Cheating makes men's skin white. The most obvious physiological change is that men cheat and refuse sex. In a normal marriage, sex and love are inseparable. Sex is the foundation of the body, and love is the sublimation of feelings. The love between fish and water, harps and songs are the ideal realm of sexual harmony. If a man suddenly loses interest in the "intimate contact" between husband and wife, in addition to excluding physical illness, then he tends to cheat. After having an affair, men will be physically indifferent first. When women take the initiative, men often prevaricate on the grounds of bad mood, poor health and overwork. He would rather watch TV and play mobile phone alone than touch you, and even suggested sleeping in separate beds or simply staying at home on the pretext of overtime. There are indications that he released hormones outside and even psychologically rejected his wife. Normal couples, moody, have nothing to be picky about. When they eat, sleep and walk, they will exchange work, study, feel, pull a home and plan how to live a good life in the future. If a man is suddenly silent for a period of time, choking, impatient, or looking for trouble, your words and deeds are always unpleasant to him, even finding fault with the egg, then his heart is already outside. This is a man's guilty reaction. He subconsciously knew that he was wrong, and deliberately used your mistake as an excuse to become the reason for his derailment. This is an alternative, madam. Don't be deceived by his tricks. Sudden concern, inexplicable romantic love, men always rack their brains to create romance in order to win the heart of their girlfriends. But once you step into the besieged city and win back the beauty, life will gradually become dull, and you rarely take time to please your wife. Therefore, a man obviously cares about you more than usual, suddenly proposes to go shopping with you (he hates shopping most), and inexplicably buys you a birthday present (he is not romantic), so be more careful. This is a sign of his guilt, which usually happens at the earliest stage of his change of heart. He feels guilty for you, but it is a subconscious psychological compensation, mainly because he feels so uncomfortable, makes up for his mistakes, and is psychologically balanced. His fake attentions are temporary, and he wants to confuse you with sugar-coated shells. Privacy protection, password setting If there is no secret and privacy between husband and wife, they will be honest with each other and will not be defensive. For example, the mobile phone can be placed anywhere in the house, and the chat records with friends can be read casually, and the wife will not be behind when answering the phone. If a man is careful and intimate with his mobile phone, his wife and children are not allowed to touch it; Set the password on the mobile phone screen; Wechat QQ also has lock protection, and does not show you chat records; Always go to the balcony or bathroom to answer the phone, and the sound is small; Don't touch anything of his ... with the above situation, this man has a problem. There must be a little secret that no one knows, Xiao Jiujiu, which should be closely monitored and guarded against. A man who cares about clothes and pays attention to image is usually a casual and sloppy image at home after marriage. He walks around in slippers, watches TV, puts his legs on the coffee table and goes to the toilet with his mobile phone. You just need to tidy up when you go out at ordinary times, and you won't have long hair. If a man keeps comparing which clothes to wear in front of the mirror before going out, he shaves carefully, combs his hair repeatedly, brushes his teeth for five minutes, gargles repeatedly, and his tie is torn off ... This situation is a bit shattered glass, and there must be something in his heart. If a man doesn't like to watch court dramas at ordinary times, now he can watch a few episodes quietly, read some books about chicken soup for the soul, or Doby dog Doby Cat, set up a fitness card and start fitness ... Obviously, his progress is not to be close to his wife, but to please his lover. It means that he has fallen into an affair and cannot extricate himself. When his wife went out, she was overjoyed. As long as his wife leaves for a period of time, such as going back to her mother's house on business or traveling with friends, men will show inexplicable excitement. Of course, it is not the feeling of farewell, but becoming more emotional. For example, he keeps helping you pack, cares too much about the journey, or shows exaggerated frustration, and even whispers that his friend will ask him for another drink ... There are indications that he wants you to leave and try to meet his lover under the cover of his friend's drinking. As the saying goes, have a guilty conscience. Men who cheat, no matter how well they hide it, will behave abnormally because of ghosts in their hearts. Careful observation, there will always be clues, and the follow-up will lead to the woman who fascinates him. What will happen to a man's derailed skin? What happens when a