According to my classification of this situation, the final outcome is nothing more than the following:
1. Either the two sides go their separate ways and go home; Cao wrote in an article that she had an affair with a married woman in middle age. They love each other very much. When he was at the bottom of his career,
The other party once provided him with a lot of help and took care of him. It's true love, a woman who makes him want to abandon his family. The other party had two children and he had three children. He decided to give up his family and divorce for this love.
But in the end, he chose to return to the family, and the woman also returned to the family. This ending is the best for both families and children.
2. Either divorce each other and form a new family; When the hormone of love fades, everyone has to face the reality, and aesthetic fatigue may occur. Marriage is different from love. Marriage is trivial.
When Cao wanted a divorce, she wrote a letter to her wife, expressing her thoughts on divorce. Because his wife can't read, this letter was read to her by her sister.
When he got home, his wife said to him, "I know I don't deserve you, and I know you will leave." If you really leave, then leave the house and three children to me. "
At that time, he was faced with two choices. One was to trust him unconditionally and eat a lot of bitter wives with him. The other was to have unforgettable feelings and a confidante with the same language.
He was depressed at that time and didn't know what to do in the future.
Therefore, he chose 100 to investigate couples, including workers, doctors, cadres, teachers and bosses.
He made a statistical analysis and comparison of the collected marriage samples and came to the conclusion that no family is absolutely happy.
There is still a big gap between marriage and love. Don't think about how happy you will be, because you are in love and have formed a new family.
Of course, there are some good situations, such as Prince Charles and Camilla, who persisted despite all criticism and world opposition.
3. Either one party divorced, and the other party failed to divorce for various reasons, and it was entangled for a while, and then, dust returned to dust and soil returned to the ground. Because we all have families, even if you are willing to divorce for love, you can't guarantee that the other party will do the same. This happened to a friend of mine.
They all have families, because each family has all kinds of unspeakable pains and sorrows, so they have warmed each other with extramarital affairs for more than 20 years.
More than 20 years later, my friend's wife died of cancer, and they decided to spend the rest of their lives together and never part.
However, things are often not as beautiful as we think. Just as both of them were planning how to be together in the sunset, the woman finally failed in her divorce.
For this reason, the two sides have been entangled for a long time, and tears can flow into a river. Finally, my friend married another woman.
This has proved that you are having an affair with her. If you don't pull back from the brink, you may (not necessarily) ruin your family. Now that you have asked the question, you have realized the result of the meeting.
You fall in love with her and have a family; She fell in love with you who have a family, and she produced an element of love in your heart. This is no accident. Rome was not built in a day, but because of a long-term love for some aspects. For example, you like her face value, figure and gender; She likes your financial strength and allows her to enjoy material and physical needs.
The love between you is a comparison. You didn't get it from your wife. She added it to you. She didn't get it from her husband, but you enriched it for her. * * * knowledge is produced in this comparison. With the foundation of love, you violate your wife's copulation and become happy with her. She cheated on her husband and made love to you like a duck to water.
Cheating is more exciting and fresh. This kind of love is not true love, but meets the needs of both sides under the cover of love. For example, you love her only for sex, not something other than her. In sex, she makes you feel more excited and fresh than your wife. She was seduced by your money and tried her best to satisfy you.
The so-called extramarital affair means that the two sides compensate each other materially, mentally and physically. Give to each other, get from each other, learn from each other, meet their own needs, and reach an agreement. Extramarital love cannot last long, and it is an unstable relationship. If something happens to one party (illness, car accident, money), the other party will not remember the old love and leave you.
Extramarital affairs are a relationship for profit. When she is old, tired or your capital needs her, she will choose the next one, including you. Which extramarital affair of a star actor, a government employee or a rich gentleman didn't end in ruin?
You are not the best, there are better than you. She still loves you when she meets someone better? Or her lover? Go to the beauty salon!
Gossip in the entertainment circle, stars, and government officials in news reports, aren't they? Are they inferior to you or are you better than them?
You should immediately kill your passion, return to your family, repent and turn over a new leaf, and be kind to your wife. For yourself and your children, exercise your responsibilities as a husband and try to earn more money. That's what you asked.
The above is my superficial understanding, welcome to comment.
There are only two ways to choose. One is to divorce and get married. The second is to return to their families and stop contacting them.
It is a joke for couples to say that they love each other very much. Both men and women with families say that love is more unreasonable. Love means responsibility, obligation and commitment. Do two cheating people have responsibilities and obligations besides eating, drinking and having fun?
Share a short story with you:
I knew a man and a woman before, both nearly 40 years old and about the same age. The man is the purchasing director of the company, earning a lot of money, and the woman is a barter clerk. This man is my friend. Both the man and the woman are married and have their own families. Men are of course attracted by women's beauty and rugged figure. In order to pursue this woman, the man often takes her to eat well, and often takes her to health clubs and leisure centers. The woman is in a state of separation from her husband and is also empty and lonely. Soon they had sex and became lovers.
