First of all, establishing self-confidence is an important magic weapon to overcome timidity and retreat.
A timid person is often a person who lacks confidence. They doubt whether they have the ability to finish something, and as a result, they may make things that could have been done well worse because of psychological tension and formality. Some of us may have experienced stage fright in the exam. I used to get good grades, but when I met a major exam, I was extremely nervous and my mind was blank. As a result, the questions I did before were also wrong. This is a sign of lack of self-confidence, which is often the case with timid people; People who are confident, bold and extroverted may do better in the big exam, because the latter have stronger self-confidence and don't think too much like timid and introverted people. Their brains are focused on how to answer questions, which makes it easier for them to play their level or even surpass it. Then, a timid person should cheer himself up before doing something, believe that he is at least capable of exerting his own level, and then work hard on his own, as the saying goes; Man proposes, God disposes; , hold this so-called; Facing some challenges with a normal heart, we will not leave any regrets for the result.
Secondly, make full preparations to lay a good foundation for building self-confidence.
Self-confidence is not innate. If you want to take the exam, but you haven't reviewed at all, no matter how bold and confident you are, you can't think that you will do well in the exam, let alone be a timid and unconfident person. Psychology is even more nervous. For another example, when you want to give a lecture in a place where there are many people, but you haven't prepared carefully, you will definitely doubt whether you can speak well before you go up. Of course, for people who are experienced in speaking, good at controlling scenes, adjusting atmosphere and improvising, it is another matter. But for people who are timid, every failure may be a major blow, so we should make full preparations before doing everything, which will lay the foundation for us to establish self-confidence and provide the possibility for our success. And every success becomes the driving force for timid people to try the next task, thus forming a virtuous circle, and finally making themselves more and more confident, more and more daring to try new things, meet more challenges, win more development opportunities and win more successful experiences for themselves.
Third, correctly attribute failure.
The so-called attribution, in layman's terms, is to attribute the cause of a thing to something, whether objective or subjective. Failure is often a heavy blow to the timid. Whenever encountering failure, timid people tend to be dejected and worried. This is because they always attribute their failures to their subjective internal reasons, that is, they think they are not competent enough or they think they are not smart enough. This attribution will definitely make them doubt their abilities, which is undoubtedly a blow to self-confidence.