man cheats? Guilty behavior Guilty behavior is the most direct hidden sign. He may be kind to you (such as giving inexplicable gifts and often doing housework), but giving gifts and doing housework does not necessarily mean that he is a good husband-it may mean that he is a guilty husband. "When men feel guilty, they often behave well to hide extramarital affairs or get rid of guilt." In addition, some men tend to hide and avoid eye contact. "He won't look you in the eye, nor will he accompany you wholeheartedly. He is afraid that you will see through his secret! " In sexual life, the two are completely different. "Another sign of cheating is that sex is colder or warmer than before." If he has never rejected your initiative before and refused this time, then his sexual desire may have been satisfied elsewhere. "Although the sexual life of many couples is not static, it can still be regarded as a sign of derailment. His lover may make him feel sexual pleasure that he can't feel at home, or be more mysterious and passionate when he is with his lover, then he will leave his energy to his lover. "No matter how strong the flame is, if you never add firewood, it will always burn out; Why doesn't dry wood burn when it meets fire? It is no longer a declining thing for men to cheat. Life is not always full of passion, but you should learn to enjoy it. My attitude towards you is completely different from before. " When men feel overwhelmed, they tend to be irritable and angry easily. If another woman asks him out, he will argue with you and then go out on a date. "If he still criticizes some of your habits inexplicably, such as your appearance, eating habits and IQ, it must be because he is having an affair, not because he thinks you are ugly or a little fat." Lying will make people nervous, and this will be reflected. In addition, lying to others is often aimed at others' shortcomings, because criticizing others' shortcomings will reduce the guilt when lying. "They like to browse all kinds of dating sites and don't show their unhappiness. The pressure, troubles and communication between husband and wife are almost gone. As soon as they got home, they stayed in the study and browsed various dating websites. The most common place they went to was Ai Xi Lou. There are lonely men and women gathered there. In order to relieve stress, be lonely and make their life better, they can buy a diamond palace and invite her to be their concubine in the virtual palace. They talk like friends and are as ambiguous as lovers. They are enjoying the pleasure of this kind of emotional infidelity, and in an unexpected situation, physical infidelity just happens naturally. A man who suddenly and inexplicably changes his dress style, appearance and body shape is likely to have an affair. There may be other women who like him to grow a beard, change his hairstyle or use cologne. If he changes clothes at work, then maybe he likes female colleagues. " Similarly, if your husband has always been an otaku, and now he suddenly likes to go to the gym, it is definitely not to please you. "It may be to please a new girlfriend, or it may be to give a young girlfriend fitness, or it may be that he has a crush on a MM in the gym." What will happen to a man's derailed skin? 1. Psychological changes of men after cheating. 1. Looking for passion and freshness. This kind of psychology is a typical stealing psychology. Plain life can't rekindle the spark of love for them. Only a fresh and passionate life can make their blood spurt. Such a man, without a good perception of delicate feelings and warm marriage life, will feel as plain as drinking boiled water. The stimulation of extramarital affairs is enough to burn every cell of them and make them deeply feel the warmth of love. But usually such men end up playing with fire and setting themselves on fire. The woman should be decisive and rational in marriage and make the right choice. 2, emotional dissatisfaction In fact, emotional dissatisfaction is often the main reason for men's derailment. This kind of emotional satisfaction does not mean "sex". Newman said: "Many men feel that seeking comfort from others is detrimental to masculinity, so their emotional needs are often ignored. But you can form the habit of appreciating and caring for each other in marriage-once you do this, the marriage relationship will be harmonious. Second, what should my husband do if he wants a divorce? If this happens, you should separate from the woman and calm down before divorce. On the one hand, calm analysis is to give yourself time to think clearly whether it is necessary to save the marriage. If you make up your mind to divorce, how will you live the rest of your life, how to love yourself more and how to improve yourself? On the other hand, give the other person time to hang him for a while, and love yourself more from now on, so that women who are confident and love themselves will be happy. If the marriage between you is worth saving, it is necessary to understand the psychology of the derailed man after divorce, and then take the correct recovery strategy to save the marriage.