1, not unintelligent:
If you dare not socialize, excited girls/boys will miss it. Afraid of the interview, the high-paying offer went to find someone else. Life is an arena, and luck is a cover for success. If you want it, you must boldly fight for it.
2. Be less of a "good-hearted person"
Don't help others when they don't ask you for help. Sometimes your kindness is just to show off to others. Because "I help you" is equivalent to "you can't, you need my help". From the receiver's point of view, sometimes you just feel like you are showing off.
3, not afraid of losing face:
No one will miss your social death forever, but all you really remember is yourself. So don't worry too much about whether others will gossip, relax and be bold.
4. You have the final say:
Spending money on new shoes is not about listening to others say it's cool, but about satisfying your own taste and making your feet comfortable. Similarly, when others judge you, don't be unsure that others are qualified to say you.
5. Stop loss in time:
Don't cling to the so-called sunk cost. If you hang on a tree, you will lose the whole forest. Bad work, cheating family and friends, three views.
For those who disagree, let go of those who should give up decisively, and don't get deeper and deeper.
6, repeated practice:
When you make up your mind to do something well, just practice hard, as boys who often play basketball know. The shooting percentage of three-point shooters is repeatedly practiced;
7, accept the confusion period:
No one knows what he will do after he is born. We all find ourselves lost in groping. Don't sell yourself short, give up your efforts, read more good books and communicate with excellent people.
8. Be kind without losing your edge:
People who don't make trouble and are not afraid of things are the most tolerant. Gentleness and kindness are your precious qualities. But when others find fault with you for no reason, you should also have the courage to stand up and be fearless.
9. Protect your family:
Family is the only person in the world who loves you unconditionally, so you must try to make yourself strong. How high your rank is, how happy your family will be. If you don't make progress, your family is bearing the burden.
10. speak with actions and results: don't lift your flag before things are done, and don't always talk about it. After all, compared with taking selfies in the gym every day, the six-pack ABS and vest line are more handsome and charming.
1 1, keep feeling:
Most people who have a bad life have serious internal friction. It is because I think that their mood is always so bad, but many things have nothing to do with you. If you keep a little feeling when you are in trouble, you will be much more relaxed.
12, find your own track:
Like a satellite, you should live in your own orbit, don't care too much about the sounds of other orbits, and there is no need to spend time correcting their thoughts. Your time is precious, so spend more time on learning and improving yourself.