Between "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", never help each other in the same boat. When is it time for revenge? The feud between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should also pass slowly with the running water, and should not accumulate under the long river of time. In fact, no matter how big the feud between "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" is, it should be settled now, instead of leaving a hidden danger enough to overthrow a family in future life.
Therefore, whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, before a conflict occurs, the first thing to consider is what adverse effects it will bring to the family. Sometimes, losing money is not necessarily a loss, but it will be the best way to deal with it between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that many hidden dangers can be eliminated in the present, rather than accumulating. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always take a step back and broaden their horizons.
A Lin Jun reader wrote privately: "Now my mother-in-law doesn't dare to mess with me at all. She deserves everything. She thinks she can overwhelm me with her position in the family. Actually, she was wrong. Before that, I didn't want to talk to her at all. I'm just waiting for an opportunity to take care of her in my own way. Up to now, my mother-in-law didn't dare to take a breath when she saw me coming. "
The reader's name is Yuan Xiao. After receiving the private letter, Lin Jun was very disgusted. The reader is full of lofty feelings in both tone and attitude, as if he is very satisfied with the way she treats her mother-in-law, but no matter what method, he should not disrespect her. After all, the mother-in-law is her elder.
The contradiction between Yuanxiao and her mother-in-law began to accumulate when she got married. When all the contradictions broke out, Yuanxiao's husband didn't realize it and didn't take any measures to save it. Lin Jun found Yuanxiao's husband and asked them why the two of them had developed into an uncontrollable situation. Yuanxiao's husband said, "If I had put more energy into adjusting the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, maybe the present situation would not have happened at all."
Yuan Xiao had frequent contact with her mother-in-law before marriage, and her mother-in-law gave Yuan Xiao the first impression that she was very strong. When they first met, the first impression she gave people was often hard to change, which made Yuan Xiao subconsciously wary of her future mother-in-law. Marriage is a must. Yuan Xiao can't give up marriage because of her mother-in-law's insistence.
If the mother-in-law is strong in the family, then the daughter-in-law should stay away. Yuan Xiao also knows the truth. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tough, there will be a lot of trouble at home. Therefore, after Yuan Xiao gets married, she can avoid some things that may easily cause conflicts between her and her mother-in-law. She can bear it and does not easily stand on the opposite side of her mother-in-law. If she has been greatly wronged, Yuan Xiao will also find her husband to complain at the first time.
But Yuan Xiao's husband always ignored Yuan Xiao's complaints. Yuan Xiao's husband thinks that the friction in female life can't be made public. Besides, one is his mother and the other is his lover. If they want to solve their problems, they will face a problem of choosing their sides. Obviously, no matter which side they are on, there is no explanation. So when Yuan Xiao complained about his grievances, Yuan Xiao's husband was very "dissatisfied".
What Yuan Xiao's husband did was actually wrong. Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, we can't avoid this problem and we can't underestimate the contradiction between women. But when we find hidden dangers in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we should start thinking about solutions. There are many ways, and men don't have to choose sides. As long as we pay attention to this problem from the deep heart, the hidden trouble between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be eliminated from the root. When mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along
Yuan Xiao's husband's inaction also made his mother more and more arrogant. Although Yuan Xiao's husband didn't take a stand, it was the best way for her mother-in-law. At that time, Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law thought that her son was on her side, which made Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law more and more confident and more and more harsh on Yuan Xiao, so that Yuan Xiao chose a way that was not the way when there was no way.
"Daughter-in-law, how many aunts do you have told me to go to the square dance? I will leave all the housework at home to you. Work hard and don't be a lazy bitch in the eyes of others. By the way, if I come back late, you can help me fold the quilt so that I don't have to worry about myself when I get home. Your father-in-law can't go home when he goes abroad, so leave him alone and fix mine. " After Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law finished, she went to the square with her neighbors and started her own fitness life.
Yuan Xiao was very angry about this, but she had to endure this injustice silently in isolation. Yuan Xiao thought that if she behaved well, her mother-in-law would suffer less, but Yuan Xiao was wrong. After her mother-in-law tasted the initial sweetness, she found that Yuan Xiao was a free nanny, and her son didn't care, leaving all the work at home to Yuan Xiao alone.
Yuan Xiao didn't want to resist, but she knew that if she resisted, she would suffer, her husband couldn't count on it, and her father-in-law didn't know her attitude. She could only sigh and endure the torture from her mother-in-law alone. Maybe Yuan Xiao wouldn't have thought that when these grudges accumulate too much in her heart, they will turn into seeds of hatred and take root and sprout under the nourishment of grudges.
