Probably all the profound spiritual loneliness of human beings stems from nowhere to live in the heart, so Marquez said that loneliness is the curse of nature on gregarious people, and I feel the same way! I don't want loneliness to gnaw at my soul and destroy my body and mind, so I started a long journey against loneliness.
I started to work out. Good sisters get together, travel, karaoke; Learn poetry and try to write, read books and movies. Many famous books that I haven't read before are now carefully read with a learning attitude. Read Lu Yao's books and know how to move forward in a miserable life; Seeing the serial studio, I understand the helpless life of many frustrated people; After watching Gone with the Wind, I understand the rise of women in desperation. See anna karenine and Madame Bovary to understand how women should love and live. ...
Loneliness makes me think, and pain makes me grow. Fitness makes me confident and happy, and reading makes me feel. My vision and pattern have been expanded, my thoughts have become mature, and my heart has become full and rich. I have learned a lot about the truth and the true meaning of life in loneliness, and I have become more and more aware of my future goals. I am no longer confused and desperate, and I have stepped out of the quagmire of loneliness.
In 2007, I had a college degree in logistics in a public institution. Doing nothing all day. Colleagues around think it's nourishing to barbecue together after work and have a cup of tea at work!
I am always dissatisfied with this state.
I’m not doing anything right now. I told my colleague if you could come. I just need to be on duty in your class.
Facing the machine every day, I failed in my first year of study, that is, 2007.
In 2008, I failed in the exam.
In 2009, I passed the entrance examination with the same academic ability and was admitted to the master's degree by unified recruitment. ...
It was my loneliest day. The future was uncertain and everyone questioned it!
The result will change everything!
Although I fell into the trough again today, I am very grateful for that experience!
Everyone has experienced loneliness. Most people in life have experienced loneliness, long and short, and some people even live alone until they are old.
Shortly after my divorce ten years ago, my child went to a key high school in other places. At that time, I retired early for physical reasons, and I was alone in a big house of 140 square meters, which was called quiet all day.
Fortunately, I like reading books, history and poetry since I was a child, so I read all the books about poetry in the bookcase and then began to buy books on Amazon, two or three times a month. First buy blindly, then buy systematically. Up to now, I have thousands of books about poetry.
Besides reading, I also learn calligraphy from teachers in cultural centers. I write dozens of newspapers every day and copy Ou Yangxun's Ninety percent Palace repeatedly. I specially bought a big desk in the living room. The desk is full of pen, ink and paper, and the walls are covered with all kinds of calligraphy and painting. ...
I also began to learn to plant flowers, azaleas, bluegrass, four-season plum, cyclamen and so on. First, I gave a few pots, then dozens of pots, and then I gave them to my relatives and friends because I couldn't put them down at home.
To this day, I still like growing flowers. Although I didn't become a calligrapher or a poet, those books and words really made me get rid of loneliness quickly and made the monotonous days colorful.
Thanks to that experience, I became a different person.
Loneliness is a bisexual word. Some people are afraid, others are happy. Lonely people eat alone, go shopping alone and buy clothes alone. It can abolish people, leaving lonely people with nowhere to tell, and they will be obsessed with games for a long time and will never recover; It can also make a person get used to being alone, get used to loneliness, and know how to get along with loneliness, that is, get along well with himself and make a person. Such people are generally self-disciplined. Even a person will not indulge himself without supervision.
Always used to being alone.
I feel very lonely since the second day of junior high school. That year, I didn't even see my closest relative where you would go for the last time. Since then, I have been full of guilt, and I often dream that I will burst into tears every time I wake up until ten years have passed. Then one time, I felt abandoned by another close relative. From then on, I felt that the whole world was on me alone. After these two things, I became more and more silent and did not like to talk. Although I have some good friends, I have never told anyone about it, for fear that it will make my memory clearer in the future. So I have been studying hard to escape this fear and loneliness. I can't let go now, hoping to let myself out in this way.
Later, I graduated from college and signed a company. I thought the outside world was very good, and I always wanted to go out and start a business, but I was disappointed when I arrived at the company, which was far from what I expected. I decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination while working and rented a house outside. Although I have to work and study, I still feel lonely and frequent. Later, I resigned for the exam. But the postgraduate entrance examination failed. Now I have to find a job in the city alone and rent a house alone, but loneliness is still accompanied.
Now I am looking for how to get along with loneliness and how to get along with myself. Find out how to sublimate and improve yourself in loneliness.
In the year when I was laid off, I was really depressed for a while, depressed and listless, and shut myself in the house all day. In the face of sudden laziness, the whole person became like a headless fly and lost his direction.
However, in the face of this family, I have to carry it, and I can't just lock myself up.
So I began to look for ways to break through.
After investigation, combined with their own situation, help people, take turns day and night, drive a taxi.
Taxi is a small society, and it can contact people from all walks of life. This also let me know that some of them are heavily in debt, their former boss is bankrupt, and there are disabled teachers in special schools ... compared with them, what is my blow? !
