Postpartum depression is not melodramatic, but really sick.

Speaking of Zhao, many people will think of the image of "Desperate Three Mothers".

Seven plays a year, 365 days in the crew.

I used to insist on not using double body, which led to waist injury and knee injury, and my weight dropped below 80 kg.

I hurt my lumbar spine while riding while filming, and I can't stand for a long time from now on.

Even the day before I gave birth, I chose scripts in the delivery room.

She said: "Every actor has a golden creation period. When he has passion, he will act more and burn his passion like a candle! "

However, even such a strong model worker in the entertainment industry sometimes can't hold on.

Recently, it was revealed in an interview that Zhao's personality became very sensitive after giving birth to a child.

Not as strong as before, and I can't help crying when I meet some small things.

Once when I was breastfeeding my child, I turned around and found Zhao crying. She cried and said to him:

"Can you be gentle with your baby?"

There are even media reports that Zhao suffers from mild postpartum depression.

It is said that the mother who gave birth to the baby is going to collapse.

This is completely true.

Whether you are an ordinary person or a star, having a baby will bring a deep blow to your life.

No matter how strong a woman is, she will be fragile at this time.

Postpartum depression is not melodramatic, but really sick.

Some people think that postpartum depression is melodramatic.

If you don't have children, you will be accompanied by doctors and nurses, and the month center will recuperate.

There is also a family to help take care of it, and nothing needs to be taken care of.

What's so depressing?

But the fact is that postpartum depression is really a disease.

As early as fifty years ago, the psychiatrist Pete. B put forward the concept of postpartum depression:

Due to the violent fluctuation of hormones in postpartum body, the sudden decrease of estrogen and progesterone will cause maternal depression, which is out of control.

China Psychiatrist Association also has data showing that:

In China, depression, pessimism, despair, irritability and other depressive symptoms occur in women after giving birth, with the proportion as high as 50% ~ 70%. Among them, 50% of pregnant women did not receive any treatment. ?

My friend Xiaoyu once suffered from postpartum depression.

After giving birth to the baby, she changed from a girl with delicate makeup to a unkempt girl.

Communicate with people who have empty eyes and are absent-minded

She told me: "I heard that anti-depression is a war. At that time, I thought it was melodramatic, but now I think it is true. "

Because of her extremely unstable mood, Xiaoyu doesn't want to go out to see people every day.

But staying at home is easy to be lonely, angry, stuffy in the chest and sleepy.

Every night, sadness comes in inexplicably, and then I can't help crying.

After crying, I fell into deep remorse and contempt and felt that I was the most useless mother in the world.

During that time, it was really a hellish experience.

This reminds me of my wife's romantic trip, in which Zhang Ziyi also mentioned the pain of postpartum depression.

She said: "In addition to enduring psychological discomfort, I have to experience the greatest pain in my life-increasing milk."

Although the doctor also reminded her that mastitis will be very painful during milk increase.

But I didn't know it would hurt so much.

You know, Zhang Ziyi suffered many injuries during filming:

Fingernails were torn off, ligaments were torn, and Weiya fell down and fainted on the spot. ...

She kept a straight face about these injuries.

It hurts to raise milk now, so you can imagine how painful it is.

Besides, caesarean section also made Zhang Ziyi suffer from severe constipation.

You can only use kaisai dew in bed, and you can exert yourself for one or two hours at a time.

The first time I got out of bed to urinate, the urine passed through every organ like a whip, and the knife edge didn't hurt.

This experience, most women will have.

They just gave birth to children, not only physically and mentally exhausted, but also emotionally fragile, and they also have bad emotions such as crying, irritability and worry.

Even so, some people like to blame these on the affectation and weakness of women.

Whenever a newborn arrives, almost everyone is immersed in the joy of welcoming the child.

Mothers who struggle with postpartum depression alone are often ignored.

Just having a baby is the hardest hurdle for a woman.

It is difficult for women in China. They just walked out of the death gate of production.

Without any respite, I stepped into the most difficult stage of my life.

In order to facilitate men's understanding, someone made the following metaphor:

You just broke a few ribs on the operating table, dragging the sick body that hasn't healed yet. Less than a week after getting up, you immediately plunged into a job that is available 24 hours a day and has no experience at all.

If you don't do a little well, you will be responsible by all outsiders and relatives.

Besides, this job can't bring you any income and future.

No man can accept such a thing.

But in women, it has become a matter of course.

As the biggest contributor to childbirth, mother should have received more care and care.

But after the child was born, it was suddenly abandoned by the whole world.

Children have become the focus of the family and can only endure the decline of family status and the lack of dignity.

Li Jing, the host, said, "After giving birth, I feel like a machine. Everyone is talking about your organs. "

Others take care of your confinement only because the child needs nursing.

If you refuse to eat milk food, then everyone will blame you.

Especially when the baby is hungry and you can't milk it.

The pressure around you will make you feel guilty, and it is your responsibility to think that your child has no milk to eat.

In short, the postpartum mother is no longer an independent individual, but exists as a relationship with the child.

Many mothers quit their jobs and take care of their children at home. They face shit every day, turn around 24 hours, and have no rest time at all.

