As it happens, recently someone praised me for my good figure, and several people asked me the secret of keeping fit, so I took the opportunity to talk about those things about losing weight.
In fact, I am a person who has no thin gene. I get fat easily. Traveling is difficult. People will lose a few pounds, and I will gain a few pounds. I really don't have the genes and talents in this field, and my diet is never controlled. The reason why I'm not too fat and fit is mainly because of years of exercise. Running, dumbbells, push-ups, various strength exercises.
So you should be disappointed after talking for a long time: didn't you say that I wouldn't be sad? What's the trick?
Before doing it, I will definitely answer: there is no trick!
But the answer has been shaken recently. There is really a knack for losing weight!
2. Overweight is caused by internal reasons.
I read some books on psychology, which subverted the previous cognition of losing weight.
Fat and thin have little to do with how much you eat and how much you exercise. The extra weight of every part of your body is caused by some internal reasons. Obesity is just an external manifestation of internal problems!
In the past, we misjudged food, underestimated the body's digestion and absorption ability, imposed the reasons for gaining weight on the outside, and at the same time reduced weight by reducing food intake and strengthening exercise, but the effect was not ideal and the rebound was serious.
Many obese people have been unable to lose weight successfully because of emotional problems, and most of them need emotional protection and security.
Over the years, these people have escaped from their true feelings and denied their own needs, desires and true selves for a long time, so that their ability to feel these emotions has been reduced and they live in a huge and uneasy hole without knowing it.
For example, some people feel that they should not pursue their own desires. Instead, I choose to suppress or deny these desires, convince myself with lies, and strictly abide by strict rules and moral standards (there are many around me, think about myself and the people around me, aren't there many? )。
For example, many stars we are familiar with rely on strict diet to keep their skinny bodies. Zheng Shuang, who is as thin as a stick figure, once said that as long as he has a little meat, he will feel that others don't like him; Nana covered himself with pepper spray and tortured himself with plastic wrap. The strongest is Sammi Cheng, who only eats a plate of vegetable salad after rehearsing for 8 hours every day, starving himself into "ribs" and welcoming depression; Jolin Tsai has not eaten rice for three or four consecutive years; Spice girl victoria beckham has long lived on strawberries.
3. Pay attention to your inner hunger and thirst
If you deprive yourself of your real needs for a long time, you will be hungry inside. This internal hunger response gives the body the message that I must hoard to ensure that I can survive when I am hungry.
Generally speaking, the causes of obesity can be summarized as follows:
Insecurity,
Self-exclusion,
You need to protect your body and prevent someone/something from hurting yourself.
Fill the emptiness inside,
Overrepression can't express, can't do/express the true self,
The feeling of seeking love, unable to admit self-desire, needing hug/love but unable to get it from the outside world (need to wrap yourself in fat),
Suppress anger and hatred, resist external contact, and so on.
Find these roots, release them, and the remaining problems will be solved, and you will naturally enter a healthy cycle!
4. Stop resisting yourself and accept yourself.
At the moment of eating, I was full of anxiety and thought, "This will definitely make me fat." After eating, we were satisfied, but also full of guilt and self-blame. These feelings of low vibration frequency will gradually aggravate our weight problem.
As a result, the more depressed you are, the more you eat, the more self-whipping you produce, and the more food you need to suppress these emotions.
Many people choose to go on a diet in the valley and force their bodies to starve, but they never pay attention to their inner hunger. Even if you lose weight, it will explode again after you resume your diet. There are also many people who do intensive training and diet adjustment, but they have great inner resistance and self-denial, and the effect is not ideal.
You should see that the subtext behind your desire to be slim is actually resisting yourself now. Many people will think: I wish I were thinner, so that I can accept myself, others will like me more, and I can attract the love of the opposite sex, and so on.
Lu Yu, whom we are familiar with, read her autobiography many years ago and mentioned her weight loss experience, but she didn't agree with her original appearance at all. She held the idea of "thinner is better" for many years until she became the "skeleton man" and "big head doll" we see now. Zheng Shuang's younger sister mentioned earlier is also typical in this respect. Even if she looks like a fairy, she still feels that she is not beautiful or cute, and continues to lose weight and have plastic surgery until she is so thin that she is blown down by the wind in minutes.
Therefore, it will be painful to transform your body with these ideas, because you are still resisting and belittling yourself.
To understand the causes of obesity, we should start by releasing the root causes and accepting ourselves now.
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