And most people have become the latter.
Young, but always complaining and sighing;
Anxiety about the status quo, but no courage and perseverance to change themselves;
Doing anything is a three-minute heat, and the most persistent thing is that you can't stick to it;
Holding a mobile phone all day, Weibo can't brush it anymore, and the news in the circle of friends has been read over and over again;
I don't have any special hobbies. I just want to stay at home and eat junk food and watch boring TV on weekends. ...
Are you also like this now: your living habits are messy, you are confused all day, you are anxious about the future, but you still waste your time without direction and meaning.
I used to think that being a man should eat, drink and enjoy the present, but laziness has become a habit and self-discipline has become the normal state of life. However, I am more and more miserable and hate myself more and more.
When laziness slowly devours the soul, it will only become empty, numb, inferior and sensitive in the end.
Wang Xiaobo said that all human sufferings are essentially anger at their incompetence. Self-discipline is the fundamental way to solve the pain of life.
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sports
I haven't seen Dali for over a year. Seeing him recently surprised me.
Looking at this tall, muscular and smiling young father in front of me, I can't imagine that today last year, he was a 200-pound fat man with a fat face.
I'm surprised at his change, but I admire his persistence even more.
In the past year, he ran almost every day, at least six kilometers at a time, in the park in spring and autumn, and in the gym in winter and summer.
Running is a particularly painful process, and there are always several hurdles to overcome if you want to stick to it.
Know yourself vigorously, once you stop, everything will run aground.
So he forced himself, tried to convince his body, and slowly accepted, adapted and got used to it until he enjoyed the process.
In the first month, he walked to and from work and walked back and forth 10 km;
1 month later, he got up an hour early and tried to trot;
Two months later, he was able to run 5 kilometers in one breath;
After three months, 1 hour and 10 km are no longer a problem.
Long-term persistence depends not on external pressure, but on internal motivation, which is actually self-discipline consciousness. Only by integrating this consciousness into the blood can we persist.
The original intention of running is to be healthy. Nowadays, running is more meaningful for energetic people.
Running early every day, seemingly repetitive mechanical movements, is actually injecting the freshest energy into yourself.
Running made him learn forbearance and persistence, made him feel the sense of relief and happiness after sweating, and relaxed the tension imposed on himself by work.
There may be only one reason to keep exercising, but in Qian Qian, there are thousands of excuses to give up exercising. Self-disciplined people never make any excuses for themselves.
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get up early
Basketball player Kobe once said, "Do you know what Los Angeles looks like at four in the morning?"
He said, "Every day at four o'clock in the morning when Los Angeles is still dark, I get up and walk in the dark streets of Los Angeles. One day has passed, and the darkness in Los Angeles has not changed at all; Two days have passed, and the darkness has not changed at all;
Ten years later, the street darkness in Los Angeles at four o'clock in the morning has not changed, but I have become an athlete with strong muscles, abundant physical strength, great strength and high shooting percentage. "
You see, getting up early is really profitable.
The morning time is very precious, with clear thinking, suitable for study, exercise and thinking. If you wake up and lie in bed, you will feel dizzy and have a bad state all day.
Get up 1 hour every day, 365 days a year, and you have 365 hours of efficient time.
The writer Haruki Murakami has the habit of getting up early. "When writing a novel, I basically get up around four o'clock in the morning. I never use an alarm clock, make coffee and eat snacks, and start working at once. The key is to get into work immediately and don't procrastinate. "
And most of those who can control the morning are not too bad.
My former colleague, a young mother, worked for 3 years, insisted on getting up early every day and quietly admitted to Peking University as a graduate student.
College students, who get up early every day after graduation, insist on reading and writing, update the official account of WeChat, and recently quit full-time writing;
My iron girlfriend got into the habit of getting up early, doing yoga for half an hour, reading for half an hour and cooking breakfast 15 minutes. In the past, their skin was sallow, but now their skin can be blown out and their mental state is getting fuller and fuller.
Many small things, short-term persistence may not have much good effect, but as long as you do it, every effort and time you pay will be rewarded to you in another beautiful form in the future.
For those who have no habit of getting up early, getting up an hour early will undoubtedly make them very depressed, so it is better to take your time.
Try to get up early/kloc-0.5 minutes, or half an hour, go to bed early, step by step, do what you like, and find out the best rhythm of getting up early.
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time
Self-disciplined people often have strong time management skills. No matter how busy the work is and how tired the life is, everything can be carried out in an orderly way.
They have clear goals. Every day, every week, every month and every year, they will know what they want to do and what kind of effect they want to achieve.
