Non-professional background, regardless of work and life, has no intersection with the construction industry, but in his spare time, he passed self-study and successfully passed the first-class constructor exam, and every exam exceeded the score by at least 10.
I'm not good at and I don't like sports, but I succeeded in losing weight by exercising without dieting or using any slimming products.
How to overcome their own shortcomings and complete the counterattack in the weak areas? How to get a single-digit pass rate test from the layman's foundation? How to tame the disharmony of limbs and reverse the heart that doesn't like sports to lose weight successfully? These successful cases of turning goals into results all stem from a set of effective methodologies. Actions speak louder than actions. Learn this new skill with me!
If you imagine the process of achieving your goal as a trip, then the goal is your destination. The method is the route you choose and the vehicle you take. The task is the process of taking the vehicle. Persistence is to keep moving on the route until you reach your destination.
The first rule of setting goals: it must be achievable.
Desire is like a mouse trapped in a cage. Constant expansion will only increase the difficulty of escaping from the cage, and worse, it may lead to the tragic consequences of being stuck in the cage. And dreams are the light of hope, which can lead you, push you and achieve you. The biggest difference between desire and dream is that desire cannot be realized through hard work, while dream can be realized through hard work.
Therefore, the most critical requirement for a suitable goal is that it must be a dream, not a wish. Therefore, when setting targets, at least three minefields should be avoided:
1, something that is powerless to all mankind.
For example, immortality is a typical desire. In history, all emperors who tried to prolong life with Dan medicine did not die miserably.
2. What you can't do in your life.
For example, the height of 10 cm, of course, refers to adulthood. Instead of painstaking promotion, it is better to study how to dress up and avoid weaknesses, or simply cultivate your own interests. Being an interesting person is more enjoyable than being a gorgeous person.
3. What you can't do at a certain stage.
For example, when you 10 years old, you want to become the richest man in the world by yourself. If you plan to become the richest man in the world at the age of 40, then this goal is more reliable.
The second rule of setting goals: never overwhelm.
Big failures are easy for people to fall down, but small successes will make people gather strength and give them more confidence and ability to accomplish new goals. Therefore, when making goals, we must consider the difficulty of the goals. Starting from the simple, it is often easier to succeed.
The first rule of choosing a method: you must have a method.
You are solving a math problem. If you know the way to solve the problem, it is only a matter of time before you get the answer. You know, as time goes on, you can always find the answer. Even in the most stupid way, it just makes the answer come later. However, if you have no idea to solve the problem, then time is probably not the answer, but your hysteria. This shows the importance of methods, because with methods, the goal can be achieved. So, you must make sure that there is at least one way. Sometimes, you will find yourself racking your brains and can't come up with an effective method. At this time, please look at your goal, because your goal is likely to step on thunder.
The second rule of choosing a method: your method is the most feasible for you.
As long as it is a suitable goal, there will be ways to achieve it, even many ways. You can choose to go straight to the point or take a detour. Since there are so many methods, which one should we choose? There are two criteria:
1, this method can meet your key needs.
The cost of this method is what you can bear, even the least loss.
For example, if you go to a place 50 kilometers away, you are a college student, and you have no spare money and time. It is better to choose the train, so that you don't have to pay the travel expenses you can't afford; However, if you are a business owner who is in a hurry and is not short of money, it is more feasible to choose direct flight, which will not let you delay important things.
McDonald's can open chain stores all over the world, but it can't. Isn't a Manchu banquet as delicious as a hamburger? In fact, it's not that the Manchu banquet is not delicious, but that it's not easy to make. Look at those stores that can open chain stores. It is easy to sell food, goods or services. Because only in this way can it be easier to start, implement and persist. The same is true of the decomposition task. The most important thing is to be sustainable. Therefore, the basic requirement of task decomposition is to decompose the task into simple actions that can be repeated, and each action should have obvious completion marks, such as quantitative indicators. When a goal is broken down into tasks, you can use an equation to express your goals and tasks. The equation is as follows:
Target = (task 1+ task 2+...+ task n)/ unit time * time
For example:
Get CET-6 in 3 months =( 100 words +5 readings)/day *90 days.
Complete a 1000 puzzle in 5 days =200 pieces/day *5 days.
Sometimes, the task needs to be completed in stages, so the completion of the goal can be expressed by the following equation:
Goal = (task 1+ task 2+...+ task n)/ unit time * time+(task 1+ task 2+...+ task n)/ unit time * time+...+(task 1+ task 2+...+)
take for example
Get CET-6 in 3 months =( 100 words +5 readings)/day *80 days +2 sets of simulated test papers/day * 10 days. Through this equation, we can clearly understand that it takes two stages to achieve the goal of CET-6. The first stage lasts for 80 days, reciting 100 words and doing five readings every day; The second stage lasts 10 days, and two sets of simulated test papers are made every day.
In order to facilitate the implementation, it is suggested that the tasks and stages should be as simple as possible, with no more than three at most. If it is too much, it means that your goals are not set properly. You can continue to divide targets and form multiple small targets. For example, the goal of losing weight can be divided into two, the goal of losing 10 kg and the goal of building a tight curve.
With the equation, you need to turn your attention to the right side of the equation. In other words, you should concentrate on the task. Just like the advice given to beginners by successful people in every field: concentrate on research or practice for 65,438+0,000 hours, and you will naturally become a professional. You should always encourage yourself, as long as you finish all the tasks, you will naturally achieve your goal. Doing so will make you feel at ease, instead of daydreaming and complaining all day, you will take active action.
It never seems easy to stick to it. Everyone has an angel and a devil in his heart. They constantly play games in the process of your goals and persistence, which affects your execution. Obviously, you should constantly help your angel to ensure that she defeats the devil. How? You can buy some heavy weapons for angels, or simply hold your devil back.
