Every father is like this, expecting his children to grow up, but at the same time reluctant to let them grow up so quickly.
What moved me most was the row of certificates in the photo.
These certificates are not talent certificates or award certificates, but donation certificates.
It turned out that Sendie donated a corner of the library and donated her lucky money to the foundation with the money she earned from housework in peacetime.
What a lovely, kind and sensible girl.
In life, Cindy often does some housework. Sometimes, as soon as Tian Liang gets up, he sees Cindy and her brother sweeping the floor on the balcony.
Sometimes after the recording of studio programs, Sendi will help the staff clean up the garbage on the floor.
I still remember when she was on the show, she was only five years old. She could pick vegetables, wash vegetables and dig the ground. ...
Now 12-year-old Mori has grown into a big girl. The habit of doing housework since childhood has always made her consciously maintain a high degree of self-discipline.
You are not only good at your lessons, but also keen on fitness, violin, surfing and playing tennis. What a versatile man!
Netizen exclaimed: Tian Liang, how did you raise your daughter?
Tian Liang shared it before, hoping that children can experience the joy of work, learn life skills, and realize the difficulties of parents in housework. Why not?
Tian Liang's parenting skills are really scheming!
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A survey by China Academy of Educational Sciences found that:
Compared with children who can't do housework, children who can do housework do it 27 times better.
What is the concept of 27 times?
Your child failed in math, and his classmates got full marks.
At the same study time, other children leave your children behind just because they do housework.
In Mango Taiwan variety "Teenagers Say", a boy shouted to his mother:
Mother refused:
In order to become a better person, it is necessary to guide children to do housework.
However, a survey shows that primary school students in China only work 12 minutes a day.
Compared with the average daily working hours of American pupils10.2 hours and Korean pupils' 0.7 hours, children in China live in an environment lacking independent living conditions.
Parents in China always feel that their children are still young and housework is far away from them, but none of them has become very fond of housework overnight.
As long as parents guide them properly, housework can also be a game. Children doing housework properly will not only delay their studies, but also tap more fun of self-growth.
Huo Siyan's son, uh-huh, took the initiative to do housework since he was a child.
He wanted to help his mother make "juice" and threw the fruit directly into the clear water. Thinking that the "juice" was ready, he rightfully gave it to Huo Siyan.
Huo Siyan took a sip of tasteless water and praised it as "delicious".
This compliment made Uh-huh full of motivation, and he continued to "make juice" and tried again and again.
Huo Siyan didn't lead him to use the juicer until he was almost tired of trying.
At the moment when the fruit juice was made successfully, uh-huh looked like a warrior who was struggling to explore the unknown, and finally found the treasure, full of surprises and feelings.
Under the guidance of Huo Siyan, uh-huh made housework an interesting thing.
After dinner, he consciously helped his mother collect the dishes, take out the garbage and clean the table. He has a rich expression and shows no reluctance.
Psychologist Professor Li Meijin said:
A child who can do housework consciously will be able to live independently in the future.
If you want your child to win at the starting line in the future, enjoying doing housework is the best way.
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A 75-year-old famous study by Harvard University found that children who love housework are happier and more likely to succeed.
Their unemployment rate, crime rate and even divorce rate are lower than those of children who don't like housework.
See a news that shattered the three views:
A 48-year-old doctoral student from a prestigious returnee school has been reluctant to work since returning to China. He has good hands and feet, but he depends on his mother for food and shelter.
His mother is 80 years old, uremia, and treatment is very expensive every month. She expected her son to come back from school and give himself a support, but she didn't expect Ben Wu's son to depend on his mother for survival.
Why doesn't he want to work?
Because work is too tiring.
How does a doctor in Dalian who hasn't washed dishes learn to live independently overnight?
The mother said that her son just refused to be independent, expecting her to give him some living expenses every month, even if he died, he would not go to work.
Seeing that the days are running out, the mother can only take her son to court.
She sighed and said:
What should I do if I am admitted to a prestigious school?
Without the ability to survive independently, it is still a mess.
You think that children's failure is accidental, but in fact failure is inevitable.
Building blocks make a forest, and water drops wear away stones. When I was a child, I couldn't wear clothes properly, and I couldn't walk the road of life when I grew up.
