Name: Annie Age: 40 Marriage History: 16 Occupation: Yoga instructor.
Girls around the age of 20 have the most secrets, because that is the most abundant age of emotional life. From "The Seeds of Love" to the end, they are wholeheartedly prepared to get married and have children, and may have experienced many emotional twists and turns, each of which may constitute one or more secrets; A 30-year-old woman also has many secrets, but these secrets are mainly "historical problems" at the age of 20, such as accidentally meeting her ex-boyfriend or facing some changes in her new family life.
For a woman in her forties like me, the emotional turmoil in her youth has been much less now, and the 30-year marriage life has changed from trying to becoming a habit. At this age, most of the experiences in life have become experiences, and nothing can't be said on the table. In other words, no so-called "secret" can have an excessive impact on such a stable life.
In order to maintain a stable life, my experience is not to keep secrets as much as possible. The people you live with are carefully selected by you. You've been together for years. Is there anything you can't share with him?
40-year-old point of view: a stable life is a life without secrets. I prefer to share secrets with my husband.
Therefore, mature women don't keep many secrets in their hearts, because they know that the more you hide, the more dangerous you are, and it is better to share them actively.