Let's look at some cases first.
Sanmao was so sensitive and depressed when she was young, and she had psychological obstacles in communicating with others. But many years later, she became a completely different person: although still sensitive, she began to open her heart to the world and became a spiritual mentor for many people. Although she finally committed suicide, at least, she left a beautiful silhouette for the world.
Angel, it is said that in those days, love was always unsuccessful, and men always took the blame. Angel couldn't think of anything, so she asked Qiong Yao. Qiong Yao told her that you should not consider what you get from men, but what you can bring to men. Giving yourself first, regardless of return, completely changed Angel. Later, she met Chen Jianbin, and they got along well and got married smoothly. It can be said that Qiong Yao's suggestion played a key role.
In fact, there are many examples The so-called personality determines fate, but personality can really be changed. Even if you can't change your personality, you can actually change your style and be another you. For example, the so-called long illness becomes a doctor. Many people who are in poor health eventually become doctors. They not only improved their health, but also helped others solve their diseases. Just like many fitness coaches I know, they used to be frail and skinny, but now they are all gold medal coaches; Just because I am too weak, I have to strengthen myself and finally become the kind of person I yearn for, which is completely opposite to my original self.
In TV health programs, people who introduce health wisdom, whether university professors or folk health experts, say that they didn't pay attention to health care before, so they got seriously ill, and then they began to pay attention to health care. Over time, they became health experts. There is also a cancer patient who summarized many dietotherapy methods in the process of anti-cancer. Now, he is very healthy.
Being a doctor after a long illness is also particularly suitable for emotional researchers. Several female writers said that they had been in love and suffered many injuries, and finally they all became emotional experts. If nothing else, you have experienced a lot and naturally summed up some experiences. Your wisdom was opened and your thinking was suddenly understood. So love is like this. Therefore, most love experts live a different life from the original. They may have been lovelorn, but now they are being chased by countless people. There may have been no love in life, but now I feel that the more I live, the more interesting I am. How nice and enviable it is to change your personality and state and become a brand-new self.
Before, I had few friends. But when I grew up, I went to a wider world and made friends all over the world. Since then, my friends have spread all over the world. Because my heart has opened, my world has become bright, and I have changed from isolation and loneliness to happiness and understanding. Once upon a time, I always liked to pour out my feelings to my good friends. It seems that if I don't talk about my feelings, I will feel suffocated and lonely. Now, I have nothing to tell my friends, because I can digest and adjust myself. This kind of mediation may be words, food or self-regulation. Anyway, I sublimated my loneliness.
And at present, I am still the object of many people's feelings, whether they are acquaintances or strangers, I can help them resolve them. It took me ten years to change from a confidante to a listener, and I believe you can do the same.
Therefore, in this world, nothing is impossible, only people who don't want to change. As long as your self-confidence is firm, you can become another you, the one you admire, like, recognize, appreciate, identify and be happy, a completely different one.