In this way, I not only found my goal in life again, but also shouldered the burden of my family.
So, loneliness is not terrible. The terrible thing is to hide loneliness in your heart and not take the initiative to find a solution.
Always believe in yourself!
Writing helped me through my loneliness.
20 13 years, sudden cerebral hemorrhage. Although the hospital pulled me back from the death line, I still left the sequelae of hemiplegia.
After leaving the hospital, my colleagues avoided me intentionally or unintentionally. After all, no one wants to associate with patients or disabled people. Although I think I am radiant, and I am the main leader; But the truth is cruel. To tell the truth, I was depressed at that time, but fortunately, my teenage son accompanied me on weekends, and my heart finally settled down. In order not to let my son feel that his father is a burden, I have strengthened my determination to write. I know very well that only when I have made enough achievements in writing and my strengths are long enough can my weaknesses be characterized as hemiplegia.
I wrote harder and became a locally recognized pen. Because of the publicity of high-quality schools in our province, the year-end target management assessment of schools has become the only unit in the education system with full marks for many years in a row. The whole school should re-examine me, and I have become the moon in everyone's heart.
Also signed a contract with the novel reading network and became a local network, which was interviewed by many provincial and municipal media.
Life is nothing more than business failure and the disappearance of the future. There is no money in the waist and there is no hope of changing careers.
When I was less than forty years old, I experienced the most brilliant days and nights in my life, indifferent and sad! !
Ruthless years, I have long understood that Qian Fan's taste on the edge of the shipwreck is to feel sorry for me again! ! !
That year, I was unemployed at home for half a year, and the hopeless eyes of my wife and children crossed my heart deeply. Why can't you see that ray of sunshine on cloudy and rainy days?
Like winter roots, they wait for the cold to leave under the frozen soil. Loneliness is a mountain. When I turned it over, I realized that there was no difficulty in front of my body!
When my old father told me that "it's boring to be old", I thought, my mother has left, everyone about my father's age has left, and we are no longer with him. Who does he talk to every day?
There is no doubt that my father is lonely. Lonely father walks around the yard every day, sometimes looking at jujube trees in the front yard and plum trees in the back yard. He has nowhere to go.
The premise of loneliness is to be alone. People are animals that move in groups, although they have individual lives and thoughts.
But some people can tolerate and enjoy loneliness, while others can't. Loneliness will drive him crazy.
Li Bai wrote: "Birds fly high, and lonely clouds go to leisure alone. Seeing each other tirelessly, I only respect Tingshan. " How lonely Li Bai is! His loneliness lies in his talent, ignorance and uselessness. His heart was bitter, so he had to pin his feelings on Jingting Mountain.
In the face of loneliness, we should also entrust our hearts to others in order to get through loneliness.
First of all, be prepared. Everyone is lonely sometimes. Loneliness is not terrible. Plan countermeasures. For example, cultivate hobbies and enrich yourself every day. Reading, writing and painting, sports and fitness tourism, flower making and so on. How can I be lonely when I have these things to do alone? I'm afraid there's not enough time.
Secondly, we should fully enjoy loneliness. Many people have many advantages, but loneliness also has its beauty. When you are alone, calm down, think carefully about gains and losses, and think about the significance of your pursuit and struggle in life. Think about what else to do and so on. Sometimes I want nothing. Blowing the wind, listening to music, no longer busy, no longer responding, just staying quietly, how comfortable!
So, in the face of loneliness, don't be autistic, take the initiative to attack. Either follow your own plan or fully enjoy this lonely moment. Today, with advanced information, the world is just around the corner, with endless stories and endless beauty!
Hello, I'm glad to answer your question!
I had a lonely period, very lonely, that kind of helpless loneliness, is quite stubborn and stubborn.
I believe that all people have been lonely, but they have experienced loneliness in different ways.
There is a famous saying: don't be confused, don't be trapped in love, don't be afraid of the future, don't miss the past, so be safe!
I used this mentality to accompany my loneliness at that time.
Story: I took the last remaining money and suitcase from working in the city and resolutely embarked on the road to a different place. My little sister gave me a lift. She said: "You must pay attention to safety when you go to such a strange and far place alone!" I know she is worried about me. In this rough decade, she was my best little sister and helped me in my most difficult time.
They say people can't forget their roots. I always tell myself who helped you on the road of life, and your reward is to live harder. After saying goodbye to her, I embarked on a lonely journey to welcome a new beginning.
I was really courageous at that time. A girl went to a strange place, first stayed in a hotel, rented a rented house for 500 yuan, and then used her mobile phone to find a job. After finding a job, I started to work from nine to five, gradually stabilized and bought a second-hand electric car as a means of transportation.
Such a person's loneliness, after a long time, will naturally get used to it. Life at two o'clock and one line every day, although lonely, is also very fulfilling. If you make money, you will go shopping everywhere.