Chen Ruoyi quickly explained: "This pair of pants is designed like this."
But mother Lin did not intend to end this topic and continued: "Do you want to change it?"
Chen Ruoyi said innocently, "I didn't bring a formal suit."
Jimmy Lin's mother said seriously, "It's impolite for you to come to our house without wearing these pants."
In these two conversations, as a husband and son, Jimmy Lin didn't say a word.
In an instant, this sentence made netizens explode. After all, it is 2020, and Chen Ruoyi and Jimmy Lin have been married for more than ten years. But the mother-in-law is still so unkind and even gives people a strange feeling. In the eyes of netizens, she represents the feudalism of the giants.
I left a message saying, "What age is this, and the thought is still so feudal?" "Let's not talk about shorts. I have been married to your family for so many years, and I also said that you should not wear shorts when you come to our house. Are you still two families? "
I can understand the questions of netizens. After all, according to people's thinking, Jimmy Lin's mother is too strange and heartless to do so. However, every cause has its consequences. Jimmy Lin's mother can express her dissatisfaction with her daughter-in-law, but in fact, she is expressing her dissatisfaction with her son Jimmy Lin.
02.
Jimmy Lin's work and marriage have always been smooth and harmonious, but few people know that Jimmy Lin's parents divorced at the age of 1 1, and he has been living with his father.
In Jimmy Lin's eyes, his mother is a strong woman. His father and mother divorced not because of emotional problems, but because his mother wanted to seek the value of life.
Besides, Jimmy Lin herself admitted that when her mother was young, she was resolute, enterprising and very strict with her children. In addition, she was not around for a long time after the divorce, which also led to the deepening of the gap between Jimmy Lin and her mother. Strange is not too much to describe her.
Mother Lin is over 70 years old, with excellent quality of life and magnificent mansion. However, in such a big house, Jimmy Lin, as a son, never comes back except for eating on holidays. Even once, Jimmy Lin forgot her mother's birthday because of work, which made her cry easily.
When the mother complains alone, the child will ask, "You are lonely and sad now. How did we get here when we were young? Why do you insist on leaving us? "
From this experience, we can see that the gap between Jimmy Lin and her mother is like two extremes of a magnet. Both sides have their own reasons for complaining, and it makes sense to say it. However, whether it is a reason or a complaint, saying that it can't make an appointment and can't calm the heart is more like a means of hurting the other party.
Combined with the mother's attitude towards her daughter-in-law, then Lin's mother will say those words. Although she is facing Chen Ruoyi, she is actually facing Jimmy Lin.
Mother Lin has a lot of dissatisfaction with this son, but she doesn't know how to vent it. On the one hand, she hopes that her son can take his grandchildren to see himself and talk about his inner loneliness and thoughts. On the other hand, however, the dissatisfaction accumulated in more than ten years is always beyond words. Every sentence is like a rose with thorns and a double-edged sword. It hurts you, but it also hurts itself.
As a son, Jimmy Lin naturally had many puzzles and complaints about his mother since he was a child. When he grows up, he seldom goes home on the grounds of work, and even forgets his mother's birthday. I don't know whether he forgot it unintentionally or intentionally, but it also hurt his mother and himself.
03.
Jimmy Lin's mother neglected her children for her career when she was young, so it is reasonable for her to be ignored by her children in the same way when she is old.
But the ancients said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." .
Life doesn't necessarily need you to hurt me. I can only come here if I hurt you. As a mother and son, the only pain in the end is yourselves.
In my opinion, it is necessary to solve the problem. My mother is over 70 years old, and the mistakes she made in the past are irreparable, but she is still alive, and the initiative now lies with Jimmy Lin and her daughter-in-law Chen Ruoyi. However, out of initiative or passivity, the couple still seldom visit her mother. Judging from Jimmy Lin's attitude, she still hates her mother's neglect in those years, but this kind of thing he hates is being done to her now. Should it be like this?
I don't think so!
As the saying goes, "When will the revenge be reported?"
Every love has weight, even complaints are formed on the basis of love. Many netizens said that Jimmy Lin's mother was cold-blooded, strange and heartless, but she didn't know her inner sadness and helplessness. I think she should have reflected and regretted her neglect of her children, but Jimmy Lin's neglect of her in recent years prevented her from revealing more.
So is it wrong for Jimmy Lin's mother to say, "It's impolite to come to our house dressed like this"? That's right!
Sometimes you have to listen to the voice when you are obedient. Many people focus on impoliteness, but in my opinion, the focus of this sentence is actually the words "our home".
Children often come back to see, home can be called home, and our home is no longer a strange feeling, but the meaning of * * *.
The impolite meaning has nothing to do with jeans, but more to hope that the children will come back. It is really impolite to come back less.
It is human nature to make mistakes, but it is great to be able to correct them.
As a son, Jimmy Lin, especially facing his 70-year-old mother, is the best solution. Don't continue to play hardball, it will only sink deeper and deeper in the mud until it is lost, but then it will be too late.