"How self-disciplined you are, how free you are" is a collection of various articles by author Kathy. Kathy, a post-85 hot mom, should also be an online cafe in the media era. Her articles are often found in Weibo and WeChat official accounts, such as Focus on Thought, Reading at Ten o'clock, People's Daily and so on. I have published two books, and you always put yourself down too easily. The bigger lie in the world is that you can't do it.

And this book is a bowl of chicken soup. But my personal feelings are too strong to accept at the moment. The ideas and examples in the book are vivid and instructive, but they are not practical. Readers of different ages may have different feelings. For readers my age, this book can only be a bowl of chicken soup.

It is mentioned in the book that "anyone who does not implement specific actions is a rogue." This sentence is very good, but I feel that the author's point of view is too like chicken blood that has not been implemented in specific actions.

Let's look at the chapter titles in the author's book:

People who live seriously, life will never treat you badly.

I'm not afraid of anything, but I'm afraid of regretting it all my life.

The more unsociable you are, the less likely you are to be excellent.

You are anxious because you think it is easy for others to make money.

If you don't want to be anxious, live a regular life first.

……

How do these headlines make you feel?

How many bowls of thick chicken soup are there? Anyway, I think so.

Then look:

Don't work hard at the age of 20, and wait to cry at the age of 30.

Work hard while you are young, and the older you get, the more you can't support your unwillingness.

The way of thinking determines whether you will be a character or a waste in 10 years.

You are thriving in your original field, can you change the battlefield?

These are just all the subheadings in the first chapter of this book.

After reading it carefully, my heart is numb. Maybe I'm too excited and I'm afraid. I don't mean to belittle the author here, but as far as this book is concerned, it may really not be suitable for people over 40.

1

Everyone knows the benefits of self-discipline, but as an ordinary person and a diaosi, how can we achieve self-discipline? Is there any good way to recommend it to us? I didn't see it clearly in the book.

The book says: A truly successful person must live a regular life and keep learning. For example, take an hour out to read a book every day, exercise for an hour, get up early and recite ten English words, and study industry trends before going to bed.

I agree with all these methods. However, there are certain rules in daily life, isn't that our present state? Isn't it very regular for us to work at two o'clock and one line every day? We have adhered to these laws for many years. Why are we still so far from success?

My personal understanding is that the author may confuse self-discipline with law. Having a regular life doesn't mean that this person is self-disciplined. Self-discipline doesn't mean you can live a regular life. It is normal for most adults to work and study step by step every day. But self-discipline is not something everyone can do.

So, what is self-discipline?

The explanation in the entry is: in the absence of on-site supervision, through their own requirements, change from passive to active, consciously abide by the statutes, and use it to restrain their words and deeds. It also refers to the moral code that is not subject to external constraints and emotional domination, and acts according to one's own good wishes and moral laws promulgated by oneself.

Self-discipline is self-requirement, and law is only a rule requirement. Self-discipline is a test of human nature, and law is only an adaptation to the system.

2

I disagree with some points in the book.

For example, if you don't work hard at 20, you will cry at 30.

For example, if you work hard when you are young, the older you get, the more you can't support your unwillingness.

Personally, I always believe that life is never late. It is such a famous saying that I am over half a year old and continue to study hard, hoping that one day, my writing will be accepted and recognized by most people.

Yes, we should work hard when we are young. If you don't work hard, your time will be wasted and you will face more and more difficulties. Thirty or forty, getting married, having children, elderly parents and a serious illness may all be inevitable. But when you are poor, are you really poor?

People who are truly successful after the age of 40 abound. Being a late bloomer is an opportunity given to everyone by God, only to see how you grasp it.

Of course, I'm not saying that we can stop trying when we are young. We can't wait for a late bloomer. But when we were young, we tried hard but failed, so we were doomed to a dead end in our life.

Escape when you are young, and you will inevitably cry when you are old? Is it too one-sided? When you are young, if you choose to escape, if you choose to slack off, if you choose to be lazy, then when you are old, is there no chance at all?

When we are young, we may be intimidated by difficulties, hurt by laziness, or tempted by feasts. However, if we wake up in time, if we can start over, if we stop complaining, opportunities will also care for everyone.

Did I have any regrets when I was young? Yes, but I didn't give up. Before I come to the end of my life, who can give me a conclusion?

three

Reconciliation with yourself, reconciliation with the world, and acceptance of your ordinary life. This is another view of the author.

I don't know if you feel a little embarrassed.

I accepted my ordinary life, I reconciled with myself, with the world, with my parents, with my emotions and with my inner peace. But what about my success? What about my efforts? I drank a big bowl of chicken soup, and finally you told me not to be sad, but to learn to put it down?

My heart can no longer be calm.

Yes, we are adults, I am free, I should be responsible for the biggest failure. But you told me before to work hard while I was young, and then you said that you don't have to be sad if you don't succeed, you should learn to let go? What the hell should I do? Do I really have to say with emotion: I have learned a lot of knowledge, but I still have a hard time?

Life is halfway through, no matter what the next days will be, but continuous efforts should be the theme of every stage of life.

I don't know if I'm relieved, but obviously I'm sad. When I was young, one step at a time, muddling along, let me deeply understand what it means to be young and not work hard. But I didn't give up, I didn't make peace with myself, and I didn't make peace with the world.

I have always believed that life is a practice. If you don't get to the end, you shouldn't talk about it. Learning to let go, after all, is a very difficult thing. I'm not a Taoist. I'm just an ordinary person. I can't let go.

I can't let go of my pursuit of fame and status.

I can't let go of my desire for money.

I can't let go of my attachment to the people I love and the people who love me.

I can't let go of my brilliant delusion for the rest of my life.

I am who I am, a speck of dust in the world, an ordinary person who smells like copper and is full of fantasies.