Xinbao Ma complained:

"After becoming a mother, there are many invisible collapses hidden in the middle of the night."

Children don't sleep at all. They hug horizontally and vertically, in the living room and bedroom. ...

I finally closed my eyes. I just lay down and began to cry again.

Sometimes I feel sleepy and want to call my husband for help, but I sleep like a dead pig and I can't wake up.

In this way, physical and mental fatigue, ugly and haggard day by day, depression suddenly welled up in my heart.

But people around me, including my husband, are more tired because they don't care about their emotions.

Postpartum depression is terrible.

But the most chilling thing is that the closest people are indifferent to this, making the already broken heart rolling in the deep.

How many strong women died of postpartum depression.

It is often said that "without personal experience, it is impossible to understand the despair and collapse of postpartum depression in women".

The other end of postpartum depression may be suicide.

Statistics show that 20% of postpartum deaths are caused by suicide.

In the first suicide prevention and self-help guide in China, "postpartum depression" is also listed as an important factor of suicide.

A few years ago, the news that a second-born mother committed suicide by jumping off a building in Wuhan caused a sensation throughout the country.

In the hospital, 10-year-old daughter cried and shouted "I want a mother", and her father was still holding a baby just full moon in his arms.

What happened puzzled the family very much.

According to her mother-in-law's memory, although her daughter-in-law is occasionally unhappy. But after all, she gave birth to a child and was a strong woman, so she didn't take her psychological problems seriously.

Who knows this day, she suddenly rushed to the balcony and jumped down.

This news makes me sad.

If the family can pay more attention to the mother's mental health, it may be possible to avoid the tragedy.

Different from ordinary depression, the terrible thing about postpartum depression is that infanticide is often included in the process of suicide.

Psychologically, it is called "extended suicide".

In Anyang, Nanning, after quarreling with her husband, a mother with postpartum depression threw her child down 365,438+0 floors and jumped herself.

In Xiangtan, Hunan, a 3 1 year-old mother left a million-word suicide note and committed suicide by jumping off a building with a pair of children under 3 years old, both of whom died.

A mother with postpartum depression in Huai 'an, Jiangsu Province, also expressed her despair when her child was three months old:

"I gave him a bath and twice wanted to let go of him and drown him. Before he drowned, I was still wondering how deep the water level was theoretically. "

"How should I choose to die after he dies?"

It is said that tiger poison does not eat children, and how much psychological pain these mothers have suffered when they die with their children.

But in China families, motherhood is always the least understood and valued.

Everyone thinks that we should be optimistic and happy at the happiest moment of life.

How can I change my temperament and become a depressed, depressed and unreasonable person?

How many mothers with bad temper didn't find the most unspeakable pain in their hearts until the moment they left forever.

Husband's concern can effectively alleviate postpartum depression.

Postpartum depression can be relieved in many cases, and the key lies in the care of her husband.

As long as men don't be shopkeepers, share the pressure and let their wives know that they are not fighting alone.

Then, this bad mood can be shared.

Zhihu has a question: What kind of experience is postpartum depression?

The netizen's answer "Life is really good, Mariko" won 1000 likes. ?

After the baby was born, my husband unloaded the game and took care of me in the hospital.

At night, the child is asleep, or half asleep and half awake. Look at the child occasionally to prevent choking and vomiting in the middle of the night.

During that time, my husband was in a trance, not only running errands during the day, but also not sleeping at night, absorbing my negative emotions.

We have to deal with the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law caused by unstable temper.

Almost everything is on me.

He doesn't get enough sleep and works hard.

Soon, he became silent, unhappy and depressed.

Some people say postpartum depression, but I didn't expect my husband to be "depressed" after giving birth to a child.

Because of good care, in a month's time, the situation was stable, and gradually he got better and the whole person was refreshed again.

At present, the child is one year old, the mother has a good personality, and the father is very responsible and often helps to take care of the baby. The whole family is very happy. "

In the comment area, everyone expressed their admiration and thought that she married a peerless man.

However, I saw a trace of bitterness.

Imagine that even a man who is not pregnant and has no physical harm is prone to depression if he takes care of his children and wife every day.

What's more, a woman whose body has just been destroyed

If men don't care about anything, women can only be lack of sleep+anxiety+fatigue and can't get depressed.

Therefore, a good husband should accompany and communicate more, share housework and shoulder the responsibility of raising children together.

No matter how busy you are, even a little thoughtfulness is a good medicine for postpartum depression.

This era is too harsh on women.

Not only have children, but also work hard in the workplace like men to earn money to support their families.

Don't go out of shape, don't be sloppy, and keep "the exquisite appearance that women should have."

Especially after giving birth to a child, it is necessary to be a mother and shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family.

Here I want to say, women, you are already excellent.

Don't always be demanding perfection, lower your requirements a little.

This can not only reduce some burdens, but also save a lot of childcare expenses.

Recently, the US Food and Drug Administration approved the first new drug to treat postpartum depression in history.

It only takes three days to significantly improve the symptoms of depression.

A course of treatment, about 200 thousand.

Seeing this price, I believe many people who are not depressed are depressed.

Finally, remind everyone to care more about the women at home and less blame.

I hope that every family that welcomes a new life can give more attention, support and understanding to the new mother.

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