First, add heavy weapons to your angel-increase the motivation of execution.
1, spiritual victory method: fantasize about everything you can have after you successfully achieve your goal. If you have a good-looking face, you can imagine the ubiquitous strength and coolness; People who pursue value can imagine the sense of accomplishment of TOP 1 on the field. People who feel inferior can fantasize that they are proud and carefree.
2. Incentive method: It is stipulated that when you reach your goal, you will get the gift you have always dreamed of as a reward.
3. Hero Method: Put all the people you admire, love and care about into your mind and bury them in your heart. Imagine how happy and proud they will be when they achieve their goals, and you will be more motivated. Like me, as long as I relax a little, I just take a look at the photo of Sakuragi in my mobile phone and let it be lit up instantly.
4. Supplementary energy method: People are more likely to surrender when they are hungry, tired or depressed. So be sure to eat well, sleep soundly and be in a good mood, so that your brain and body can resist temptation.
5, concentration method: If you know which factor is the most difficult for you to resist, then concentrate all your strength and overcome this difficulty wholeheartedly.
6, borrowing method: contact those persistent people, no matter what they are insisting on. You will find yourself unconsciously infected by their willpower, as if you used the magic of Bei Ming, and the internal forces of martial arts experts were used by you for your own use.
7. Last stop: Push yourself to the wall, so the only way before you is to finish the task. For example, if you hand in your mobile phone before going to bed, you won't lose sleep because you brush your circle of friends.
Second, stall your devil-reduce the difficulty of execution.
1, elimination method: carefully examine yourself, check all the factors that can seduce you, and eliminate them from the country, so that they have no chance to seduce themselves. For example, if you can't control your mouth, don't fill your home with snacks.
2, debunking method: understand some psychological knowledge, know yourself and know yourself. Sometimes, when you see through those tricks, they lose their magic power to seduce you. For example, when you know that the aroma of bread will make you hungry, but it will never increase the taste of bread, you no longer want to eat it.
3, waiting method: in the face of temptation, let yourself wait for a while, and then wait, you will find that time will help you digest most of the temptation. For example, I have a lot of money, and I keep it because I am too lazy to buy it and put it in the shopping cart.
If you don't think these methods are enough, then I recommend you to read the book Self-control, which is a practical art of war for an angel to defeat the devil.
In fact, no matter how powerful the method is, the most important thing is that you have the determination to accomplish your goal. If you want to go, the whole world will make way for you.
The theory is always too blunt, so we will use a simple example to help you understand it better so as to apply what you have learned.
Scene:
Hero: kitten
Gender: Female
Age: 28 years old
Height: 168cm
Weight: 60kg
Features: the limbs are underdeveloped, and I don't like any sports that require skills. I like to see flowers and plants. Eating habits are basically healthy, but it is easy to eat too fast. I like watching TV series, and I am addicted to it. I won't stop until I finish watching them.
Main goal: lose weight
Step 1: Determine the appropriate goals.
The kitten wants to lose weight, and her requirement is to lose weight on the premise of ensuring health. According to the height and body mass index, the kitten calculated that her standard weight ranged from 52 kg to 65 kg. Because she has never lost weight, the kitten dare not rashly customize too big a goal, so she chose a goal of 55KG.
Step 2: Select the method.
Kittens analyze their own needs and characteristics and choose the following three ways:
Let's go: Kittens are not good at sports, but they must lose weight through exercise. So she chose to walk without skills. Because she likes trees and flowers very much, she designated the sports ground as the garden near the community. The beautiful scenery made her sports less boring.
Going to bed early: weak constitution will lead to low basal metabolic rate, which means that the basic energy consumption for maintaining life is low, so she should adjust herself to a high-power consumption constitution, and going to bed early is the best and simplest way to improve her constitution.
Eat slowly: the kitten's eating habits are already very healthy. She eats vegetables regularly. But eating fast is easy to eat too much food. So she decided to adjust the speed of eating and chew slowly. Because chewing slowly makes food easier to digest and absorb, she found that she only eats ordinary food at ordinary times and feels full.
Step 3: Break down tasks
The kitten counted the calories. If she wants to lose 5KG in 1 year, she should lose at least 0.4KG every month. She set a goal of 0.5KG per month, so that she could give herself two months to arrange emergencies. 0.5kg is about 5000 calories, which means walking 5000 steps quickly every day. At this point, the kitten has come up with her formula: losing weight 5KG= (brisk walking 5000 steps+sleeping 65438+eating three meals slowly in the afternoon)/day *365 days.
Step 4: Persist.
Kitten needle has set the following coup for itself according to its own characteristics:
1. Write a sincere letter to your family and confess that you are inevitably lazy. I hope your family will not give up in front of her and make excuses for her laziness. (Reduce the difficulty of execution)
2. Cut out the long-legged model in the magazine and stick it on the bedside. Whenever I see a female model with perfect figure, the fighting spirit of losing weight will be ignited. (Increase the motivation of execution)
3, bought a health bracelet, watching the number of days to complete the goal continuously set a new record, it will be more motivated. (Increase the motivation of execution)
4. Participate in a sports APP activity, and you can harvest the WeChat red envelope after completing the goal. (Increase the motivation of execution)
5. The kitten found that it was not difficult to stick to 5000 steps, and the hardest thing was to take the first step. In view of this weakness, she will constantly fantasize about the beautiful appearance of losing weight and increase the motivation to take the first step. (Increase the motivation of execution)
6. Uninstall all video software on computers, PADs and mobile phones, and cut off the TV. (Reduce the difficulty of execution)
7. Never buy snacks like chocolate, melon seeds and peanuts that she can't finish. (Reduce the difficulty of execution)