Sisters believe in breaking up. Actually, I don't think breaking up is that helpful. The main thing is to give the other party some calm space so as not to aggravate the contradiction, and then the contact information is all black, and they don't communicate with each other, completely blocking their own way.
Some sisters want to create a sense of loss for each other by breaking up, reminding him of his own good, which is also quite low.
Because boys are more receptive to new people than girls, a person who is not suitable for him will want to find the next one at the first time, instead of looking back for you.
Some sisters may have got back together, and it's usually a fake breakup. When the anger is over, everything will be fine. Besides, you have actually become a spare tire. Because he can't find anyone better than you outside for the time being, he will come back to be with you first, and there is a hidden danger of breaking up again.
Therefore, I suggest that if it is not because of particularly sharp contradictions or some principled issues, it is best not to break up blindly for too long. Calm down for ten and a half months is enough. By the way, you can consider whether you really want to save it.
Because the recovery process is not easy, it may be better for you to slowly let go and accept new people.
If you still want to get back together after calm consideration, you need to be mentally prepared.
Because you may be wronged in this process, you can't expect him who broke up with you to understand your feelings. It's nothing to be wronged in the early stage, but there are plenty of ways to grind him after he took the bait in the later stage. That's how I came over.
Sisters first need to understand that love is a relationship of mutual supply and demand. If you want him to be with you again, then you need to grasp each other's needs and always let them know what you want, so you still need to do what you like in the early stage, so that he will be willing to contact you, at least not so disgusted with you, and you will have a chance to express yourself.
The way to express yourself is mainly through the construction and contact of friends circle. When you break up, you can't tell him everything, which will be very puzzling and will make the other party know you too well and have no mystery.
Therefore, seven points depend on the circle of friends and three points contact. If girls establish a circle of friends, they mainly focus on appearance, life interests and social circles.
The appearance is easy to understand, such as losing weight, exercising, changing hair style, trying different dressing styles, learning makeup and so on. Give him freshness and physical stimulation. It's not impossible if the other person comes to talk to you about getting back together as soon as he gets up.
Some sisters may not like to send friends, especially their own photos. I can only say that people can't be static, and they always have to make a breakthrough to give others a different feeling, and I personally don't think this is a sign of self-confidence.
You must have confidence in your recovery and be brave enough to show yourself. If you send photos, you should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. It is best to send full-body photos, because the figure can be practiced, and some girls may not be so outstanding by nature.
But the figure is in her own hands, and such a girl can take more photos of her body. For example, trying on clothes when buying clothes and going to the gym for exercise are all good photo choices.
If you still have contact information to contact when you break up, it is best not to break up and keep in touch, even if the contact frequency is very low, there are very few words.
Because it is too difficult to reconnect after disconnection, it will be embarrassing, and it will be deliberate to suddenly appear after disconnection for a long time. If the connection cannot be continued.
Then you have to understand that breaking off diplomatic relations is not the purpose. How many things can you do and what role can you play during the disconnection? This is the meaning of breaking off diplomatic relations. During the disconnection period, we should also start to establish a circle of friends, which can play a role in brushing the sense of existence and facilitate the reunion of topics.
The time, topic and frequency of contact need to be cautious. It is best to contact at night. Everyone has a good meal after work and enters leisure time. And people at night are generally more emotional and have a greater intention to contact you.
Topics can start with some insensitive topics, you can share your life, you can also say something you are involved in or you are concerned about.
Don't talk about anything related to feelings, even if you think you have done something wrong before, don't say it, which will bring back the other person's bad memories. Even if he brings it up on his own initiative, you should try to change the subject.
It is best to choose SMS at the beginning of contact. Try not to make voice calls or make phone calls, which will expose your emotional needs. Moreover, if you make a phone call, you have no time to think and reply, and it is easy to enter silence.
Don't contact her every day, and there is no need to keep a fixed frequency. Generally, you can contact her once every three or four days. Don't think of a topic and say it at once. You can accumulate it, and then contact two or three topics when they are together enough.
Only in this way can there be room for manoeuvre, so don't touch it by force. For example, if the other person shows that he doesn't want to talk to you, or suddenly chats with the other person, he should end the contact in time. Sometimes, when they are chatting with each other, they can suddenly stop contacting each other and make each other feel lost.
The other is the taste of life, which is actually your usual living habits. What do you do outside your normal work life? Don't be too addicted and don't want to do anything after sisters break up. Do you think you might attract him?
You must live a wonderful life. Most people compare their lives with their predecessors after breaking up. You must live a wonderful life and make him unhappy after seeing it. As long as he is unhappy, according to the law of human nature, he can't help but pay attention to you.
In this way, your changes can be conveyed to him more timely and attract him more quickly, such as going to the gym, learning to dance, expanding various skills and traveling.
You can also make many new friends, which is convenient for the next social circle construction.
If you have any questions, you can ask them. I'll reply when I see them.