Try not to let yourself be hungry-when you are hungry, the desire to drink is even stronger. At this time, eating sweets or snacks and eating nutritious food seems to reduce our thirst for alcohol. Because sweetness can inhibit the impulse to drink, the eating process itself will bring a series of new body movements: chewing and swallowing when drinking drinks, milk, biscuits, fruits, etc. This is also very helpful to change the old habits when drinking.
When some alcoholics hear the advice of eating more instead of drinking more, they may worry about whether they will get fat if they eat too much. In fact, after replacing the calorie supply of alcohol with a healthy and balanced diet, some overweight people have removed excess fat and lost weight. Of course, some people may get fat, but it can be controlled-after all, it is much easier to lose weight than to give up drinking.
According to the conclusion of current medical research, eating more foods rich in vitamin B can not only make up for the vitamin deficiency caused by long-term alcoholism, but also help reduce alcohol addiction, so it is very meaningful to supplement multiple vitamins, especially vitamin B, every day.
So the next time we face the urge to drink, we might as well have some candy or drinks. At least you can put off the idea of drinking for an hour or two.
An occasion for careful drinking.
At the beginning of abstinence, it is wise to keep a proper distance from your former fair-weather friends, or find a reasonable excuse to avoid banquets with drinking as the main activity. But sooner or later, I will attend some drinking parties, so how to face the wine market is very important.
If the host is an old friend, you can inform yourself in advance that you have given up drinking now; Or at least one partner knows that we are quitting drinking and understands the importance of this to us-he can support you and reduce the pressure you will bear.
In addition, if it is good for your stomach to supplement some nutrition before attending the party, you can also take a small bag of your favorite candy or substitute food with you. Sometimes if there is still a long time to drink after dinner, we can leave early. Most people hardly care about our leaving. They are busy drinking and things like that.
Generally speaking, we should not be too nervous, because (1) others don't drink as we thought (2) very, very few people notice or care whether we drink (3) love our friends or relatives, and they are happy to see that we don't drink.
At the party, relatives and friends who drink may ask:
"What do you drink?"
"It doesn't matter if you only have one drink."
"Why don't you drink?" ... and so on.
We try to explain it in a way that doesn't lie, so that others can understand and accept it faster. For example, "health factors", "doctor's advice" and "I find myself unfit to drink". Most people can accept that we don't drink now and don't ask me any more questions.
Of course, the sooner you tell the truth to people you know, the better. Most friendly people will appreciate our honesty and encourage us to try to get rid of alcohol addiction. Telling others loudly that we don't drink helps us a lot and strengthens our determination to stay awake. At the same time, there may be a side effect: sometimes we make such a statement, which will encourage other people who want or need to drink, and others will not look down on you.
When we are asked what we want to drink, most of us can accept soda or other drinks, which will make us more comfortable.
We don't want others to pay too much attention to our abstinence, which is normal, but we hope to show it to you in a cautious and secret way rather than in an open way. But sometimes a well-meaning, well-meaning friend or family member inadvertently cares too much about our recovery from alcohol addiction. This may make us feel quite embarrassed. At this time, it is best to be patient as much as possible, usually no more than 2 minutes. When we feel calm, we can calmly explain that we sincerely thank them for their concern.
Sometimes a person who drinks a lot or a former drinking buddy is very dissatisfied with your sudden cessation of drinking. When you are unhappy in this forced situation, please remember that there are thousands of bar friends in Qian Qian who are giving up drinking and supporting you. Even if we are not at the scene, our hearts are with you. You should learn to avoid such people, and sometimes you can find an excuse to leave directly, even if it is not a big deal to offend such people. After all, we just take necessary measures to keep healthy.
take action
The more we want to stay away from alcohol, the more we want to drink. So simply staying away from alcohol (or not thinking about drinking) is not enough.
Once you stop drinking, how do you spend your free time? Most of us have formal work to do, but we still have a lot of free time to kill. Therefore, we must cultivate new hobbies, arrange colorful activities to fill these hours, and at the same time find a suitable outlet for the energy once addicted to alcohol.
There are many meaningful things that are suitable for us to do.