A friend of mine, a young mother, decided to make a change when she realized that life was gradually changing beyond recognition.
In 20 15 years, she dropped from 130 kg to 100 kg and was admitted to Peking University as a graduate student.
In 20 16 years, I ran 1000 kilometers, read 100 books, completed a marathon, and got three job-related qualification certificates.
In the first half of 20 17, I ran 100+ kilometers every month and read 5+ books every month. ...
All these changes stem from a strong sense of wanting to be better and from self-discipline.
Seeing her list of plans, I suddenly felt that a self-disciplined person was terrible. What can't such a person do?
Get up at 5: 30 every morning, read books and do exercises 1 hour, make breakfast at 6: 30, feed and dress the children at 7: 00, and go out to work at 8: 00;
Run at least three times a week, read two books, skip a day to detoxify, and get together with friends once;
At the end of the month, while summing up this month, plan the arrangement for next month, buy the books to be read in advance, and sort out the materials that need to be reviewed in advance.
The annual goal is to run 800 kilometers, read 100 books, and gradually approach the ideal university.
Self-disciplined people are terrible and respectable.
Some people may think that this mother must be free, right?
She is the planning director of an advertising company. It is normal for her to work from nine to ten. Needless to say, she was very busy, but when she was almost crazy about implementing this plan, the time left for her was a notice of admission to Peking University graduate students.
Everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not foreseen.
Good time planning has magical effects. It can make you focus, calm and patient when you do anything, instead of anxiety and anxiety.
When you finish all the goals in the plan one by one, your inner satisfaction and sense of accomplishment are enough to offset the pain when you carry them out.
04
Self-discipline, first of all, is reconciliation with yourself.
There are many people in life:
Obese people clearly know that it is the result of their "inability to control their mouths and keep their legs open", but they never think that they have the power to change the status quo;
People who always stay up late to work overtime complain about the boss's squeezing, but never think about how to make a reasonable time plan to avoid overtime;
People who envy other people's lives always attribute the success of others to their own good luck, and there are too many good luck. But the cruel fact is that they brush chicken soup all day and envy others for being beautiful, thin and rich, but they never change.
In the final analysis, this is an escape and an immaturity.
One of the signs of a person's true maturity is to realize that your life is meaningless to others. Similarly, other people's lives have little to do with you.
A truly self-disciplined person will not spend a lot of time complaining, jealous and complaining, but will make peace with himself, face the reality and assume his due responsibilities.
Actively accept your imperfections.
Everyone has a side that he doesn't want to touch, but it is these imperfections that make us unique. Subconsciously encourage yourself appropriately and affirm yourself. Only those who love themselves can get the love of others.
Learn to be alone.
The soul is destined to walk alone. When a person is disturbed by the noisy outside world, it is difficult to live a good life. Reading, writing and drawing, no matter which way you are alone, you can hear your inner voice more clearly and know yourself better.
Be grateful.
Complaining won't solve anything, it will only make you more and more angry. Control your emotions, think from another angle, and treat people and things around you with a peaceful attitude.
Let now be the best choice.
There are many choices in life. Choose a dress, a job or a university. When you have made a choice, you may have no choice, so don't have other ideas. Go all out to make this choice. Time will naturally bring surprises.
People who know how to reconcile with themselves can concentrate on finding ways to break through the status quo and stick to it. You don't have to compare with others. For myself, a little progress every day is enough.
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Only a self-disciplined person can control life.
The philosopher Kant said: the so-called freedom is not arbitrary, but self-dominated.
And those choices that really make people better will not be very comfortable.
Only when you are eager enough can you have strong willpower to support and motivate yourself to stick to it.
You don't have to force yourself to live an ascetic life, but you should find a living habit that suits you and can make you better. Running, drawing, writing, cooking, fitness, learning English. ...
Many things may not have good results if you work hard, but you should still firmly believe in the truth of accumulation, make a little progress every day, feel your ability to grow and get better, and be close to those seemingly unreachable dreams.
Italian writer Calvino said:
"I have no confidence in anything that is easy to get, fast, instinctive, impromptu and ambiguous. I believe in the power of slowness, peace, carefulness, sureness and calmness. I don't believe that individual or collective liberation can be achieved without self-discipline and self-construction and hard work. "
If a person is not disciplined, no one can save him.
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I have always admired such people. The most precious expression conveyed between eyes is calmness and calmness, and a pair of eyes reveals happiness that can only be felt with peace of mind.
If you don't want to accept the mediocrity and gloom now, and don't want to be mediocre all your life, then please start from self-discipline and change yourself.