Every time a woman says to a man, I am your man, and I already love you very much. I have left you. Men also care about women. Outsiders seem to really love each other. In fact, in addition to eating, drinking and having fun, they have sex when they check in.
Later, due to serious dereliction of duty, this person purchased a batch of inferior products, which caused great losses to the company and was dismissed. Because of the bad reputation in the industry, long-term unemployment, of course, there is no source of income. When the delicious food of the past turned into fried rice with eggs, and when a woman celebrated her birthday, the previous gold wares turned into a few solitary flowers, and the woman's face became ugly day by day, and the previous gentleness gradually disappeared and became disgusting. One day, the man asked the woman to borrow some money to pay the rent, and the woman scolded him and broke up completely.
Lovers' love is based on money. Without money, of course, love and tenderness are gone. In the most difficult and desperate time for a man, it was his wife who came to him and helped him stand up again.
We have heard that many people with money and status have lovers, but we have never heard of that farmer and that ordinary worker all have lovers. Lovers only pick the fruits of successful men, and of course they can't share joys and sorrows.
It is difficult for two men and women with families to have so-called true love.
Might as well go back to their respective homes separately. It is best not to contact, this is the right way. Cherish marriage, and there will be real happiness.
Talking about extramarital affairs is so noble and sacred, as if cheating is a glorious thing. I'm afraid people don't know if I have the courage to say it. It is really shameless and invincible. If you really love each other, divorce and remarry the person you love, so that you can still be treated as a person. Cheating in marriage is immoral and shameless. If husband and wife can't be loyal to each other at least, it is impossible to get married. If you don't love, you can divorce and find your own happiness again, so others can't say no to you.
There is a saying that the authorities are fascinated. Actually, this sentence is not appropriate.
I have always believed that a person considers more factors than an outsider in a situation and is more comprehensive. Then why say fans? To be exact, he is not fascinated. He knows the consequences and endings better than anyone else. I just can't make up my mind. I just want to find an excuse and make a decision with the help of others.
So, the problem is much simpler.
As two people in two families, no matter how much they love, they can't destroy the two families. It hurts not only their lovers, but also their children and relatives. If you do this, it's selfishness, not love.
I have been wandering around Wukong for a long time, and "true love" has become a derogatory term!
The so-called "true love" is cheating and moral decay; Is to build "true love" on the pain of people who once really loved each other!
There is no need to persuade the subject to turn back, because it is useless! This so-called "true love" is also a shame for one spouse! Then simply hit the south wall and don't look back, or you will fail your "true love"!
In order to express your sincere and pure love, please clean your home! This is proof of your true love!
If you have children, give 1000 yuan and 2000 yuan a month in support, in order to make up for the debt of Aijing who once really loved each other!
If you do the above two things, I believe that you are "sincerely in love" and your conscience will not be embarrassed by "dogs"!
Let's get started!
It is easier to fall in love than to live forever.
We all have our own families, and we all have furtive emotional stories. This kind of infidelity is something that people revile and point at behind, so this kind of emotion based on betraying one's lover will not be blessed and praised. This polluted love can not be said to be deep love, nor can it be said to be in love. It can only be a little excitement sought outside marriage. It's just a game I found in my spare time.
After this cheating, I still say how I feel. I am a deeply loved person and a shameless person. I just put a glorious coat on my affair. I don't think this kind of thing will go far. This feeling can't stand scrutiny. Maybe the novelty hasn't arrived yet If the novelty passes, this feeling will only be ambiguous. So I said, if you get married and have children, please think about whether what you do will sacrifice too much. Don't end up breaking up your family and losing love.
She and I are both married and have our own families, but we love each other very much. What should I do?
You and your wife loved each other very much when they got married, and the woman you love now also loved her husband when she got married. It is time that dilutes everything. Even if you two get divorced and start a new family, time will wash you away. When the next man appears, your girl will tell you that she is in love with someone else.
We are all adults, we all have families, and we are responsible for our families in every word and deed. I don't know the rest. At least when I have a girlfriend, I always keep my distance from my female friends.
People are making choices all their lives, and they are also making choices for reality, so let me talk about a realistic problem. Even if you file for divorce, will your current wife agree? Does the child agree? She filed for divorce. Does her husband agree? Do her children and parents agree? Even if they all agree.
After marriage, you reorganize your family, each with a child. When you have your own children, contradictions will soon appear. It's hard to be a stepmother and a stepmother. It would be better if neither of us took care of the children.
I think your parents were the first to object to this matter. Is it worthwhile to break up two families and make more enemies instead of perfecting your love?
If you think it's worth it, it's worth it. Anyway, I don't believe what you said about loving her. I love you, and you tell your present wife that you love novelty rather than love her now.
Okay, let's get down to business. You are either in love with her or fresh. It is a truth that people who often eat steamed bread feel good once in a while. You may be able to give up your wife and children for her. She may not be able to do it, and even if she agrees, her man will never agree. We are all men. You can divorce if you don't love me, but you can't have sex with other men during marriage.
From ancient times to the present, there are many things that make you angry and become a beautiful woman. I hope you take care of yourself!