My best friend's child is 8 years old. In order to let her study hard, she contracted all the housework herself.
As a result, in a long-distance running of a sports meeting, the child's head rope was broken, so he couldn't tie his hair, so he had to go home with long hair and cried:
The girlfriend realized that her baby's self-care ability was too poor compared with children of the same age. Even if her academic performance is good, she will still feel inferior and even be excluded and laughed at by other children.
When children are young, almost every parent will worry:
What if the child is damaged? What if the child hurts himself? What should children do if they delay their studies?
In order to solve the anxiety that children may encounter danger, simply don't let them do anything.
In this way, when the child grows up, the problem that parents worry about becomes:
What if the child can't cook? What if the child can't clean the room? What if the child can't do anything?
Under the excessive protection of parents, the child's body developed, but his mind stayed at 6 years old. They lost the idea of taking care of themselves and became a giant baby who needed his parents to feed him bite by bite.
The author of "Special Cruelty and Love" said:
Don't be reluctant to take the children to do housework. Necessary physical exercise can make the child's prefrontal lobe develop soundly and handle life and interpersonal relationships more smoothly in adulthood.
Without the ability to live independently, no matter how good your grades are, it is not easy to succeed.
There is no conflict between doing housework and studying. Doing housework well can make children full of motivation. Therefore, a truly outstanding child often takes both study and work into consideration, and both hands should be hard.
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So, how to guide children to do housework?
Former US President Barack Obama revealed in an interview that the secret of educating children is to make family rules about housework, which needs children to complete.
For example:
Be sure to make your own bed; Do your own thing; The toy room must be kept clean; Be sure to help parents share housework. ...
Even if he lives in the White House, Obama will reward his daughter with a dollar every time he finishes housework.
Thanks to this, Obama's two daughters have been able to balance work and study well since childhood. Now they are not only admitted to prestigious schools, but also have good interpersonal relationships and have gained ideal love.
Children aged 65,438+0 and 65,438+02 are at different stages of physical and psychological development. In order to protect their self-confidence and safety, we must cooperate with the children's development stage and only arrange them to do what they can.
For example: teach 1 year-old children to close the door and turn off the lights; Teach 2-year-old children to collect garbage and take things;
Teach 3-year-old children to fold socks and sweep the floor; Teach 4-year-old children to organize bookshelves and water flowers;
Teach children aged 5 -8 to clean tables and mop floors, try simple and safe recipes, fold clothes and comb their hair. ...
Teach 9- 12-year-old children to clean the room, wash clothes and do their homework independently. ......
Parents should set reasonable housework according to their children's growth and guide their children to learn life skills from an early age. As long as they learn the smallest thing, they can benefit for life.
When children master the basic ability to do housework, they are gradually assigned more challenging housework.
In the process of teaching children to do housework, the most difficult thing is not to teach children what to do, but to let parents be patient and control their emotions in the process of teaching.
Sometimes parents are not angry, but worried that anxious children can't do things well and their temper can't help but break out. At this time, parents don't have to blame themselves.
In order to prevent children from being scolded by their parents for being afraid of screwing things up, they should stay away from housework, communicate patiently with children and tell them that they are angry because of worry, not blame, and children can understand.
If the child completes the housework within the specified time, he must give some encouragement and reward in time;
For example: praise the child's serious attitude, buy a new toy, clean the room, allow him to play games for an hour, help his mother clean up, and reward him with ten yuan. ...
Children may not see the potential benefits of doing housework, and if they are forced to do unpleasant things, they will inevitably have emotions;
If money is used to stimulate children to do housework, it is difficult to cultivate real initiative.
So the best way is:
Spiritual reward+material reward alternately.
Turn housework into a game, just like a chocolate box. Every time you open it, it will have a different taste of surprise, so that children can recognize the value of housework from the bottom of their hearts while enjoying their work.
Education expert Zhan Wenling said:
For children, doing housework is not only learning a skill, but also getting along with their parents.
If children's memories of housework are pleasant and warm, in retrospect, they will not only have confidence in their independent life, but also be proud of their wise and excellent parents.
Therefore, don't use "just study hard" to stop children's growth. In a safe range, let the children do it!