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How to treat the exposure of a "decoration" for 7 days, which almost ruined a marriage?
Recently, my home was renovated, and I turned to a decoration sticker, which made me re-examine the problem of "the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law".

Netizen "Mi Li" said that after two years of marriage, she always felt that her mother-in-law was better than her biological mother. Cooked chicken legs will be secretly eaten in the kitchen, and every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, I will do nothing but wash dishes.

Married people are suitable for buying furniture at home, and they all take rice grains to let her choose what she likes. Many details at the wedding are only said by rice grains.

Not long ago, Mi Li and her husband were decorating their house in the city. Because both of them have to go to work, they have no time to stare at the decoration, and the contractor is too expensive. Mi Li's husband called her in-laws for help.

Mimi's husband's parents love his son very much, and her husband loves his parents too. The family of three was reunited in the young couple's workplace, and Mimi immediately felt like an outsider, although this feeling came a little suddenly.

When I didn't understand my hometown dialect, my husband was busy with his work, and Mi Li followed up most of the decoration. However, every time Mi Li goes from the rented house to the newly renovated house, her mother-in-law will hold Mi Li's hand and say, "Mi Li, this can't be like this." "Mi Li, can you be simple and don't waste too much money?" ...

Three days ago, Mi Li laughed off what her mother-in-law said. After all, the old man is used to saving money. However, on the fourth day, Mi Li finally broke out. She didn't blush with her mother-in-law. Hardly had she got home when she started a round of cold violence against her husband.

Mi Li felt particularly wronged. In fact, during this period, she was not only at odds with her mother-in-law, but also faced her mother-in-law's "wordiness" and her husband's "one-sided" attitude every day.

Every time, no matter what Mi Li said, her husband felt that his parents were right. He didn't understand why Mi Li would make a scene or ignore him. He can't understand Mi Li's view of his parents. After all, his parents did nothing.

The old man rode his bike all day to help. In a strange city, staying in a hotel that you are not used to, just expressing some of your "opinions", the daughter-in-law will "lose face." Although the daughter-in-law didn't say anything, the old man probably knew it well.

It is said that once there is a problem in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most uncomfortable thing is actually the son of the mother-in-law who is in a dilemma and the husband of the woman. Mi Li knows this well, but she has no choice but to vent all her anger on her husband.

Sometimes once a woman's emotions come out, they are really unstoppable. Mi Li said that she divorced her husband almost every day in those days, although she always knew that the word divorce could not be mentioned casually.

Mimi didn't go home, sitting in the cold wind late at night, "complaining" with her friends and girlfriends. Mimi said that she had quarreled with her husband before and had never been angry for more than a day, but this time, she really couldn't get through. Every time I contact my mother-in-law, her inner defense line collapses.

She collapsed. Just as men don't understand, she can't tell why she collapsed. She just felt wronged and uncomfortable, and her world collapsed. She wants a divorce and thinks that a person's life will be much more comfortable than this.

It's not that men don't love women, but when it comes to their parents, they always feel that their parents are better, more right, more reasonable and more considerate of their parents than their wives.

After all, a woman who has just been married for a few years and has not given birth to a child has no advantage over her parents in terms of time or feelings.

How did it get better later? Rice said, probably, it was that night that I really decided not to stay in this city.

Men who are indifferent to the crying and cold violence of rice grains fall asleep early, and they are the kind of people who sleep soundly. Rice took a bath very late and lay in bed. Tossing and turning can't sleep.

Maybe the light of the mobile phone woke Mimi's husband. He got up and told Mimi to turn off her cell phone and sleep.

The rice can't be pulled any more. She said all the grievances of her long marriage. Although the man still didn't understand, he still clung to the rice grain and constantly stressed that he loved it. He knew he was wrong. ...

As many emotional writers have said, in fact, whether it is the mother-in-law problem or other family problems, it is really not the relationship itself, but the attitude of men. What women really care about is only the care and love of men.

When I got up the next morning, Mimi didn't go to the city she was going to. As usual, she picked up her bag and arranged the decorator and materials as planned.

That day, Mi Li stayed at her parents' home for a day and had dinner together. She actually feels relaxed and has no pressure in front of her. She found that her mother-in-law had also changed a little. Since the aunt next door was "said" by the rice grain, her mother-in-law has not been so wordy.

In the following days, Mimi's husband continued to go to work with peace of mind, and her parents-in-law did cleaning and decoration in the house, which also helped a lot. Mimi also took on the "heavy responsibility" of worrying about renovation after work.

Mi Li's parents also told her that it was not easy for her parents-in-law to come all the way. As a daughter-in-law, you should be less concerned and more considerate. The first contact friction is always inevitable. Just get used to it.

Without the neighbors' "gossip" in the new house, Mi Li's mother-in-law stopped talking, and Mi Li was in a good mood, so she stopped bothering her husband and the family finally got along well.

Now, after a while, Mi Li recalls: Really, in the week when my mother-in-law first came, I felt suffocated every day and almost got divorced.

After all, the "tension" between her and her mother-in-law did not last long. Finally, she and her mother-in-law were able to reconcile and get along well because two generations began to understand and understand each other.

Mother-in-law no longer talks, daughter-in-law is generous, and husband loves his wife very much. Then, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the worst. How bad can it be?

After reading the story of rice, I finally understand that unity is very important for a family.

Almost all big families can do big and successful business, and there must be few internal struggles. Family members must help each other more than envy and stumbling.

The same is true between small families and extended families. Probably, the mother-in-law who really loves her son and the woman who really loves her husband are unwilling to keep the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a state of tension at home.

After all, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, and it is the man who gets the deepest injury in the end.

If the tension in the relationship affects the spirit and work, then the final loss is the "possibility" of the two families.

The so-called "home and everything prosper", a truth that the ancients understood early in the morning, I hope every mother-in-law can understand.

Finally, I hope that women and women, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, will help and understand each other more, be less verbose and care more about things. We will discuss big things with each other, not interfere in small things, and work hard for the man and family we love.

* * * Encourage. Best wishes.