But Yuan Xiao also knew that if he didn't resist, this kind of life would only accompany him all his life. The longer he goes, the harder it is to get rid of this life. But there is no better way at present, but it doesn't mean there is no way. Yuan Xiao began to think about how to end this life. So when doing housework, he is full of plans when cooking every day. Everything comes to him who waits. Yuan Xiao finally thought of a way to make her mother-in-law suffer.
That day, Yuan Xiao did housework as usual, and her mother-in-law was very satisfied with her new shoes. Yuan Xiao hasn't seen her mother-in-law because she has been thinking about a solution. She accidentally stepped on her mother-in-law's upper, and her mother-in-law was frightened and anxious. She shouted at Yuan Xiao, "You don't have eyes. These are my new shoes. Look what she stepped on. She is all thumbs. " Yuan Xiao didn't care about her mother-in-law's harsh criticism. Anyway, it's not a day or two, but she firmly remembered the words "hire a nanny", so Yuan Xiao had an idea.
When Yuanxiao went to the vegetable market to buy food, she asked her aunt where she could hire a good nanny. Aunt pointed at Yuanxiao in the vegetable market and said that there are a group of aunts waiting for recruitment at the exit of the vegetable market. Yuanxiao can try it. After thanking her, Yuanxiao walked to the exit. Sure enough, there are a group of aunts waiting to work. Yuanxiao went over and said, "I want to invite an aunt to work at home." Diligence and cleverness are not my considerations. I just need to have rich mother-in-law experience. "
This group of aunts heard this request for the first time, and when they were hesitating, another woman named Zhang Yi came out and said, "Then you have found the right person. I am the most experienced at waving my mother-in-law. My two daughters-in-law are very obedient under my management, and they dare not breathe when standing in front of me. Sister, I think you are too young to find us because of your wife. Is it because of your mother-in-law? " Yuan Xiao said, "Yes, come home with me and beat my mother-in-law."
When Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law came home, she suddenly saw a strange woman of her own age at home. She couldn't help frowning and asked, "Who are you and why are you in my house?" Aunt Zhang replied, "I am a nanny hired by my eldest sister and come to work in your house." Hearing this, Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law was anxious and shouted at the room: "Yuan Xiao, you stood up for me, but you turned against me. You hired a nanny without my permission. If you don't go home to uncover tiles for three days, let this nanny go back at once. As long as there is you. What kind of nanny do you want? "
"Yo, you see you are old and your voice is not small. What are you yelling at? Aren't you afraid to yell at yourself? Why, curse in the street, curse in the street, show off at home, pretend to be a big-tailed wolf, ah, why are you staring at me, and don't see if the wall powder is scared by your loud voice. Oh, what a shame, you are a bitch. " After Zhang Yi finished, she did not forget to look at the original mother-in-law Xiao with disdain.
Zhang Yi's behavior was encouraged by Yuan Xiao before. Yuan Xiao said to her, "You were invited by me, and no one can drive you away except me. Do it boldly, I will be your shield. " Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law knows nothing about it. When she saw a nanny dare to talk to her like this, she couldn't help feeling angry and said to Zhang Yi, "I don't care how you got here, get out at once. I don't need a nanny at home, let alone you. "
"I'm sorry, you don't have the right. I was invited by my elder sister. It's none of your business. If you want to let me go, you can tell my elder sister. " After Zhang Yi finished, Yuanxiao's mother-in-law pushed open Yuanxiao's bedroom door and directly saw Yuanxiao gloating there. She took a deep breath and said to Yuanxiao, "Get this nanny out of the house at once. I don't want it. " Yuan Xiao said, "Why, it's none of your business to spend my money on the nanny. Is it wrong for me to let her share the housework? " I'm telling you, I can't get rid of the nanny. "
Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law was a little surprised at Yuan Xiao's attitude, but when she saw Yuan Xiao's cold eyes, she couldn't help shivering and had to give up. After coming out of Yuan Xiao's bedroom, she saw Zhang Yi standing there, pointing at Zhang Yi angrily and saying, "What are you doing there? Come and polish my shoes and press my shoulders. " Then she lay on the sofa and put her legs on the coffee table, motionless. When Zhang Yi heard this, Shi Shiran came along, with a little unknown smile on her mouth, gently took off her shoes and walked to the door to start shining shoes.
