2. You can quarrel, not have a cold war. Falling in love and quarreling are inevitable, but long-distance relationships can't be cold war, and there are not many opportunities for communication. Once the cold war begins, if you don't contact each other for too long, your relationship will be just like a direct breakup, and a fake breakup will become a real breakup.
3. Propagandize that you are not single with a sense of ceremony. * * * Use couples' heads, friends' background pictures, and wear couples' ornaments. , improve their non-single status in all directions. Long-distance love is very weak. On the one hand, it makes you feel the state of love through the sense of ceremony, on the other hand, it also gives your partner a sense of security.
4. Meet once in a while. Meeting can be agreed, or it can appear as a surprise without saying hello, but it must be arranged on the agenda. After that, put away the train tickets and plane tickets to remind ourselves that even if we are separated, we can still meet.
5. Tell the problem. In case of contradiction, let the problem be exposed as soon as possible, speak it out, and don't sulk. Long-distance love is a sulking life, and most of them don't know it. Thinking will only get you into a corner and then try to make the problem disappear by ending the relationship. In fact, many times, as long as you tell the problem, you will take a big step to solve it. Two people have business and quantity, and each step back is the wisdom of getting along.
6.*** has made progress. There must be your reasons for your separation, perhaps because you have to endure such a period of time to separate your efforts to pursue your dreams. Don't forget that the purpose of parting now is to be better together in the future, to be independent and better, just to be together and have a better future.
7. Do the same thing and synchronize your feelings. Different places just separate the two places, but you can still do the same thing and share your feelings with each other. Watching the same movie, listening to the same song, reading the same book, and then discussing and communicating on this topic is a good way to create an * * * experience.
8. Track and pay attention to their social network status. Sharing life through major social platforms has become the daily life of modern people. Many people, because they are close lovers, neglect to pay attention to their social accounts. But for long-distance love, keeping attention and comments and tracking the dynamics are not only a window to understand each other's state, but also a way of communication and interaction, and should be involved.
9. Trust each other. Long-distance love can easily lead to distrust and misunderstanding. Many times, even small things will be magnified by long-distance love, and a hug and a look can solve the problem, which seems powerless. Therefore, we should pay attention to accumulating trust at ordinary times, give each other enough trust, make ourselves credible enough, and prevent all the possibility of being misunderstood.
10. Avoid excessive communication. For a long-distance relationship, communication is very important, but it is also important to avoid too much communication. Some people are on call 24 hours a day for fear of losing their feelings, and ask their partners to do the same. As a result, both of them got along very tired. Originally, they wanted to enhance their feelings, but as a result, they made their relationship worse. Being out of control of your life is terrible. We should communicate, but we should also avoid excessive communication and not put the cart before the horse.
1 1. Carefully plan the future of * * *. Seriously discuss with each other, tell each other what your future plans are, and in what form, incorporate each other into your own plans. Discussing your future will help to build your understanding. Even if you encounter difficulties and contradictions, you will still believe that you are inseparable from each other.
12. empathy. In the process of long-distance love, there may be various small emotions between couples that cannot be fully conveyed to each other. At this time, they may think that the other party is unreasonable. At this time, we should learn to put ourselves in each other's shoes, be more humble and understanding, and be less skeptical and refuting. In fact, in most cases, take a step back and take a soft step, and things will pass. Compared with arguing about right and wrong, feelings come first.
13. Invest in yourself and maintain value competitiveness. Instead of worrying about whether lovers will remain loyal in long-distance love, it is better to invest in themselves, improve themselves and maintain their value and charm. Having the confidence to keep each other is never a problem in a different place.
14. Take advantage of holidays to travel together. To test whether a couple can last long, take a trip. This is especially true for long-distance relationships. By traveling together, we can not only test whether they are suitable, but also reconfirm each other's importance.
15. Admit your mistakes bravely. When you find that the problem lies with yourself, please remember to take the initiative and bravely admit your mistake to the other party. Don't be afraid of embarrassment, and don't expect you not to apologize. The other party will take the initiative to contact you and turn things over. Because it is a long-distance relationship, you don't know when it is a silent breakup. As long as you cherish this relationship and realize that you are really wrong, admit it bravely and apologize in time.
16. Endure loneliness and temptation. I once talked about a foreign love when I was studying in England, and my boyfriend was in Hong Kong. At that time, a foreign boy pursued me. After I refused, I said, "It doesn't matter, we will be separated sooner or later." Later, I never contacted this person again. This is not paying and sacrificing, just talking about the bottom line and unshakable red line of long-distance love.
17. treat different places as opportunities. Many people will regard different places as "obstacles", which is actually not good. If you don't really like it and have a choice, I believe no one wants to talk about long-distance love. Since a different place is inevitable, you might as well regard it as an "opportunity", a minimum "test" to test your loyalty and whether you can grow and become better. I believe that after experiencing the feelings of different places, you will be more closely linked and cherish the time together.
Listen, if you have any complaints. If you want to be free, being single is great. Don't fall in love. Falling in love is troublesome. Especially in a long-distance relationship, you may accept many complaints from the other party, or you may be helpless and miserable because you can't solve the problem for the other party. What should you do at this time? What you can do is to listen attentively and not complain. The other party told you when they knew there was nothing you could do. In fact, he just wants you to understand your feelings and comfort you, so even if you can't be there in person, at least be a good listener.
19. Do one more step in everything. Paying attention to some small details that even the other party may not think of can often have unexpected effects. For example, a girlfriend in a different place complains about dysmenorrhea and asks the courier to send brown sugar the next day. The key is not whether the brown sugar water is useful, but that your heart is in place and you care about things that even she didn't expect, which is much more practical than the airy sentence "drink more hot water".
20. Get through this and get married. Long-distance love is such an anti-human thing, you have survived it, and there is nothing to live for. Walking through a strange place is a lifetime.
Love is separated by mountains and seas, and mountains and seas can be flat. Although mountains and seas are far away, they can't compare with love.