The first thing to do is to analyze the causes of family problems. Only by finding the root cause can we do a good job of counseling, just like increasing revenue and reducing expenditure, we should know where the source comes from and carefully sort out the seriousness and feasibility of the problem. In this process, first know how you do it, and don't look for reasons on others whenever there is a problem. What you need to do now is to be calm and rational. Find out the problem and then solve it. At this time, you and I both believe that your so-called family reasons have entered an extraordinary period. Even so, it is still a problem and must be solved.
Secondly, adjust the mentality to chat with friends, have a heart-to-heart talk, share your stories with the closest people around you, and vent the pain points in your heart, thus alleviating inexplicable sadness. Never give up drinking and worry. I've done this before, and it will only make you worse. (Married for the second time at present) Increase outdoor activities, find something to do for yourself, and reduce the activities of thinking at random. After a long time, you will find that there are actually many people and things around you who are interested in you.
Then you can't change after all this. Then you must have broken up with your girlfriend, or divorced like me. Things have reached an irreversible stage. At this time, I think you must have lost confidence in life and everyone around your friends. There is a saying that heart disease needs a cardiologist. At this time, the best medicine is to find a friend of the opposite sex to open the closed door in your heart. That's what I did. Whether I am right or not, it works for everyone. So, I walked out of that lonely and autistic day. Maybe it will attract criticism from others. I believe you won't care at present.
Where can there be no regrets in life? If there is a saying, where to fall, where to get up? If you are wrong, you must bear it yourself. Why choose to avoid being an irresponsible person? Even if you think you are right and the result hasn't changed, don't hesitate to move on. There is still a long way ahead. Born in this world, you can't sneak away without leaving anything behind. I believe you can also get out of your inner world. God put you through this, which may also be a test for you, and will definitely make you rise in other fields.
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Hello, a little autistic in character is something that many people will have, family factors and personal factors. And you said you were caused by family factors, so maybe you are a family member who doesn't like to communicate? Are parents a little serious? Didn't you grow up with your parents? Or did your parents have a tense marriage relationship and left you out?
Let me analyze it and find a solution:
0 1, parents talk less, don't like too much noise, and have less family interaction.
02, parents are engaged in more serious work (lawyers, law enforcement civil servants, researchers), such people pay more attention to rational speech, rarely hear jokes.
03. I never grew up with my parents. I seldom communicate with my family, and I don't like to get in touch with others.
04. Parents' marriage is not harmonious and they don't care about their children.
In any case, you can take the initiative to talk to your parents more, exchange interesting things with your parents every day, care about them in detail, and show that you care more about them and actively communicate with people around you.
This is a good targeted way for you to communicate with people at present, because you are autistic and it is difficult to open your heart. Making friends with the most trustworthy people is the best way to open your heart. You can make friends from the following aspects.
For example: first, hobbies, fitness together (ball games, running, mountain climbing, rock climbing), singing, dancing, reading; Second, at the communication level, the three views and * * * can better go together.
Although we often say that friends are indifferent to fame and fortune, they don't do it for the benefit. But people should care about each other.
First of all, we should start with small things and often greet each other. Friends can actively help in their normal fields and give comfort and encouragement when friends are depressed.
Sometimes a hug, a greeting, an encouragement and a help will be remembered by your friends, and they will sincerely thank you. In the future, friends will be very enthusiastic and help each other if you have anything.
It is not that friends can only do positive things. Sometimes when you are in a bad mood and confused, you can talk to your friends, listen to their opinions and express your concerns.
Maybe a friend can't give you any advice, but it's better than keeping it inside. You should learn to release stress properly and reduce negative energy. Friends are also willing to listen. He will give you a hug and drink a glass of hard liquor together to let you vent your depression.
I used to be like you. I don't want to talk to people, make friends or even work. I just sit there staring at the front every day, but my mind is empty, like a blank sheet of paper.
I have been depressed and tangled, thinking about how to change, and I don't want to go on like this.
So, I try to chat online, I try to go to crowded places, I try to open my heart to others and try to help others.
When, after trying many times, I found myself not myself. At least, it's natural to talk to people. I don't have that kind of tension. I like to laugh. Although I laugh ugly, I don't worry anymore, because I live my life. What others think is his business, and I am happy.
So, my friend, if you want to change the status quo, you should first try to make friends, try to go to crowded places, try to help others, and try to open your heart.
The first time, you must be a little shy, but you cheer yourself up, even if you stutter, at least it proves that you are willing to integrate into the world. When you try it for the first time, you will find that it is not as difficult as you think.
Come on!
Don't think too much, you are you, try boldly.
