Where is it?

In two years, I will be 40 years old and become a standard middle-aged person. I can understand the midlife crisis. It's like a swamp. If you are not careful, you may be in a desperate situation.

This middle-aged crisis does not mean that there are no friends around, that the relationship between husband and wife is as light as water, and that the body is not allowed to stay up late.

This is a real economic dilemma.

A real case around me, a couple, his wife resigned on 20 19 and started a K 12 training class. Her husband joined Hengtai as a salesman and took out his family savings to buy Hengtai wealth management.

The 2020 epidemic came, and the training course was yellow. 202 1 double reduction policy came, and the training course was closed directly. The house didn't blow up, Hengtai was in trouble, her husband was unemployed, and her financial management was thunderous.

This is a typical midlife crisis. Twenty years later, I was heavily in debt.

A few days ago, when I swiped the official WeChat account, I happened to see a group of real estate giants defaulting on their recently due debts. One of them,

I bought an auction house in his house the year before last. If this company goes bankrupt, my family's work for decades will be in vain.

The midlife crisis is that once the salary is paid, it is immediately put aside. Mortgage and car loan, children's education fees, interest classes and real estate are all indispensable.

Although buying a house is equivalent to getting on the bus. But it is also a crisis. There are a few pieces of news that I have always kept in mind. A few years ago, ZTE's senior engineer jumped off a building because of his job transfer, leaving his wife and two children behind; Some time ago, a code farmer in today's headlines went out of the gym at night, had a heart attack, left his wife and children, and had tens of thousands of mortgages every month.

This is the weakness of middle-aged people. If there is any trouble, the family may not be able to maintain it.

Even more difficult is the employment of 35 years old.

This is a problem that migrant workers have been nervous about. Outside the system, no one dares to say that he can work in a company for a lifetime, especially in some high-paying positions. Coupled with the tight epidemic prevention situation in the past two years, the low tide of real estate and the fluctuation of international trade situation, the feelings of migrant workers are more obvious.

Some people say that in the face of the 35-year-old crisis, we should always maintain our learning ability.

According to my observation, it doesn't have much effect. The reality is that age is a hard injury. As long as you are over 35 and choose a new job, you may be rejected. It doesn't mean that your learning ability is not good, and it doesn't mean that you can't bear hardships.

It's that others are embarrassed to tell you what to do directly, because when you are old, the tone of communication is not easy to grasp and it is easy to hurt your feelings.

I can't even keep my job, let alone support my family, even myself.

How to get out of the middle-aged crisis is actually directly equivalent to how to have a relatively stable income after 35 years old.

I think the examination and compilation is a way worth trying. Even though it has become a barren land in Siberia, only a few animals survive.

The other is to practice lying in school and stop pursuing traditional values of success. Buy a house, buy a car, get married and have children, throw them all away. As long as there is no debt, there is no crisis. It is certainly easier to support one person than several people and pay the real estate agent on time. There are already young people who understand this problem better than I do. Since last year, I found that many wedding shops have closed, and fewer and fewer people may get married.

As for how to support the elderly in the future, I may not have thought so much. Lie back, drink a few mouthfuls of fat house water happily, and play a few games when you are in trouble, which is very satisfying.

Learn to lie flat and everything is safe.