I have admired my neighbor's sister Hong since I was a child. She has special ideas. She always knows what she wants, and she always realizes it without any accident. Once or twice, everyone said that this young man is really lucky. But with more times, her good luck became a habit, as if she was born with the magic lamp of Allah, and what she wanted could be realized immediately. When I grow up, I know that the secret of Allah's magic lamp is called "goal" Hong Jie is a person with a strong sense of purpose. She is curious about the world and always wants to know about it. On a visit to relatives, she saw a new desktop computer given by a rich relative. She was completely fascinated by it. She can play games and type. A thing called "browser" is like a magic box. Once you open it, you have everything. That summer, the first summer of high school, she didn't go home. At the same time, she took several jobs and decided to save money to buy a computer. In order to save enough money, she works three or four jobs at the same time and often returns to the dormitory at midnight. Those who know their goals clearly always try their best to get what they want. Alina Zhang, a handbook of life efficiency, clearly set his goal as a "diplomat" when he went to college. So she resolutely dropped out of Zhejiang University and re-admitted to Beijing Normal University. During my four years of college life, I got up at five o'clock every morning, passed CET-4 by memorizing words and grammar, and finally won the CCTV English speech contest, so I had the opportunity to attend the CEO Summit of APEC. Now, she is a global youth leader and the founder of Far North Coffee. She sticks to a book and gives 65,438+000 speeches every year. And all this is because she set a clear goal and knew what she wanted. Only when the goal is clear can we know where our strength is used and where it is used. Even if you lean forward a little, you are getting closer to your goal.
2 "I understood from the beginning that the so-called socialization is a reciprocal exchange of values."
Sun Xiaohui has been a loner for four years in college. She has no friends. She never dresses up like other girls in the dormitory, goes shopping and watches movies, and buys fashionable mobile phones and bags. Her bedside was filled with all kinds of English materials. I saw that she had been wearing headphones and her mouth was full of things. The common time is when the lights are off near the dormitory. When the girl in the dormitory can't attend class, she is always the first to arrive, sitting in the front row and taking notes carefully. Think, ask questions and interact with teachers from time to time. She gets up at 5 o'clock every day, recites words, grammar and texts, and successfully passed CET-4 in Grade Two. Participated in various English competitions, and later became the first person in CET-8. After graduation, everyone is worried about their jobs. Together with others, she established an English training institution and successfully held several courses. She has always been a loner in our eyes. She is a loner and doesn't take part in group activities. We always say "weirdo" and "weirdo" to busy people. But what we don't know is that excellent people are always challenging themselves. They don't deliberately blend in. Only when you have achieved yourself can you gather more outstanding people around you. You are good enough, surrounded by good people. The English philosopher Joe Herbert once said, "An old friend is the best mirror". Excellent people are attracted to you. It is always said that every age group has something to do. Don't waste time when you should work hard. Only when you are rich enough can you talk about socializing.
3. I attended the reunion of middle school classmates some time ago, which was neither graduation season nor holiday, but my long-term absence from contact ignited the enthusiasm of the students to meet.
It is said that middle-aged people don't go to any class reunion when they have nothing to do, and many middle-aged people have no intention of attending class reunion. After the party, the whole person was not feeling well. Why? Seeing that people who are not as good as themselves actually drive a BMW to live in a villa, why! That boy is not as good as me. Sure enough, most of the students who got good grades in those years were working for others. Although doing seemingly beautiful work, but more than enough, life is not too rich, a little annoying. Let's look at those people whose grades are rotten to the dregs in those years, but they are all glamorous, opening factories and companies and turning to real estate bosses. There are just a few of my classmates who were called "poor students" by teachers in those years. In the eyes of teachers, puppy love, fighting and bullying female students are those who have no future. Who would have thought that many years after graduation, people who become "bosses" of companies and factory owners have higher academic qualifications. When communicating with several so-called "poor students" in those years, they confided that they were not as good as others because they knew they were "scum of the school", so they dared to try anything, do anything and do anything. Although some principals can get good grades in school, their adaptability after leaving school is much worse. I used to be like this. I knew to listen to my teacher when I was in primary school, and I knew to study when I was in junior high school or high school, otherwise I would be worthless in the future. But it turns out that the real losers are not those who have poor academic performance, but those who don't know what they want.
Those people we don't like, they are withdrawn, unsociable and have poor grades. They all seem to have no future, but why do they fight back? Is it luck? Is it a blessing? None of them. Opportunities always favor those who are prepared. Opportunities are not so lucky because you don't have the conditions to open them. First of all, you should have a clear goal, just like a new year is coming. 20 18 have you decided what you want to achieve? If you find your wish, can you list five things to realize it? How to break these five things down into quarters, months and weeks? Goals are important, but the most important thing is persistence. How long have you been sticking to your goal? It is often said that the road to success is not crowded, because too few people can persist. Teacher Li Xiaolai often said that if you want to persist, the best way is to give something of great significance. For example, he wants to take GREfj to teach in New Oriental. I heard that he can earn millions a year. So, he calculated an account for himself, 20 thousand words, with an annual salary of 1 million. Then he memorized one word, 50 yuan, and he memorized 50 words a day for 2500 yuan. Later, he gradually found it not difficult to recite 200 words. From 2065438 to 2007, I have been doing several things: reading, writing and exercising. These things have gradually made me more self-disciplined and become a person who has requirements for myself. More than 400,000 words were simplified and nearly 10000 words were realized. By reading, you can freely adjust your reading speed. Now you can finish reading a book in 30 minutes for nearly 900 kilometers, 1 hour for 2 hours, and change to indoor fitness in winter; Meditate 10 minutes or more every day. I know my progress is slow. I haven't become a big coffee like others for a year. It doesn't matter whether I sign the contract or not. As long as I have been making progress and have a clear goal, I will always get closer to my dream step by step. For a lazy and timid person before, these changes are great for me. So about persistence, I hope I can give you some of my methods.
00 1 Join the community that is progressing with you and grow with them. One person walks faster, but a group of people will go further.
Give yourself some psychological hints. There is a kind of "self-testifying prophecy" in psychology, that is, when one thing is certain, people will unconsciously take corresponding actions according to the existing predictions, so that the final result and situation conform to the predictions. My practice is to put a big piece of paper on the bedside: "I will become a strong person", and I can see it when I get up and look up several times every day. It really works. Try it if you don't believe me.
003 material incentives set yourself a small goal. If finished, give yourself a small incentive, which can be food or an item reward. For example, reward yourself with a small gift 7 days early and set yourself a big reward of 2 1 day.
004 find an example. Are you doing particularly well in this area around you or in your circle of friends? If so, follow his example and you can do as well as him, even better than him. Then the next goal is to become a better person as an example. With such a little progress, I believe you have surpassed more than five people, and you have become a very powerful person.
Lead by example. When you do something well, can you be an example to others? Let others supervise you, and you will become an example for others to learn. Are you still embarrassed to relax yourself? You must insist on doing what is worth doing. Giving up halfway only means that you have given up on yourself. You can only be a mediocre person and live a mediocre life. How do you know you can if you don't work hard? If you don't insist, how can you predict yourself? Honey, others get along well, but it's none of your business. Really, all you have to do is focus on yourself. You are a person living in the future, and your future will be better and better than the present and the past. As Ma Yun said: Believe in the power of faith.
Author: Amezen