Being born in a family really affects a person. Now that you have realized that you are a little autistic, it shows that you have not completely closed yourself. I hope you don't negatively imply yourself psychologically, but you should deliberately avoid your cowardice, go out more, make more like-minded friends, cultivate some hobbies, and think more about beautiful people and things. In the process of interacting with people, you can slowly open your heart and become sunny and positive.
Come on, add me to WeChat. I have nothing to say.
Go out more, make more friends, talk about happy things, do more things you love, communicate with strangers, broaden your horizons, think on the bright side, don't be too extreme, do more public welfare activities and communicate with your parents, and autism will gradually get better?
Being born in a family is the root of a person. You have no choice but to accept, but you will still have your own home. What you should do is not to let the problem of birth come to your home in the future. If you can't change the environment, change your mentality, so that you can live better and live what you want.
Autism is a common disease in infants, and many parents don't know what causes it. After the child suffers from autism, there will be some manifestations. At this time, parents must pay attention. The treatment of autism is generally a way of early detection and early treatment. Let's learn about autism.
Causes of autism
1, the study of genetic factors found that the incidence of identical twins was higher than that of identical twins. The incidence of autism in monozygotic twins has reached 82%. It is very likely that someone in the family of an autistic child has autism. If one of the parents of autistic children has autism, the incidence of autism will increase significantly, which shows that autism has genetic factors.
2. Children with biological factors have more perinatal injuries than normal children, including many diseases, such as congenital rubella, cytomegalovirus infection, premature infants or dystocia. Autism patients also suffer from epilepsy, and there are many abnormalities in EEG. These are all caused by physiological factors.
3. Biochemical factors Generally, children suffer from autism, which is characterized by the increase of dopamine and 5- hydroxytryptamine, the increase of adrenaline and norepinephrine in the blood, and the abnormality of neurotransmitters such as opioids, but lack of specificity; Abnormal migration of cerebellar nerve cells was found in brain tissue, and the number of Purkinje cells decreased. Another study reported that autism may be related to the limbic system, amygdala and hippocampus. Some studies also believe that autism is related to the rapid growth of the brain in the first year after birth.
Family factors may be due to improper parenting methods or a special genetic form in parents' personality, or both. Most of the children's parents are highly educated, and their parents are introverted, indifferent and stubborn to their children, and their families lack warmth. It has nothing to do with the parenting style of parents, but the indifference and formalization of some parents with autism actually shows that parents may have slight similar obstacles.
One of the manifestations of autism, autism, loneliness and solitude, will not establish normal contact with people. Autistic children don't like to talk and get close to others in infancy, and they will feel alienated from their parents and have no response to their parents' closeness and call. When the family wants to hug him, they won't reach out and let others hug him. Even if their parents go to work, they will not have a sad expression and will not feel happy after work.
The second manifestation of autism, lack of social skills, autistic children will not interact with their children. When looking for children to play, they often suddenly shoot people or take off their clothes, and then turn around and leave. Most of the time, I play there alone, or look at the outside alone in a daze.
The third manifestation of autism is indifference to the surrounding environment. Children with autism are often indifferent to the things around them, and seem to turn a deaf ear and turn a blind eye. They can do whatever they want, and they have no scruples, and no one is watching. What happened around them seems to have nothing to do with him, and it is difficult to arouse his interest and attention. Their eyes often change, and it is not easy to stay on what others let him pay attention to. They seem to live in Xiaotian's own land. In addition, their eyes don't look at each other or even avoid each other's eyes, and their eyes will wander during normal activities. They often squint at people, squint or look out of the corner of their eyes, rarely look people in the eye and never say hello.
The fourth manifestation of autism is the prominent language barrier. Most autistic children have little language, and even serious ones have remained silent for life. Some people don't want to speak even if they can speak, just use gestures instead, or repeat some monotonous words in a low voice and talk to themselves. Some children can only imitate what others have said and can't speak in their own language. Many children don't ask or answer questions, and language communication is often manifested in the confusion and inversion of pronouns, such as replacing themselves with "you" and "he". There are also many autistic children who often scream, sometimes until they are 5-6 years old or even longer.
The fifth manifestation of autism: narrow interest and repetitive behavior. Autistic children tend to focus on one or several games or activities for a long time, such as being fascinated by rotating the pot cover, placing building blocks monotonously, and being keen on watching TV advertisements and weather forecasts. I am not interested in cartoons, children's TV and movies that children usually like. Some children eat the same food every day, go out the same route, and defecate in the same toilet. If there is any change, they will cry loudly, show obvious anxiety, refuse to change their original habits and behaviors, and find it difficult to adapt to the new environment. Most children also show aimless activities, hyperactivity, monotonous repetitive jumping, clapping, waving, running, spinning, and some even have self-injuries, such as repeatedly picking their nostrils, picking their mouths, biting their lips, sucking, etc.
