With the progress of society and the development of economy, more and more women have embarked on the road of complete independence, no longer dependent on family or men, but can survive and develop in society on their own. However, people always talk about marriage. When you meet a man you like, the other person doesn't necessarily like himself or his own man. They always feel that the real prince charming hasn't appeared yet.
Of course, women's independence is good and bad for men. The advantage is that they don't have to bear all social responsibilities and family obligations. The bad thing is that their girlfriends or wives always demand sovereignty, equality and even emotional freedom, which makes men very headache.
For example, it's good for us to have a headache. At least, there is someone around us who can accompany us to the old age. Even if we stumble and make noise, we can still be around at the critical moment, caring, supporting and advancing and retreating together. But like my best friend Wei, I haven't found my Mr. Right yet.
As an elderly woman, Xiao Wei has a very good job and a very happy family. There is also a younger brother at home who is married and has children. Xiao Wei's usual life is also very regular, except work is fitness, shopping and eating with his girlfriend. She belongs to a typical modern urban woman.
Later, I introduced her to a man, who is also an older man. The same conditions are good. His work, family, appearance, height and personality are all good candidates, but they quarreled and disliked each other within three months. In fact, I can understand the fight between young couples, but their mutual dislike is really beyond my expectation.
Later, I heard from Aunt Zhang of the company that several couples she introduced were like this, and it didn't take long for them to dislike each other. Why is this? Why do unmarried men and women dislike each other now? Even when talking about marriage, we are still disgusted with each other. Later, I asked Wei and her boyfriend why they had such thoughts and behaviors.
Wei told me that in fact, she thinks her boyfriend is lazy and less motivated. In addition, after falling in love with him, she became more tired, needed to take care of each other and had to worry about many things for herself. Wei's male ticket tells me that Wei's personality is too strong to control, and sometimes he oppresses himself with the momentum of the queen, feeling very tired. So everyone thinks that the other person is not the best candidate, but they are a little reluctant to give up, so after falling in love, they are in a state of semi-attraction and semi-disgust.
In fact, the relationship between Wei and her boyfriend has reached the point where most unmarried men and women in this city don't like each other. Why? The reason is very simple, mainly in the following two aspects.
First, modern women are becoming more and more independent, and they can still live well without men. Originally, they fell in love for a happy life. I didn't expect to bear more after falling in love and clean up the room for each other. It's really not worth it. Boys really stink and make them feel unreasonable.
Second, China society is still dominated by men, and male chauvinism is still very serious. Men feel that women should not be so strong, should be gentle and should be attached to their own protection. When women look at them as a queen, men express their dissatisfaction, look down on women, and sometimes even think that women are trouble, so it is better not to worry.
The above two aspects directly lead to the mutual dislike and contempt of unmarried men and women in today's society. Although a few people think it is tolerable, noisy is inevitable.