's wife's name is Meng Xiaobei, but Li Jian always calls her "Little Shell".
Li Jian only likes to waste time on his little shells.
One day, the reporter came across Weibo of Small Shell and showed us the love between Li Jian and Small Shell:
2065438+February 25, 2005
Mr. Vacation leaned against the door and watched me tidy up the teahouse.
He smiled and said, "We are playing an idiom in this state."
"What is it?"
"Stand by and watch."
2065438+September 22, 2004
I water the garden,
The businessman who came back last night said through the screen window:
"The days with you are time,
Otherwise, it's just a meaningless pendulum ... "
When the wind blows, small flowers and plants are dancing.
20 14 August 13
Mr. Coffee made an excellent espresso.
I chose black truffle chocolate balls,
He looked at me and said, "Where did you get so much delicious food? You are all hiding, like a little squirrel! " "
2065438+July 26th, 2004
Steak, tomato noodles and Mediterranean salad were prepared for lunch.
I said, "I've had enough nutrition today. Let's be vegetarian tonight. "
Mr. Fitness said, "I feel that there is a lack of fish in my body ~"
May 30, 2065 438+03
Mr. jet lag wakes up at noon.
I said I did a lot of things in the morning:
"Water the flowers and plants, do homework, send emails and go to the office for meetings."
He said: "I also did a lot of things and had several dreams!" " "
………
Isn't this kind of life a bit enviable?
Li Jian appreciates the endless love between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang. He doesn't like to mess himself up with others.
He said, "Love is to find the right person to waste time."
The reporter asked him, "Where did you spend your honeymoon?"
Li Jian smiled and replied, "I have been on my honeymoon all my life."
You see, people who know how to manage their emotions are all people who can survive, happy people, and poets who waste their time on their honeymoon by finding the right person.
Dedicated to every poet who understands life.
four
A good life comes from good emotional management.
Use willpower, habit.
I don't understand my first leader: I think he is unreasonable and too harsh. Looking back on these four months, when writing this article, I began to thank the high-pressure forging and solid accumulation during that time.
Just like taking a team is not a dinner party, laughing and laughing, and there will be no execution if you are comfortable; Just as gentleness, diligence and happiness will not be effective, emotional management also needs methods, execution and willpower.
Don't indulge yourself, don't be emotional, this is irresponsible to yourself;
It is my greatest responsibility to learn emotional management, improve my ability to resist stress and gain a stronger heart.
"Micro-habit" wrote: When a behavior becomes a habit, you will become less emotional at first, and this behavior will even start to be a bit boring. Of course things will turn out like this. Jeremy Dean wrote in "Form Habits, Break Habits": "Habits can not only be captured by cognition, but also can not be mixed with emotions. ..... It's strange that people get used to behavior and have no emotions. "
It can be seen that people who know how to manage their emotions live better, which is scientifically justified. Because most of us spend 80% of our time doing habitual things, self-emotional management is particularly important.
Of course, this does not mean that it is unrealistic for us to give up our emotions and become robots. Instead, you hope we don't give up because of emotions. We can get good things, as long as we can manage our emotions and make good use of our willpower, and then form good habits. After all, the more good habits a person has, the greater the possibility of success.
Secular desire is a compulsory course in life, and emotional management is our remote control.
To every manager of self-life.