The sixth manifestation of autism, mental retardation and imbalance, most of which are slower than children of the same age, and a few children are normal or close to normal. However, some of them are surprisingly good at some aspects of intellectual activities, which is incredible. Many children have strong mechanical memory, especially for words and symbols. For example, a 3-or 4-year-old child especially likes to read. When he saw the words, he took the initiative to ask what to read and only remembered it once. Because of this, he can read children's story books fluently without difficulty, which shows that he has mastered a large number of vocabulary, but when he wants to express himself in words, he has obvious difficulties, which shows that they are damaged in understanding and using language.
Treatment of Autism 1, Traditional Chinese Medicine Treatment of Autism in Children
(1) Chinese medicine believes that intellectual activity belongs to the function of five internal organs, the kidney is the innate foundation, the bone governs the bone marrow, and the heart governs the gods as the palace of the monarch; The liver is the palace of generals, and the deficiency of congenital endowment or acquired malnutrition can lead to the damage of the heart, liver, kidney and other viscera, which makes the marrow sea not full, the mind weak, the planning abnormal, resulting in mental retardation.
(2) Treating autistic children with acupoint therapy of traditional Chinese medicine, selecting specific acupoints in aspects of resuscitation, sanity, intelligence, etc., so as to strengthen the brain, improve intelligence and resuscitation, and reconcile eight stimulation lines of Ren and Du meridians: limbs and back, and specific acupoints, so as to refresh the brain, enlighten resuscitation, strengthen the kidney, open the new century, invigorate qi and invigorate the spleen, and fill the essence and blood; Supplemented by matching points, regulating liver and strengthening brain, calming liver and calming wind, resolving phlegm and inducing resuscitation. So as to regulate the qi of the five zang-organs and meridians, change the state of deficiency and excess of viscera, promote the development of brain cells and improve children's intelligence. Modern medicine believes that stimulating some acupoints can improve microcirculation of cerebral cortex, increase blood flow of brain tissue, improve nutrition and oxygen supply of brain tissue, and promote excretion of substitute products. Therefore, acupoint therapy can obviously improve mental retardation.
(3) Psychology believes that by stimulating acupoints on the body surface, children can feel comfortable in contact, feel the affection of the skin, make children feel safe easily, and the performer can easily establish a harmonious relationship with children, which is conducive to promoting children's social interaction.
2. At present, special education and behavioral intervention therapy are mainly used in the treatment of autism in children.
(1) Correct abnormal behaviors, such as rigid movements;
(2) To promote the development of children's normal behavior, and to train them for their age;
(3) Help families learn how to educate and cultivate lonely children;
(4) Haloperidol: It can relieve behavioral symptoms, such as irritability, hyperactivity, and stiff movements. It has a good effect on improving loneliness and learning ability. Usually1~ 2 mg/d;
(5) Fenfluramine: It can reduce hyperactivity and stiff movements, but it should be used with caution in infants;
(6) Naltrexone: It can increase language and reduce loneliness and stiff movements. The dosage is 0.5 ~ 2 mg/(kg/d); (4) Some drugs that can promote the metabolism of brain tissue can be used.
Conclusion: The above introduces the causes of autism. We should know what causes children to suffer from autism by now. Children with autism must be actively treated. This disease is generally treated as soon as possible, so that it can be cured. Parents of children should communicate with their children more.
In high school, due to family changes, the college entrance examination failed, and during the summer vacation, the whole person became confused.
After entering the university, although I get along with my classmates as usual during the day, I look very happy and have no troubles, but before turning off the lights in the dormitory at night, I will cry silently in bed, feeling lonely and helpless, and sometimes I will wake up after falling asleep at night. There is a thick wall in my heart and no one can get in.
After graduating from college, I tried to be admitted to the graduate school of 2 1 1 university and kept telling myself to love myself and not to give up. I will get better and better in the future and meet my own happiness. In this way, I have been working hard, and now I have formed my own small family, my own baby. Although ordinary, I am very satisfied.
Love yourself at all times, don't give up hope, work hard and persist. There may be some difficult times in the process, but if you persist in living hard, you will surely have your own happy time. Come on!
Come uninvited, comb your hair, lose weight, and you can be excellent.
1. It is very important to choose a hairstyle that suits you very well.
2. In order to look clean,
Pay attention to maintenance.
If you have poor skin and pale face,
Stay up late less, abstain from sugar and milk.
Wash your face and protect your skin every day, and be sure to apply sunscreen when you go out)
3. Laughing is very sunny, which adds a lot of points.
(I won't just practice in front of the mirror)
Sleep at night. Shut up.