I wonder if you have compared the differences in raising children at home and abroad. Chinese mothers are basically tired from birth, but foreign mothers are still very moist and beautiful. Why is this happening?
Case:
I often surf the Internet, and I got a video of two foreign mothers exercising with their babies in their arms in the PE classroom. In the video, two hot moms followed the instructor to hold the child up and down, and the child was very happy with his mother's movements. Not only did the mothers keep their bodies, but the children were also very happy.
This not only reminds me that the Beckhams go out once every time they go to the streets. When it was last popular, not only the lovely daughter Xiaoqi, but also Beckham's wife gave birth to many children, but still had a perfect figure. It's Chao Ma who goes out on the street with her child in her arms.
The above scenery is rare in China, and it is common for stars to take their children out of the street. However, the mothers of ordinary people are all tired dogs with children. Although they take care of their children all day, they still have endless housework to do.
Why is the difference so big?
The social environment at home and abroad is different. Take academic research as an example. The general environment of foreign education is that children are in a relatively relaxed state before entering university, while China attaches importance to cultural learning, which is the embodiment of children's core competitiveness.
Comparatively speaking, the workload of domestic mothers is relatively large. From taking care of children's birth to supervising their growth and learning, they have never stopped supervising their children and have no other time to themselves.
The obvious difference at home and abroad lies in the different parenting concepts of parents. In China, it is mainly adopted in captivity, and almost all children have to grow up under their noses. As long as you encounter something you can't do, you are basically looking for your mother, which is why there are "giant babies".
Foreign parents keep their children free-range and do not interfere with their growth. They only guide children when they need help, make them independent and encourage them to do what they want. Children also leave their parents' wings very early, so parents abroad have a lot of free time.
Family members are different, and the environment of family education in China is relatively simple. In children's lives, the role of father is often absent. Everything is done by my mother, and there may even be a quarrel about family education. The older generation also have different views on children's education.
The environment of family education abroad is also single, but this single situation is that both parents participate together, maintain a consistent educational concept, encourage children to be independent, and guide children to grow up.
Why are mothers in China so tired?
Self-pressure "women are weak and mothers are strong" is a true portrayal of all mothers. Mothers with children worry about everything. Most mothers love their children wholeheartedly, and children are everything to them. They think that if they don't pay attention to their children, it is a great mistake, which invisibly increases their pressure and makes them very tired.
There are many family members in China, and children are the only center of the whole family, which can be described as a collection of thousands of favorites. If the child falls, hurry to pick it up; Children don't eat, always around him; When a child cries, he gives everything. This is how we have always raised children, and our thinking concept has solidified and will not change for a while.
Since the concept of environmental protection is so, how should mothers free their hands?
Give both sides more freedom. Freedom here is not for children, but also for mothers. Learn to let go, liberate the children and liberate yourself. It is very important to teach children to learn to be independent. A child can't depend on you for life, and you can't follow him for life.
Rational use of time and life needs to catch my breath. A mother should never give up her life because she has children and a family. You know, mothers are excellent, and children will be proud of their mothers.
We should learn to make rational use of our time, take good care of our children when taking care of them, and set aside spare time for ourselves. Don't lose your life and self-worth by having children. We should exercise and go shopping.