How can people who can't control their weight control their own lives?

I don't know when this poisonous chicken soup began to prevail in the circle of friends. Is weight closely related to life?

A girl who stands a flag in a circle of friends is three months thin 10 kg. To this end, she also changed a WeChat avatar that "does not change the avatar and is not thin 10 kg".

During the period of losing weight, she didn't take a bite of sweets, drank water and ran every day, and ate some low-calorie and tasteless food in the morning, afternoon and evening.

However, the most bitter thing is not to drag my tired legs for 5 kilometers, but to go back to the dormitory hungry and find my roommate eating and drinking.

Take-out was ordered on the upper berth, and the aroma of barbecue filled the whole bedroom. She swallowed a mouthful of saliva and hypnotized herself "I'm not hungry, I'm not hungry".

This situation can often be seen in life, and people often mistake self-repression for self-discipline.

True self-discipline is to accept your own desires and learn to weigh the pros and cons. This is the correct way to open it.

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After three months, the girl successfully lost weight 10 kg. She happily changed back to the original WeChat avatar and invited her roommate out for a few big meals.

Under her indulgence, within 1 month, her weight returned to the original old style, and she was teased by her roommate that "changing her head is purely spiritual."

I found that the "self-discipline" of most people just lingered between boiling blood and muddling along.

One day, I suddenly saw my stomach and decided to lose weight. I downloaded a bunch of fitness software to my mobile phone and impulsively set up a fitness card. After a few days of persistence, I returned to my original shape. I should eat and drink.

I must study hard because I failed once. I get up at 5 o'clock every day, recite words, do exercises and sit in the library. I was exhausted after two days, and finally got sick, so I was doomed to learn.

Self-discipline is simple one day and one week, but it is difficult to keep the habit of self-discipline all the time.

Many times, it is the failure to maintain long-term and lasting self-discipline that will lead to the year-end frustration and feel that nothing has been completed this year.

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Self-discipline never stops because of a small setback or achievement. People who are truly self-disciplined often stick to their plans, know what they want and know what to do after countless setbacks and successes.

We often envy those who can dominate our lives, but we don't see the sweat hidden behind the light.

A friend did not perform well in the college entrance examination for the first time, and his grades were not satisfactory. His grades barely make it to one or three schools.

Frustrated, he decided to repeat his studies, and his inner sense of shame and desire for a good school filled him with motivation.

He made a list, carefully arranged his study tasks every day, and never slept until he finished the task.

During this year, he tried to get the best grades in his class, and sometimes he failed in the exam, but none of these could stop him from moving forward.

Clear your mind, and everyone can start again. I finally got into the ideal university as I wished.

Speaking of the reason why he can maintain continuous self-discipline, he knows that he should not be shaken by a result.

It doesn't mean anything to do well or fail once. Self-discipline is a state of life. Only those who can maintain self-discipline can take themselves to the places they want to go by their own will.

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There are two most amazing forces in this world. One is fireworks, which light up the night sky at the moment of blooming, but it doesn't last long. The other is that a drop of water wears away, insisting on the same thing every day. Although the effect is not fast, persistent efforts can grind a stone.

Among the people I know, Xiao Shuang is the most self-disciplined. Despite her poor qualifications, she was awarded a doctorate.

Since entering the university, she has got up at six o'clock every day, running, reading, practicing oral English and reading. In the meantime, I will give myself half an hour to relax. I can watch the drama and watch Weibo, but I will turn off my cell phone on time without delay.

She persisted in this state of life for five years.

The most interesting thing is that I asked her, "How did you manage to be self-disciplined for five years?"

Her answer is: "Make self-discipline a part of your life."

Looking at those who can maintain long-term self-discipline, I summed up three points:

1. A firm goal.

People who insist on self-discipline have a very firm goal in their hearts. Only by going in one direction all the time, can we not give up halfway, can we measure our progress, and will we not give ourselves any excuses to relax.

2. Have your own rhythm.

Another key factor in maintaining long-term self-discipline is that it is not easily influenced by others. Even if people around them are addicted to games and admire Buddhist life, they can still move forward at the original pace.

3. Super delayed gratification.

Short-term delayed gratification ability is not enough to support years of self-discipline, and people who can self-discipline for a long time are also better than ordinary people in delayed gratification ability.

Life is a marathon, not a short outbreak, but how to keep the pace close to the end of victory step by step.