After a long time, Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law didn't see anyone massaging her, and she couldn't help wondering. She turned to see what Zhang Yi was doing. It doesn't matter. After reading it, she couldn't help jumping up from the sofa and yelling at Zhang Yi: "You are blind. Is it stupid to polish white shoes with black shoe polish? Do you know how much these shoes cost? I can't afford it for a month. " Then he ran barefoot to the door. After taking the shoes from Zhang Yi, he frowned painfully, turned his head and stared at Zhang Yi without saying anything. He picked up his shoes and slapped them on Zhang Yi's face.
Zhang Yi stopped her and said to her mother-in-law, "Why, you don't want it, don't let me throw it away for you." After grabbing the shoes, she threw them in the trash can at the door, and Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law froze. She felt that her dignity had been violated. After a while, two pairs of red eyes stared at Zhang Yi, and when they got started, they were beaten. But Yoko is obviously experienced. When she was walking around, she did not forget to mock Yuan Xiao's mother-in-law: "Hey, not bad for her age. She graduated from a martial arts school. Hahahaha. " After that, he put his arms around his mother-in-law Yuan Xiao on the sofa and pointed at her and said, "You are too young. I can't beat you. Be honest."
After the initial shock, Yuanxiao's mother-in-law gradually recovered her composure and thought, "There must be a nanny who has been instructed by others. This person is her daughter-in-law without exception, but now the enemy is strong and I am weak. Everything has to wait for her son to come back to clean up the Lantern Festival, fight with me and let my son clean up you. "
Yuanxiao's husband came home and saw his mother pouncing on him, crying and pointing to Aunt Zhang. Yuanxiao's husband was angry from the heart after hearing this, and his mother could not be bullied by others. He ran into the bedroom, pulled Yuanxiao out and asked, "Why do you help outsiders bully your family?"? what do you want to do? If you can't, you can't leave. " After Yuan Xiao's husband finished speaking, her mother-in-law also ran over and said, "Daughter-in-law, why did you hire a nanny to bully me?" "If you don't bully me, I will bully you?" Yuan Xiao turned to her husband and said, "Divorce, right? All right, then you go. I don't care anyway. I'm tired of being bullied by my mother-in-law. So what? This is a big event. " As he spoke, his heart convulsed and he burst into tears.
When Yuan Xiao's husband was at a loss, Zhang Yi came over and said, "After all, my elder sister had no choice but to make this decision. But if there is a little hope, it is more than that. To tell the truth, I have never bullied my two daughters-in-law like this at home. Look at your mother, what she did to my sister. Forget it. After all, I am an outsider, and I don't want to make a mess of your family because of me.
After Zhang Yi finished, Yuan Xiao, who was out of breath from crying, said, "Sister, don't cry. I sympathize with you in my heart. Don't worry, sister, just because Zhang Yi doesn't go to work doesn't mean that Zhang Yi doesn't care about you. If you are bullied again, call Zhang Yi, who is your backer. After all, Zhang Yi has rich experience in this field, and he will be satisfied if he can keep it. " Say that finish ha ha a smile, gave out of the original xiao.
After the storm, Yuan Xiao's husband tried to improve the relationship between Yuan Xiao and his mother, so that it didn't have much effect. They are completely incompatible with each other, but Yuan Xiao has no regrets. At least my mother-in-law dare not deliberately make things difficult for herself as before, and she is often a little unhappy at home. Her mother-in-law was afraid that Yuan Xiao would find some nannies to deal with herself. Although Yuan Xiao's husband was very angry about it, there was nothing she could do. Every day after work, I have to stare at whether there are strangers coming and going at home. Yuan Xiao's husband thought, "If there are no outsiders, if I find that there are outsiders bullying my mother in my house, then I will definitely divorce, and there is no room for change."
There are many reasons for this series of events in Yuan Xiao's family, and many factors have also caused the final result. As for who is right or wrong, Lin Jun can't give a good definition, but Lin Jun knows that if Yuan Xiao's husband had cared more about Yuan Xiao's ideas and communicated with his mother, maybe today's result wouldn't have happened. When we talk about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we always inadvertently ignore men. Men are happy, but men are reconciling.
In the face of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should regress appropriately, not oppress. Only after the two sides regress each other can they advance and retreat freely, and men should not avoid talking about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but should take the initiative to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, eliminate potential hidden dangers, and make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law harmonious, family harmonious and happy forever.