1. When you start abstinence, you can take a walk or take a brisk walk. Especially to new places you've never been before. Go for a leisurely stroll in the park or country road, but it's not a tiring March.
2. read. Although some of us can't settle down to study, we really should read some books, which can broaden our horizons, increase our life experience and concentrate more.
Visiting museums or galleries, some people choose photography is also good.
4. Swimming, running, cycling, yoga or other exercises recommended by doctors.
5. Deal with long-neglected housework. Tidy up the wardrobe, dresser, file documents in different categories, or deal with things that we have put off for a long time. But when we do these things, we should not be greedy and do what we can. Don't clean the whole kitchen or all the files at once, but clean one drawer or one folder at a time and do other work another day.
6. Try to cultivate new hobbies. Choose activities that are not too expensive or demanding, purely entertaining, without competitive pressure and refreshing. Such as singing, writing, tropical fish, carpentry, basketball, cooking, bird watching, amateur performances, wood carving, gardening, guitar, movies, dancing, stone carving, potted plants, collection and so on. Many people find that the activities they really like now are actually hobbies that they never considered trying in the past.
7. regain the fun of the past. A watercolor painting, table tennis or go, reading notes, etc. The one you haven't polished for years, continue these hobbies. But if you think it's no longer suitable for you, give it up.
8. Go to class. Learn Japanese or English? Love history or math? Want to know about archaeology or anthropology? Or cooking, computer operation, and then go to correspondence, TV University or adult education (just interest, not necessarily credit certificate). There are many places where you can take classes only once a week. Why not try it? Taking classes can not only broaden your horizons, but also broaden your life. In case you are tired of the content of the class, don't hesitate to quit immediately and learn to give up activities that are not beneficial to you or have no positive, positive and healthy significance. Let us summon up courage to face it again and have the opportunity to appreciate a new side of life besides drinking.
9. Volunteer to do some useful services. Many hospitals, children's service institutions and social welfare organizations are in great need of volunteers to provide various services. We can have many choices. When we can contribute to others, even if it is only a trivial service, we will find it particularly useful. Even when we talk about the process of participating in these activities and related information, we will feel very interested and particularly involved.
10. As most of us know, there are many ways to get a new hairstyle, wear new clothes, change glasses, or even update teeth, which will have unexpected pleasant effects.
1 1. Relax. Not everything we do in our daily life must be positive and innovative. We also need to do some activities purely for fun, such as kites, zoos, comedy movies, soul music, detective stories and so on. If you don't like them, then find other fun activities that have nothing to do with drinking, just treat yourself.
Remember the last time you got drunk?
Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".
For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for friends to laugh and laugh. Based on the different ages of each of us, based on the environment around us when we first drank, we all have all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxiety), which reminds us of a cold beer, a cocktail, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine and so on.
Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual needs of drinking.
If every time is just right, we will naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies the desire, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and realize our different pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately think of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.
If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man with jeans, beard and long hair at a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, with flashing lights and smoke, and everyone screaming and screaming, which is exciting. A member of AA said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.
Another 78-year-old widow said that when she was in a nursing home, she often couldn't help but think of the habit of drinking a glass of sherry before going to bed. Although this kind of drinking is very natural in our minds, it is misleading in our current situation, and this is also the way some of us start drinking.
If this is the process of drinking, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem in the future. However, if we look at the process of drinking fearlessly, we will find that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical moment in our last few years or months of drinking.
On the contrary, we have repeatedly found that our actual drinking amount is far greater than this, which always leads to some kind of trouble in the end. Maybe we just feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.
But sometimes it will turn into a fierce quarrel, which will affect your work and even lead to serious diseases, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a suggestion of "drinking" appears, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.
General friends invite us to drink, which generally refers to the way of entertainment and a cup or two of tasting.
But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by the last drunkenness, we will not be confused by the long-standing impression of "drinking a glass of wine" in our minds.
Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup means that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.
Drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. A member of Alcoholics Anonymous once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same again, just spend a little time and some money."
This drink will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my reason and even my life. This is really too big, too expensive and too risky. "
He remembers the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.